Wonderful characters

As always, Anne Tyler delivers an interesting story with wonderful, quirky characters. She shows life as it is lived--full of self-doubt, unintentional side-trips and lots of ups and downs. You leave an Anne Tyler book, though, realizing that ordinary lives can be extraordinary if people live consciously. Don't read it for the plot (though that is great, too)--read it for the characters.

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Excellent, Interesting Context

This has been one of my most favorite Audible fictional titles. Who of us hasn't woken up sometime wondering--How did I get here? What am I doing? One decision 20-30-40 years ago from some dumb teenager who didn't have a clue---and here I am. I know some call it mid-life crisis.
This was interesting, thought-provoking, while remaining entertaining and a good read. Perhaps not quite as good as Saint Maybe but a close second.
For those who have started this book keep listening--the old man's comments near the end are worth the whole jouney in themselves!

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Our true selves are never known

I very rarely ever re-listen to a fiction book. My only exception so far have been this book and another Anne Tyler book, "The Accidental Tourist".

Really good fiction makes one see beyond the plot and allows one to feel the meaning of a universal truth. Everyone needs to understand fiction for themselves, but I know why I like this book so much. The author understands how we get our purpose in life and that (at least for me) that the structure of the world is in place before we enter it and we have to accept that structure.

Our true selves are never known (that's a line form the book). We are thrown into the world and for us to make sense of our understanding about our own understanding we must accept our presence-at-hand and make sense of our worldliness (purpose) by realizing that our purpose comes about by understanding the whole by looking at the pieces we interact with.

Or perhaps I'm just reading something into the story the author never intended. Regardless, the book can be an entertaining listen.

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I was disappointed

I was looking forward to some conclusion, some respect for the character of Rebecca. I never leave reviews but I'm just coming away from this sad.

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Really Great 'Slice of Life' Story

Enjoyed the story and the narration. Definitely would recommend this. Ann Tyler at her best.

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Reader was fantastic, the story itself is lacking

The narrator was fantastic. The story is terrible. It’s written like a book from the mid 1800’s but it turned out to be set in 1999! It’s about a whiney 50 year old who hates her life that she created. Generally a boring, whiney, and occasionally racist book.

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Unusual story, great read

What did you love best about Back When We Were Grownups?

A non-traditional plot with a complicated family that Tyler somehow made interesting and diverse.

What about Blair Brown’s performance did you like?

Brown gets nuances in her acting and narration - she puts the irony where it belongs; stands back when she should.

If you could rename Back When We Were Grownups, what would you call it?

I don't know, but this wouldn't be the title.

Any additional comments?

Tyler is a master and this book so fresh and unusual - loved it.

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Mid-life crisis

This is just a story about a woman having a mid-life crisis. Nothing dramatic ever happens as she works her way through it. Somehow it manages to be entertaining probably because of the colorful charaters.

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Depressing

I had hoped this 50 something character would bring me hope. Hope that life over 50 is not all down hill but it did not. She was pathetic from Start to finish. She treated people badly and rarely ever spoke up for herself. Sorry I put the time and credit into it.

An unfortunate disappointment

I wanted badly to be drawn in, but it simply didn't happen. I kept an open mind, and listened even when I began to feel the story was interminable. So, yes, I saw it through to the end, but only because I was hoping for a big realization, or ...something. But despite a twinge of identification with the central character's declaration of having not lived the life she was intended to have lived, I was never engaged, and I could not very much identify with Rebecca . I did not expect an optomistic novel, but I did have expectations of something a bit more insightful, and much less hopeless. I was further put off by the drab characteriztion of all the children and granchildren. None were fully fleshed out, but only provided to the reader as partial justification for Rebecca's discontent.

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