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Publisher's Summary

Yes, you CAN say no to your child and still be a loving parent. Discover how boundaries make parenting better today!

What the award-winning, best-selling Boundaries has done for adult relationships, Boundaries with Kids will do for you and your children. Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend provide the help and guidance you need for raising your kids to take responsibility for their actions, attitudes, and emotions.

With wisdom and empathy, they take you through the ins and outs of instilling the kind of character in your children that will help them lead balanced, productive, and fulfilling adult lives. Learn how to:

  • set limits and still be a loving parent
  • bring control to an out-of-control family life
  • apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting
  • define appropriate boundaries and consequences for your kids
  • . . . and much more!

Charts and tables are available in the audiobook companion PDF download.

Plus, check out Boundaries family collection of books dedicated to key areas of life - dating, marriage, raising teenagers, and leadership. Workbooks and Spanish editions are also available.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©1998 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2019 Zondervan

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Not what I would recommend as a therapist who works primarily with children

Very much based in outdated religious views of family structure and discipline. I will not be recommending this book to clients as I feel some of the information is harmful to loving parenting practices.

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I can already see a difference!

I’ve been implementing the things that I’ve learned in this book and have seen a difference in my relationship with my kids. I will be re-listening to this throughout each year to have it fresh on my mind.

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Eye opening and revealing book

Great step by step way to guide you through the path of being loving and firm with your kid. Made a big difference in the way I conceive and apply limits.

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Great concepts, voice is distracting

I feel like the concepts are very helpful but the narrator’s voice is robotic, fast, and distracting. Slowing the tempo down makes it almost as distracting and I can’t focus on the content. I’ll be eventually buying the physical book.

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Great book for all parents

I loved this book. Boundaries is something that isn't always talked about. This book shows a healthy approach to boundaries, and how using them correctly can really help with parenting.

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Great Biblical references. On Point!

I am so appreciative of Cloud's stance, taken directly from the Bible. It's a really helpful book. Cloud does a great job of not only addressing a great deal of parental struggles, but also states ways to address them. Although painful, he presents the view that at least some of the challenges arise as a result of parents themselves lacking boundaries. I will listen to this audio book again and purchase the written version as well to have on hand for reference.

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I loved this book

I definitely recommend it and will recommend to everyone that works with kids or has kids!!!!

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Imperative

As an adult who has struggled with boundaries all my life, and recognizing that many others do as well, I think this book is imperative for parents and grandparents to read and stop the cycle of poor or no boundaries. When I decided to become a parent, I knew I wanted to follow a lot of these concepts, and this book provides a road map for that.

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  • 09-20-22

Half Psychology and half Religion.

I will give the overall book a 2.5 out of 5. The portion of the book which addressed kids, boundaries and psychology was great. The constant discussion of the Bible and God was completely unnecessary and off putting.

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informative and freeing

Simple principles once heard, but so hard to implement. so thankful for this resource to figure out the HOW and WHY in parenting children with good boundaries.

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  • 09-09-22

Practical, insightful and applicable

This book covers every base almost possible when dealing with boundaries with kids. The helpful scenarios made it easily relatable and there were a plentitude of practical ideas to implement. A wonderful read which I will listen to over and over so that I am sure to succeed with my teen!

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  • 03-16-22

fantastic and very helpful

this book is full of Gods given wisdom. I wish I knew about this book earlier; before I had my children... but it's never too late& now we are applying this knowledge to our children. it actually helps us to learn about ourselves too. with Gods love and Grace, our whole household is being perfected to the Glory of the Lord!

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  • Eve
  • 09-09-19

Great book on parenting and boundaries

I was drawn to this book because I have a 5 year old whose behaviour has become somewhat difficult (okay, *really* difficult). Some of his behaviours are developmentally normal for 4/5 year olds but nonetheless seriously challenging - hence my purchase of this book.

What I really like about this book is that the authors give clear explanations, clear examples and explain how to generalise these skills with other challenging behaviours. The skills taught can be applied to a child of any age - probably from about 3 or 4 and older. I also like that the book asks the reader to reflect on their own behaviour and own sense of boundaries as we don’t live in a vacuum. Before I’d even finished the book I found myself putting boundaries in place both with myself and my son. Much to my surprise, I actually started to see some change - so, to the authors: thank you.

Although I didn’t realise this when I purchased the book, I do like that the authors wrote from a religious perspective and included God, rather than a wholly secular point of view. There was a lot of referencing the Bible (especially New Testament verses) but it was relevant and not ‘preachy’.

This book is definitely more ‘tough love’ but with a sprinkle of empathy. It’s definitely not an advocate for helicopter parenting, tiger parenting or attachment parenting.

The narrator is also easy to listen to and engaging - a real bonus.

A few things I didn’t like about the book: firstly, the referencing on at least two occasions to spanking/hiding. Say no more. Secondly, the fact that sometimes childhood behaviours are related to trauma and other underlying clinical issues were not mentioned until about half way through the book. As a psychologist I already knew this, but it might not be so clear to those outside the profession. I think this should’ve been mentioned at the beginning too as a caveat. Lastly, I found the last chapter which briefly talks about single parents to be almost shaming. Yes, it was God’s plan that children be raised in two parent households, but being an imperfect world, it’s not always the way due to death, violence, abuse or abandonment. A single validating and empathic sentence like that would’ve changed the tone of that section.

Overall, I would recommend this book. It’s made me look at myself as well as looking at different ways to interpret my son’s developmentally appropriate behaviour (and recognise what might not be developmentally appropriate and related to his trauma and I need to approach it differently). It’s given me confidence to parent with boundaries and a lot of empathy. Recommended!

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  • 07-14-20

great book

fabulous book, a must for all parents of children of various ages. The Christian content did not bother me in fact did make sense to me.