• Avoidant Attachment

  • Why Is Your Partner Cold and Detached in Your Relationship? Improve Intimacy, Emotional Connection and Understand Why Your Dismissive Partner Behaves the Way They Do
  • By: David Lawson PhD
  • Narrated by: Russell Newton
  • Length: 3 hrs and 2 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (86 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Does your partner experience their relationship with you through a certain detachment?

Do you feel coldness and distance within the relationship that is difficult to explain?

Do you strive to grow your relationship, but have been stuck in the same spot for months or even years?

A partner with an avoidant attachment style of emotion can build walls and create distances in any couple relationship and can show strict communication limits and undermine a romantic relationship. The detached attitude of the avoidant attachment personality can be frustrating for a partner, who will experience feelings of uselessness and/or neglect, even to the point of feeling completely abandoned.

Those who in a relationship with an avoidant partner can, justifiably, take a few steps back and question the entire relationship.

I recommend that you listen to this book if your partner:

  • Has a shy, detached, elusive personality or seems impervious to love and emotions.
  • Struggles to think as a couple and to build a sense of "us".
  • Obstructs, or deviates from any attempt to communicate your hurt feelings. 
  • Cannot - or will not - accept help from others.
  • Shows boundless love for a pet but can be cool and aloof with you.
  • Regards any request for intimacy from you as pressurising.
  • Shows difficulties in living the sexual life of a couple in a natural way, sometimes even avoiding intimacy in their relationships.
  • Is not aware of these dynamics, so can come to question love, to the point of thinking that they are a difficult person.

If you do not intervene soon, those in a couple relationship with an avoidant person will end up having to settle for a relationship that consists of distances, until the relationship eventually fragments. Everything you have built together will have been in vain.

Understanding the wounds of attachment is the best gift you can give to your relationship, and grow and nurture intimacy.

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©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2021 David Lawson, PhD

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Good for parents or family therapists

I was surprised at how much of this book's focus is for parents trying to help with their child's attachment issues.

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Good Book

This book will help listener pay closer attention to the relational curriculum that has formed them. As a somewhat seemingly superficial aside, part of the book's charm is its format, layout, font, and illustrations - each of which come in second behind its good content - but nonetheless, make the book both easy and appealing.

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Not especially helpful

I found the information in this book to be of marginal value. it can be described as something akin to what you would get in a survey class in a university. Attachment styles are described at a high level. Suggested coping strategies are generally not given a lot of detail. In contrast to this, it seemed like more detail was given in the section on getting out of (or escaping from) a toxic relationship.

Perhaps this book might serve as a good introduction to the ideas of attachment theory to someone unfamiliar with the subject.

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Great Trauma Resource

Great resource for trauma techniques to expand your repertoire! Thanks to author for giving us a wonderful book.

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Love it!!

This is a great book. Tons of good information and straight forward interventions. There's refresher stuff from grad school but also new information. I am SUPER glad I listen this book.

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This book is a gentle teacher for our clients

This is a great tool for therapists working with clients who need support with attachment struggles. Many of the ideas are practical however to have the tools assembled when I need a resource at the tip of my fingers, it helps a lot.

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Every topics are very clear

An excellent resource for all therapists. There are lot's of information included this book. Each and every topics are very clear.

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This is awesome book

I stumbled upon this book while researching attachment theory workbooks and pre-ordered it immediately. I was SO happy with what arrived! Sleek cover, insightful content, and the exercises are AWESOME.

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Great Book

I am very impressed with this book and will use it personally and professionally in my own couples therapy practice. This author did an amazing job and I hope this resource gets all the positive praise and attention that it deserves.

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Helpful Audiobook

I am so impressed with this workbook - what a gem. This book breaks down attachment theory into pragmatic language and examples and has worthwhile scales and tools for assessment and really facilitates deep understanding and change for healthier personal functioning and relational dynamics.