• All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep

  • Hope - and Hard Pills to Swallow - About Fighting for Black Lives
  • By: Andre Henry
  • Narrated by: Andre Henry
  • Length: 6 hrs and 52 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (108 ratings)

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A leading voice for social justice reveals how he stopped arguing with White people who deny the ongoing legacy of racism - and offers a proven path forward for Black people and people of color based on the history of nonviolent struggle.

“A moving personal journey that lends practical insight for expanding and strengthening the global antiracist movement.” (Patrisse Khan-Cullors, co-founder of Black Lives Matter, best-selling author of When They Call You a Terrorist)

When the rallying cry “Black Lives Matter” was heard across the world in 2013, Andre Henry was one of the millions for whom the movement caused a political awakening and a rupture in some of his closest relationships with White people. As he began using his artistic gifts to share his experiences and perspective, Henry was aggrieved to discover that many White Americans - people he called friends and family - were more interested in debating whether racism existed or whether Henry was being polite enough in the way he used his voice.

In this personal and thought-provoking book, Henry explores how the historical divides between Black people and non-Black people are expressed through our most mundane interactions, and why this struggle won’t be resolved through civil discourse, diversity hires, interracial relationships, or education. What we need is a revolution, one that moves beyond symbolic progress to disrupt systems of racial violence and inequality in tangible, creative ways.

Sharing stories from his own path to activism - from studying at seminary to becoming a student of nonviolent social change, from working as a praise leader to singing about social justice - and connecting those experiences to lessons from successful nonviolent struggles in America and around the world, Andre Henry calls on Black people and people of color to divest from whiteness and its false promises, trust what their lived experiences tell them, and practice hope as a discipline as they work for lasting change.

©2022 Andre Henry (P)2022 Random House Audio

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POIGNANT AND RELEVANT

I could not stop listening. Each chapter opens up with a connection that segues into the deep evil of White Supremacy. Our unconscious existence marching to a drumbeat that leads to no glory in the end, but for the beat maker.

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I felt all of this

Loved this book. It described my journey and gave me insight. I'm so thankful the author shared his journey. one thing left me puzzled...what happened with Amber?

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Well written great referances

There is a lot to learn from for everyone will being true to the intended audience.

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I binge listened.

This is one of the best books I’ve read on anti-racism in the last few years, and I’m so grateful that Andre read it himself. On every topic covered, he jumps right to the core of the matter and states it so succinctly and insightfully that I had to hit “back 30 seconds” multiple times to digest what I just heard. It’s clear that this could have been a book twice as long, but he packs it all into a condensed space without making it feel rushed. The footnotes graciously tell us where to find expanded ideas along the way, and I have three more books in my reading queue as a result.

I’m grateful for this book.

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Refreshing…

As a non-Black POC, I wish I had this book in seminary. There were so many times I couldn’t say what I wanted to say because I was surrounded by almost no one except white people. And even the left-leaning seminarians I found still clammed up when I started to talk about things I’ve experienced.

There were several points in listening to his words where I teared up because he said something that validated an experience that I had been gas-lighted into believing didn’t actually happen. “Refreshing” is an understatement. For someone drowning in the ocean, a life-saver isn’t refreshing. This book is like a life boat in this sea of whiteness.

Read it. And then read it again. “Know better, do better.”

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Heartbreaking but hopeful

I can’t put into words how much this book has impacted me. Knowing Andre from college and loving his music, I thought, would make me more ready for all I was about to hear. I thought wrong. So much truth, wrapped in so much common sense and genuine memoir. I know it’s not written *to* or *for* white people, but as an aspiring member of at least the “movable middle,” there is so much equipping truth as well as inspiring thought in this book. Please read it.

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Loved it!

"Who taught us to to treat our ancestors as strangers?" My Mother just passed and now I know not to put her "away."

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Phenomenal “subversive liturgy”

Preach, brother; preach! So grateful for this book. I literally couldn’t put it down. So worth reading. Thank you, Andre, for sharing your story through your prophetic voice.

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Don’t let the title scare you

This book is NOT about a skin color as much as a way of living/viewing a shared humanity. I recommend this to everybody who wants a better world.

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Highly recommended

Andre writes with a pen dipped with ink within the souls of Black folks. I tore through this book within a week. Since reading, I take every opportunity to recommend it to my white friends.

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Inspiring!

This book was everything I needed to read.

It reinforced the ideas I've been having and actions I've taken towards leaving some very toxic relationships behind.