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After the Affair
- Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
- Narrated by: Janis Abrahams Spring Ph.D.
- Length: 2 hrs and 57 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Many times infidelity is the death of a relationship - but an affair doesn't have to mean the end. Realistic ways of coping with pain, restoring self-esteem, and rebuilding trust and intimacy are available for the first time on audio in this guide by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring.
Dr. Spring is one of the few clinical psychologists in the US who specializes in infidelity. She offers original and proven strategies to those seeking guidance, sympathy, and solutions, laying to rest blame and recrimination and focusing instead on recovery.
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- ABKay
- 04-08-17
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The Short version of this audio book does not justify the more complete version of this book in paper back. One really understands and gets more comprehension of "affair" and how to deal with it from the print copy. Dr. Spring systematically, logically and methodically explains all the psychological drama a couple feel and how to cope with it in her book. Unless the entire book is published in audible, I recommend reading the book than listening to audio (although it will be long, but more useful).
9 people found this helpful
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- Pat Kaufman
- 05-04-15
Very helpful book.
This book is not only great for comforting you when you struggle to understand all you are going through, but it gives helpful solutions for healing and repair. Good book.
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- Sculpturades
- 01-27-16
OW vs. Lover
I really liked this book outside of the Other Woman/Man being constantly called the "lover" Maybe it's just me, but I find it a bit maddening cause no matter how bad your situation is, that other person sought selfish gratification along with your spouse/partner over your needs. There is nothing loving about any of it.
I felt the author wasn't clear enough or loud enough in her narration but I felt the overall was good and sound advice. I am an angry hurt spouse, and I personally feel victimized by this whole issue. I don't know what will happen with my relationship at this point, but this was a good read.
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- alicia
- 08-13-15
Very helpful
I enjoyed this book as much as anyone can when it's necessary to read such things. It was insightful, explanatory, consoling, and therapeutic. I listened to it twice within the week I received it (I have a long commute). I would recommend it to anyone that finds them self suddenly in this situation. The author explains both the mental and physical results and recovery of an affair. Very objective and informative.
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- DONNA FREYMAN
- 07-11-16
This is a great book for both parties.
This is a great book for both parties.
All the books I kept finding were for the victim of the affair, but not for the one who had the affair. This book is for both.
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- Amazon Customer
- 06-06-17
Awesome insight to a moment in time that requires a great deal of valuable knowledge
This book provided me with the necessary information that I required to begin to rebuild a solid foundation for my relationship with my wife. It provided the information in a short and straight forward manner that eliminated having to spend unnecessary time to learn this material. The author has a great knowledge base and proposes an ideology to recovery based on factual and everyday life. Thank you for writing this book.
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- juan Temiquel
- 06-17-15
audio v book
although content of the book is very informational, extremely helpful and eye opening, the audio version does not include everything that is found in the book.
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- Anonymous User
- 04-19-17
A Tool toward Healing
Extremely therapeutic! A must read before making any life changing decisions. I really needed this.
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- JOANIE GRUBB
- 08-27-15
Great Book
narrator was great. very helpful and supporting. I would recommend this book if you were betrayed.
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- pAUL aCQUAVIVA
- 08-21-15
finally a complete on the nose book
this book is your bible lf you.are serious about giving your failed marriage a second chance discusses all the different phases that are experienced from living with an unfaithful straying partner
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- Diane Osei-Loven
- 01-11-18
Insightful
Very good book, for anyone struggling to make sense of an affair and its impact on the primal couple.
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- Dave J.
- 10-06-20
Absolute Tripe
The author/narrator might be the most boring woman in the world, and the content was complete trash. Nothing useful, and mostly unhelpful in fact!
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- Amazon Customer
- 03-25-19
Audio Quality
While the content was valuable, the audio quality is not up to the level I've come to expect from Audible