• Codependency

  • Stop Controlling Others and Boost Your Self-Esteem. How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Gaslight Effect, Save Relationships Affected by Addiction, Abuse, Trauma or Toxic Shaming
  • By: Dr Keith Sam
  • Narrated by: Leigh Ann Haga
  • Length: 3 hrs and 52 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (31 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Fifteen years ago, I was in the midst of a codependent relationship, although at that time I had no idea that what we were doing had a name. For years we followed the typical pattern of codependent behavior, caught between one emotional disaster and the next, until one day I decided that something had to change. Through the next decade and a half, I learnt much about this "dance" that I had been doing with my former partner, and how destructive and damaging it had been for the both of us. Through this audiobook I hope to impart the lessons I learnt, the experiences I had, and the strength I found to move through these times and re-build my life.

  • In this audiobook you will discover the meaning of codependency, how to recognize the signs of codependent relationship, and how to free yourself from its destructive clutches. I have included pertinent information designed to help you recognize the behaviors displayed by codependents, and techniques that you can implement immediately, to help you end a codependent relationship in a healthy and safe way.
  • Once you have broken free of codependency, there is a section on healing after a codependent relationship and how to prevent a slide back into old behavior, and another on rebuilding your emotional health from the ground up; and when you feel ready to enter into a new relationship, I have included some helpful tips to guide you through the process. Codependency is in fact a relationship of two-halves. One cannot be codependent alone. To be a codependent you must have an opposite and opposing role. While one person plays the role of the fixer or pleaser in the relationship, the other person acts out the part of taker or controller. A common example of this is where one partner is emotionally or physically abusive (the controller), and the other becomes "used to" the behavior and learns not to challenge it (the pleaser).
  • In a codependent relationship one person encourages his partner’s addiction, under developed mental health, low achievement, irresponsibility, or immaturity. It is a dysfunctional and highly unhealthy dependence on another person for approval.
  • Codependents are overpowered by a strong misconception that one’s sense of self-worth originates from others. Codependency not just prevents you from enjoying healthy, balanced, and mutually fulfilling relationships, but also destroys your sense of self-worth, increasing the likelihood of mental disorders, and inhibiting your ability to lead a rewarding life.
  • There is some confusion and vagueness when it comes to defining codependency. It is a complex psychological concept, which has multiple definitions and aspects. The dictionary states that codependency is an excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one with an illness or addiction, who requires support.
  • In this audiobook, you will learn more about:
  1. What is codependency?
  2. Symptoms of codependency
  3. Crossing de-nile to recovery
  4. So, are you codependent?
  5. Getting started in recovery
  6. What made you codependent?
  7. Healing your wounds - freeing your self
  8. Welcome to the real you
  9. Building self-esteem and self-love
  10. Finding pleasure
  11. Letting go and non-attachment
  12. Speaking up
  13. Relating to your family, friends, and lovers
  14. Making relationships work
  15. Following your bliss
  16. The people-pleaser
  17. Being assertive
  18. The essential dictionary to understanding narcissistic abuse
  19. Narcissistic abuse
  20. Have a love affair with yourself?

And more!

©2020 Dr. Keith Sam (P)2020 Dr. Keith Sam

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A comprehensive audio guide

I had no idea I was codependent until I listened to this audiobook. This opened my eyes to a lot of signs of codependency that I thought was innocent and didn’t even think of.

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Difficult to listen to

I found the way the content was written made it difficult to follow. I found myself going back multiple times to try and understand the author and the narrator. The content itself is good I guess, but I can barely get past chapter 3. sorry, I'm returning this.

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This audible is rousing and instructive

I was very very impressed with the wealth of information! I truly feel like I have an action plan now! Thank you for putting so much time and effort into the descriptions and actionable steps. It was exactly what I needed!

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This audible brought awesome achievements

Can't say enough good things about the narrator. The first chapter seemed like it was just listing what was to come which seemed unnecessary. The rest of the audiobook was amazing and I will be listening again and again.

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A mind changeable audible

The approach on how to free someone from an abusive, toxic and codependent relationship is realistic and applies to almost everyone. The exercises are reasonable. When I listen to this audiobook, I hear only positive solutions.

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Extremely Prescribed Audible

I found the audiobook relatable to every relationship you could have from a neighbor, co-worker, to a loved one. It made me look at my interaction with people differently.

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A must listen audio book for everyone!

A must listen for people that codependency may be an issue. For mental health workers and for people that will do anything for anyone anytime and seem not to be appreciated for their efforts.

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This audiobook gives ultimate guide for all

The finding a balance between intimacy and non attachment is probably .the Hidden Gaslight Effect,some of the best-hitting relationship .

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I would recommend this guide to anyone.

This was a perfect guide for those people who need this kind of information.The introduces a concept how to overcome from narcissistic and control emotions.

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I like this audiobook so much

This audio book opened my eyes and gave language, How to Spot and Survive ,to what I've been feeling when it came to my romantic relationships.

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  • Hollie
  • 08-29-20

Not bad, good tips and overview

If you can get over the narrator's annoying voice - which was hard for me to do - the content gives a good overview of codependency and some interesting insight into narcissistic people and their dynamic with codependency relationships. Overall, not bad, but there are better narrated books out there.

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  • Jessie Leon
  • 03-17-20

Strong Codependency on this audio-book!!

It is great listening. Homework to break unhelpful loops, to make healthy lifestyle processes. Listen simple and enjoyable. I would recommend the audio-book.

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