• Asking for It

  • The Alarming Rise of Rape Culture - and What We Can Do About It
  • By: Kate Harding
  • Narrated by: Erin Bennett
  • Length: 8 hrs and 55 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (367 ratings)

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By: Kate Harding
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From Congressman Todd Akin's "legitimate rape" gaffe to the high school rapists of Steubenville, Ohio, to the furor at Vanderbilt, sexual violence has been so prominent in recent years that the feminist term "rape culture" has finally entered the mainstream. But what exactly is it? And how do we change it?

In Asking for It, Kate Harding answers those questions in the same blunt, no-nonsense voice that has made her a powerhouse feminist blogger. Combining in-depth research with practical knowledge, Asking for It makes the case that 21st-century America - where it's estimated that out of every 100 rapes only five result in felony convictions - supports rapists more effectively than victims. Harding offers ideas and suggestions for addressing how we as a culture can take rape much more seriously without compromising the rights of the accused.

©2015 Kate Harding (P)2015 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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Clear, concise, and thought provoking.

Kate Harding has laid out clearly what women go through. If you read the book you will get the point of view of the victims in a very well presented manner. The narrator was easy to listen to, had pleasant voice, and it seemed as though I was hearing the voice of the writer. Definitely worth the listen if you have any women in your life that you love. I felt this book presented thoughts that many women/victims have, but it voiced them for us in a fearless way.

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The most important book I've read all year!

I loved the message of
this book. It opened my eyes to situations I hadn't considered. This is a must read for all; teens on up.

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READ!!

Anyone, everyone, of all ages, genders, races and classes MUST read or listen to this book. It will BLOW YOUR MIND!!

It will break your heart, make you laugh out loud at Harding's witty remarks and explanations. She doesn't hold back at all her writing so modern, daring and brave. The narrator, too, was WONDERFUL.

I laughed, I cried, I want to share this with everyone I know. It's effing brilliant!!

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powerful

This is an excellent critique of contemporary western culture's general interpretation of rape. the author is particularly adroit at deconstructing the myths that form our notions of what constitutes rape. she balances intellectual analysis with irreverent sarcasm to great effect. I do, however, wish there had been a deeper/broader treatment of the a priori relationship dynamics between rapist and victim, or at least an examination of the contextual and psychological details involved. this kind of inclusion could help readers understand some of the circumstantial nuances and individual assumptions that take place within specific rape/victim contexts. there is a continuum, for instance, between flirtation, arousal, and consent that is often inconsistent. complicated by the conflict between cultural norms, personal values, and physical desires, sexual behavior is often difficult to understand and interpret. these are the unexplored moments that feed the myth cycle and result in victims feeling guilty & rapists feeling wrongly accused. although the author does discuss these ideas, the topic could use deeper analysis. perhaps in another book?

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Such an important book on an important topic

Would you listen to Asking for It again? Why?

I already have. It's one of those that when I got to the end I started over again.

What was the most compelling aspect of this narrative?

As a lifelong feminist I am no stranger to the concept of rape culture. However, this book brought sharply into focus the current incarnation of systemic rape culture - how our institutions around law enforcement, professional sports, education, and media support and propagate rape culture. I appreciate the author's stated focus on staying away from telling too many individual stories of rape (important though that may be) except for those that illustrate a point she is making. In our hyper-connected world, it is extremely important that we look critically at how our institutions help create and propagate rape culture. And I'm also so glad she ended with what should be giving us hope that now that we've started exposing rape culture we can find a way to limit it.

What does Erin Bennett bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

Erin Bennett expertly handles the author's wit and humor. This can be some pretty horrifying concepts to hear about, and the levity provided by the author's wit is very helpful in getting through all of it without feeling overwhelmed.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

I suppose "all of them" is not a useful answer. I suppose the most devastating part of the book is the statistical discussion of law enforcement officers attitudes towards those that report rape.

Any additional comments?

Anyone who is a potential victim of rape (also know as "everyone") or knows someone who could be a potential victim of rape (everyone, again) should read this book.

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Rape Culture Is Still Entrenched

The author reports on various cases of sexual assault in recent news. Sadly, American culture continues to denigrate & blame victims for "asking for it" by their choice of clothes, alcoholic consumption, the places they go, their physical existence as females. Rape is a criminal act whether perpetrated by a spouse or stranger. There is no mitigation except that dominant culture continues to accept the notions that "boys will be boys," that husbands own their wives, that "no means yes," that "he said, she said" is zero sum, that employers or teachers who have power can demand sex, etc. As long as we continue to wink & pretend that aggressive, violent, non-consensual sexual assault is "normal" behavior, rape culture will remain entrenched. We need accurate sex education in the schools & in the public square to teach people to respect sexual boundaries. The hypocrisy of religious organizations that denies sexuality continues to feed into rape culture. The author is pessimistic but encourages victims & their supporters to speak up, prosecute rapists, publicize the issues, demand legislation to protect women & penalize rapists. Men & teenaged boys should read this book.

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Nailed It

It's books like these that make me feel hopeful that justice will finally be served for people like me who have been victims of the "rape culture" that surrounds us.

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A must listen

This was a wonderful book. It's smart, incisive, and funny. A real must read for a better understanding of the world we live in. It would also be great paired with Missoula.

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Very Informative

This book opened my eyes and showed me the society that we live in. As a whole we are all to blame for adding into the culture and creating it. Fantastic listen.

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understanding rape culture, 101 level

Concise, accessible, with concrete examples and tools. Kate Harding sheds light on how systemic rape culture affects our everyday lives, and how we can push back.

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