• Find Your People

  • Building Deep Community in a Lonely World
  • By: Jennie Allen
  • Narrated by: Jennie Allen
  • Length: 5 hrs and 45 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (933 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The author of Get Out of Your Head offers practical solutions for creating true community, the kind that’s crucial to our mental and spiritual health.

“My dear friend Jennie Allen shows us how to make true emotional connections with the right people so that our authentic relationships can be healthy for all.”—Lysa TerKeurst, author of It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way

In a world that’s both more connected and more isolating than ever before, we’re often tempted to do life alone, whether because we’re so busy or because relationships feel risky and hard. But science confirms that consistent, meaningful connection with others has a powerful impact on our well-being. We are meant to live known and loved. But so many are hiding behind emotional walls that we’re experiencing an epidemic of loneliness.

In Find Your People, bestselling author Jennie Allen draws on fascinating insights from science and history, timeless biblical truth, and vulnerable stories from her own life to help you: 

• overcome the barriers to making new friends and learn to initiate with easy-to-follow steps

• find simple ways to press through awkward to get to authentic in conversations

• understand how conflict can strengthen relationships rather than destroy them

• identify the type of friend you are and the types of friends you need

• learn the five practical ingredients you need to have the type of friends you’ve always longed for

You were created to play, engage, adventure, and explore—with others. In Find Your People, you’ll discover exactly how to dive into the deep end and experience the full wonder of community. Because while the ache of loneliness is real, it doesn’t have to be your reality. 

©2022 Jennie Allen (P)2022 Random House Audio

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It’s religious

It starts out fine but then it’s a very scripture heavy book. No thanks, maybe I didn’t read the summary all the way through.

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Very Disappointing

So much talk about god. Listening to this made me feel like I was sitting through a church service. Not at all what I was hoping for. Very disappointing.

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Should be Labeled as Faith-Based

There was too much reliance on religion for me to get involved in the narrative.

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Christian

If you are a fundamentalist Christian who believes in the literal truth of the Bible, this book will likely resonate with you. If you are not, I recommend skipping this book.

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"We Aren't Supposed to be This Lonely!"

This book came at the perfect time in my life. I opened these pages 1 year after moving across the country with my husband and four kiddos. The months leading up to our move were lonely, thanks to Covid-19, but the thought of making new friends from scratch was terrifying. After a few months, even though I'd made some friends, loneliness had crept in.
Find Your People has opened up my eyes to news way to build community and foster DEEP relationship. This book has allowed me to see things in my life that need to change, to welcome friends in that are polar opposites to me, and has provided ways to be intentional about building community. In true Jennie Allen fashion, FYP is raw and honest. After reading this book, I'm challenged to be bold and courageous and to go out and cultivate relationships I've been trying to build, to pour into other women and to be intentional with the people God has placed in my life.
Read this book and go out and "find your people", because we were never meant to do this thing called life alone!

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WOW! This book is more than inspiring, it’s actionable.

I received an advance copy of FYP and knew instantly that if I applied these truths, it would change my relationships and build deep connections because God created us for community.

In Part 1, Jennie unpacks what our hearts crave and why finding your people is so critical.

Love this from Chapter 2, “We weren’t just built for community; we were built because of it.” And this quote, “I want us to trade lonely and isolated lives that experience brief burst of connectedness for intimately connected lives that experience only brief intervals of feeling alone.”

If you are someone who has a lot of surface level connections and really wants to dive deeper with a selected few and build your tribe, then this book is for you!

Jennie outlines how to find your people on easy to follow steps.

Jennie Allen has done it again!

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Couldn’t relate

Mid twenties lady with a bs in liberal arts deals with her avoidant attachment style and struggles with compartmentalizing and emotional unavailability. Well written, just tired, and very much from one side of the coin. It’s not finding your people. Its her story of finally letting in people she’s lucky enough to already have she was simply pushing away. Good for her. if you are surrounded by good people and you struggle with feeling connected to them-this is for you. However, if you are a stable emotionally intelligent adult -this is not for you.

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Unrealistic Ideas

Jennie Allen presents lovely ideas - in theory - but they are simply that. Ideas. Totally impracticable outside of the perfect life circumstances. There are some beautiful and insightful tidbits in this book but overall it felt like a list of to-dos that felt, to be honest, inauthentic.

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Read this book if you desire community

This book was great. It was both encouraging and convicting. Great community can be achieved but not without effort and risk. I love that Jennie Allen narrates her own book!

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One’s personal diary

This book was a diary of one person. It spoke a lot of religion and personal experiences that have nothing to do with finding your people. Waste of time!

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  • 08-18-22

Highly recommended

Excellent book on how relationships were intended to be
Brilliantly delivered by Jennie. Good read.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-14-22

Thank you Jesus for Jennie

God has placed me somewhere where I knew no one and now I feel like I know everyone and this book could not have come at a better time. It’s encouraged me towards greater connection with others. I love how your heart shines through in this book and that you read it to us. Thank you for your sacrifice to birth this baby. ❤️

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  • Mrs. Claire Ham
  • 03-15-22

Author's main message "Find God" not useful.

Very preachy, not practical advice about finding/developing networks. Irritating to be told how God has created us, if only that were true.

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  • 05-02-22

Don't hesitate to read this !

Couldn't stop listening, and restarted straight away. Vulnerable, practical, insightful and necessary! READ IT!

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