• 9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage

  • And the Truths That Will Save It and Set It Free
  • By: Greg Smalley, Robert Paul
  • Narrated by: Lyle Blaker
  • Length: 7 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (45 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Lies about marriage are rampant in our culture and the church. They’re killing marriages. But the corresponding truths can strengthen marriages and even save the most troubled relationships. In this audiobook, marriage experts Greg Smalley and Robert Paul identify the lies, explain how they work to destroy marriages, and reveal the truths that not only can improve marriages, but rescue those that are floundering.

Hope Restored, the renowned crisis marriage program created for Focus on the Family, is the basis for the discovery and understanding of these specific lies and their impact. Dr. Greg Smalley, a general marriage expert, and Robert Paul, the therapeutic director of a program that resuscitates nearly dead marriages, bring an unusual but powerful combination of perspectives that restore hope and healing in any marriage.

9 Lies That Will Destroy Your Marriage includes several self-tests to help you assess the extent to which your own marriage has been affected by each of the nine lies.

©2020 Focus on the Family (P)2020 Tyndale House Publishers

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Not new, contradictory and biblically inaccurate

books that child saying that the individual is very important and you must be taken care of and somehow at the end comes up with the saying that you are one and you must look out for one another. as books do that claimed to represent the Bible there are several major theological issues and scriptures that are left out, conveniently supporting or taking away other truth. having read any other books on marriage I am disappointed by this one and the program that it supports.

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Lack of knowledge or an abusive partner?

Our behaviors can cross so many normal lines in a marriage to become an abuser.

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Take care of yourself first, then your spouse

Basically you need to take care of yourself first and then you’ll have enough love to give back to your spouse. This was so refreshing to hear as I was taught to always sacrifice my needs and wants for my marriage and children and was then left with no more love to give. We need to stand up for ourselves and take care of ourselves so we have lots of love ready to give. Make more time for what makes you happy in life again. Set goals! Care for yourself first so you’re ready to care for others. It makes sense!

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The Answer to working through Marriage Conflict.

This book spoke directly to me and layed out exactly what my marriage needs to be able to finally address long un-resolved issues. This would be the perfect book to read together with your spouse and do the activities together to eliminate all fighting in your marriage and learn to understand each other better as one who is on your side and not one who is against you. The Unity this book speaks about gives hope and a long lasting marriage that can thrive and produce a marriage that can overflow to other marriages who need the same help. This is a book for anyone who is married no matter how long or short you have been married for. Even though the title says 9 lies as if its 9 different things to talk about it doesnt read as of its 9 seperate issues. It reads as if its an all inclusive process of how to share your heart with your spouce and how to listen to your spouses heart in a safe and secure manner. The readers voice was perfect and I could not stop listening as it was exactlu what I needed to hear. Great Book! Life Changing! Marriage Saving!

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Practical usable advice

I could relate to the examples and the practical/usable advice on ways to recognize the lies that I have believed about marriage. I also appreciated hearing the perspectives on why theses beliefs can be damaging. I thought the suggestions for improvement were practical steps to build a better marriage

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Amazing book - Hope Restored Retreat

This is a must read book for all married couples. Christian married couples and couples that are searching for something different than society has brain washed.

I read this book prior (finished during) my wife and I’s visit to Hope restored marriage intensive retreat. The lessons, models and stories in this book combined w the intensive are simply god sent. I truly have tools, a new mindset and a née hope for my marriage.

If your marriage feels lost or hopeless or even getting that way please consider reading this book and visiting focus on the family and attending their Hope Restored marriage intensive. God bless you.