• Getting Over a Breakup

  • 75 Easy Steps to Get Over a Breakup
  • By: Kate Anderson
  • Narrated by: Rebekah Amber Clark
  • Length: 1 hr and 49 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (462 ratings)

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A breakup is not the end of the world - overcome the feeling fast and move on with life!

New York Times best-selling author Kate Anderson brings you her latest book to help those suffering the pain of a separation. Getting Over a Breakup contains 75 easy to follow steps, broken into three sections, to help you get over the pain and anguish of a breakup and to move on with your life.

Here's a preview of what you'll learn:

  • Dealing with social media, friends, and family
  • Huge mistakes to avoid!
  • Getting through the moments of pain and anguish
  • Methods for remembering the good times but never forgetting the bad times
  • Dealing with being alone
  • The process for moving on with life
  • And much, much more....

©2016 Kate Anderson Publishing (P)2016 Kate Anderson Publishing

Featured Article: Audiobooks to Get You Through a Breakup


The end of a relationship is one of the most emotionally devastating things a person can go through, whether it’s on mutual, amicable terms or not. It’s no secret why there are millions of songs, poems, and films about breakups—heartbreak, sadly, seems to be a shared human experience. But since it’s so universal, that means there’s no shortage of people to turn to for help and advice on how to weather the worst of it all. These listens offer help.

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Extremely helpful advice.

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would recommend this book to anyone who's hurting from a breakup. It really lifted my mood and helped me focus on myself and my future instead of obsessing over my ex.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Getting Over a Breakup?

I found the "what not to do" advice the most helpful. It showed me that some of the things I was doing (like stalking my ex online) weren't doing me any favors. I also really liked the section about things TO do. It showed me how to take better care of myself and helped me reach out to other people when I needed support.

What did you learn from Getting Over a Breakup that you would use in your daily life?

I learned how to get past my breakup and get on with my life :)

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Getting over it.

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My breakup was horrible. I was lost, confused and incredibly hurt.
This book helped me a lot. it helped me get over it and most importantly it helped me rebuild my life.

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Made so much sense! 10/10 A++++

Where does Getting Over a Breakup rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

Top 3

What did you learn from Getting Over a Breakup that you would use in your daily life?

Be positive

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Very helpful in helping me to begin to healing process after a particularly hard breakup. I was a little afraid it would be full of really dumb or cliched advice but it really wasn’t. It gave me a fresh perspective and allowed me to start getting on with life, even if it is still painful and will take time.

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Great audiobook, highly recommended

What did you love best about Getting Over a Breakup?

This audio book will teach you not only ways to get past your breakup, but ways to rebuild your confidence and how to be happy being single. The guide is simple and easy to follow and will be useful to anyone in the pain of a breakup, but especially to those suffering from a longterm relationship breakup. It's been only 3 months since my breakup and I feel a lot better after following these steps.

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Beyond helpful!

What did you love best about Getting Over a Breakup?

About 10 months ago, I went through a terrible breakup with my partner of nearly four years, and I was devastated. I purchased 4-5 books about surviving breakups, to help me get through, and this audiobook is absolutely the best. It is an easy "read" with very well explained steps to take and get past your breakup. I've listened the audiobook twice and will probably do it again. It is appropriate for any gender or age, I highly recommend it!

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Where do broken hearts go?

What did you like best about this story?

I liked the way it gave practical tips. The solutions were very diverse and there was something for every temperament type and emotional type. The book also took the readers through what to do and importantly what NOT to do. We all grieve differently, I usually suffer in silence, brood and would generally be in a very terrible mood where it’s hard to see anything positive about myself. Now I try to release it all and keep myself occupied for long stretches. This reduces the amount of time I have available to convince myself to go stalk him on Facebook.

Have you listened to any of Rebekah Amber Clark’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

My first Rebekah Amber Clark performance. She has a very convincing tone, makes just want to keep nodding. She's great!

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Getting Over a Breakup?

An idea I would remember is one that saved me eventually from a bad relationship. Every time he called me and wanted to make up, I kept on trying to remember the reasons why the relationship didn’t work and rationalize them again. This exercise reconfirmed their validity and the futility of going back there. It just wasn’t working and I stood my ground. I’m better off for it.

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I know there are easy breakups but I’ve never been that lucky. I learnt the hard way that what is gone is gone, especially with an ex who cheated on me several times. The book was very right in saying that sometimes you just should avoid things that remind you of a painful experience till you’re able to feel better.

I was lucky enough to have good friends supporting me during the worst of my break-up. The type of friends the book refers to as “radiators”. They pretty much kept me off social media and kept me occupied when I wasn’t at work. While the book offers so many tips on dealing with a break up, what worked best for me in my experience was never losing myself in the pain and self-pity. I also deleted him and most of his friends off social media.

The book advised keeping emails, pictures and other souvenirs in a secret folder if you’re not ready to move on yet. My advice? Ctrl A + Delete, go to Recycle Bin, click Empty. Are you sure? YES!!! Then you can start your life afresh. I hope this book helps you as much as it helped me come to terms with my break-up.

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Brilliant, really helping me move on

When I split up with my partner of 3 years, I was devastated. I had literally put everything I had into that relationship. That was 6 months ago and I ended up in a psych ward after it. I was really low and even though I'd been to counselling, I just couldn't move on. I had so many issues with that relationship that needed closure, I couldn't function normally.

I'd spent the last 6 months drifting and angry, going nowhere. I tried this audiobook on a whim and didn't expect much from it if I'm honest. I was really surprised though. I made more progress in the week I listened to this book than I did in the last 6 months, including in counselling.

The author recognises the turmoil you are going through and doesn't tell you you're wrong or to just snap out of it. It's sympathetic and helpful. It's practical advice that works in real life. Convincing me of the need to forgive and let go has allowed me to live again. I'm no longer bitter and depressed. I can see potential in the future, rather than mulling over the past.

This is, and sounds like, a wise friend sitting you down and giving you excellent advice through what is a really distressing period in your life.

Give it a try and it will make a huge difference to your life. Be open to the suggestions and carry them out, don't just listen to them. Highly recommended.

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75 Steps To Coping With a BreakUp

Would you consider the audio edition of Getting Over a Breakup to be better than the print version?

Yes, I do consider this to be a significant change or more impacting version of "Getting Over a Breakup" because it is vocalized and thoroughly expressed by a narrator who can RELATE to a break-up. You can feel the emotional attachment through her pinpointing exact feelings that resonate within a relationship.

Also, her tone of voice shows that she understands the hurt, sadness,anger, resentfulness, and accusations that are prevalent in relationships. Very unbiased and frighteningly truthful feedback that needs to be recognized by more couples in my opinion.

Who was your favorite character and why?

Not really a matter of characters, but the advice given is so significant that it makes you view life in a different perspective. Dwelling on the past and bringing it up in your head or to people on social media that aren't close to you, will only escalate the situation and blow it way out of proportion. It is best to acknowledge that love is a valuable experience and it may not last forever, but enforcing POSITIVE energy into the aftermath of your relationship will promote growth.

Which character – as performed by Rebekah Amber Clark – was your favorite?

The indifference of her depiction of how an ex typically acts after a break-up. Going through a break up requires an adjustment period and while enduring it, you should have a positive outlet for your sanity. Laughing, hanging out with friends, and accepting that you need a grieving period. Everyone is different with the coping methods they use, but use what is the most suitable to you.

Each performance or action demonstrated in this audio was accurate. Very resourceful and not the typical audio.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Getting Over a Breakup?

The most important concept to apply to "Getting Over a Breakup" is your life is not over. Life is too short as it is. It's an experience and a choice that is usually more beneficial in the long run. Yes, it causes catastrophic, destructive feelings that have a short-term depression and it can alter your PERFORMANCE in everyday life to accomplish everyday tasks, but with guidance and acknowledgement you can move past it.

You need to take control of your thoughts, instead of act on emotional tangents. That is the clear and concise message this audio conveyed to me.

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Focus on the one thing in your life that was just as meaningful as your ex was before your break-up. Fuel all of your animosity and negative energy into something positive. So it makes the grieving period seem non-existent.

Do not bottle up your feelings. Express yourself to someone you can trust. No matter who you are and what you've been through, we all need HELP. We all need guidance. We all need acceptance. We all need love. You are the pioneer of your own life and the decisions you make. Anyone who tells you differently is wrong!

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Most powerful guide in the world to getting over s

This audible and book helped me see a very serious and depressing breakup situation in a more balanced light. These authors really give you the straight poop, but pepper the serious with a lighter side, that is often hard to see when you're depressed or seething with anger. The strongest and healthiest message I got from the book was to forgive your ex...it's so hard, but soooooo necessary to move on. In the end why waste another second of energy on something that wasn't working and most likely sapping you of your self esteem. This book tells you to forgive your ex for yourself because you're worth it and I agree 100%!
Also this audible is loaded with plenty of easy to digest advices which can help anyone in break up situation to come over easily.

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A light at the end of a dark tunnel for me!

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I think everyone knows that breakups are damn tough, but this book helped me so much. It helped me deal with some of the negative feelings I had been having and helped me get over feelings of loneliness and despair. No book can cure a broken heart overnight but this DID help me lots and got me through the process.

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  • 07-06-16

Extremely helpful for recovering from breakups!

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

I listened to this book all in one sitting and I've gone back and listened to it a few more times as well!

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This book was just what the doctor ordered. I'm a sensitive person who has been devastated by nearly every breakup I've ever gone through. My most recent breakup was by far the hardest to get over. But I'm so glad to say that I've finally found a book that's helped me to cope better. Before this book, I was really starting to give up on love but I feel like now, I'm actually ready to move on and try again. The tips and ideas in this book are unbeatable. I highly recommend it!

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  • Jays
  • 08-24-16

really helped me get closure, recommended

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This ACTUALLY helped me. So much better than i expected. I literally kept doing 7 of these things that I see now were holding me up from that CLOSURE I needed to move on my ex. This book shed some much needed light on my situation...and honestly exposed a few things that I hadn't realized I was doing that kept me stuck. I was just basically giving my power away.
I'm suggesting this to a couple close friends of mine. I think they're going to find themselves in these pages as well. It was an eye opener. A great help.

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  • J1982
  • 01-22-17

Helping me.

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Going thru an awful breakup right now and this book is really helping me deal with a lot of confused and hurt feelings. Nice narration on this, easy to understand and follow.

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  • W1992
  • 11-13-16

This helped me so much during a very dark time

Where does Getting Over a Breakup rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

One of my faves because it helped me so so much at a very very bad time.

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Three months ago, I went through a terrible breakup with my partner of nearly four years, and I was devastated, I thought I'd never be able to get through it. I purchased 5 books about surviving breakups, to help me get through, and this audio book turned out the best. I listened to it repeatedly as the words were so encouraging and soothing.

It was indeed my best companion all through while I was trying to heal and before I knew it I was totally back on my feet all thanks to this book. I tell anyone who feels they would never get over a break up to listen to this audio book.

It is appropriate for any gender or age, I highly recommend it to anyone going thru the horrific time of a breakup and i hope it helps u as much as it has helped me.

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  • ListenEveryday
  • 01-08-17

Feeling better, altho it is hard

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Feeling better after a breakup....sounds impossible right?! Well it is taking me a while but with the help of this book things are getting easier.

For anyone going thru this, i feel ur pain, really, but it CAN get better. This great book helped me, it may do the same for u, but don't expect a miracle overnight cure.

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  • Audioaddict
  • 11-29-16

Helpful to get over a breakup.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

I was really struggling to get over my relationship after a particularly horrible breakup (I will not bore you with the details!) and i really needed something (anything!) to help me thru the pain, especially with getting a good nights sleep and how to act in public (unfortunately i still see my ex on an almost daily basis and we share a lot of the same friends). Whilst i am not exactly smiling and leaping for joy now, i can say i am definitely a lot better after listening to this book. It doesn't feel like a typical self-help style book, it just feels like a friend giving really good advice, which is probably the best we can all hope for in this situation.

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  • Chris Wee
  • 09-19-16

Really helpful

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I can only speak from personal experience but I can say this helped me a lot. Good advice, most of what I had never heard before. It does not claim to cure heartbreak in one day but this definitely helped me a lot more than the advice i got from well meaning friends.

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  • Open Ears
  • 09-05-16

Fantastic, this really helped me loads!

Would you listen to Getting Over a Breakup again? Why?

Yes. I have listened to it 3 times so far.
Why? Because dealing with heart break is not easy. It can be very very difficult. We all need help on the journey.

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Dealt with two horrific breakups in 3 years. This book helped me so much to deal with the anguish. Did it cure everything with one listen? Of course not! But it DID really help me get on the journey to feeling better. I have listened to this book several times and it has been a life saver at times to keep me sane on the journey to getting over it.

Definitely recommending this for anyone dealing with a breakup and all the horrible feelings that go along with it.

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  • Marianne
  • 07-19-16

One step at a time helps!

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Breakups are never easy and one book will not magically cure EVERYTHING…but it will give you really good steps to alleviate some of the misery and pain. This helped me a lot, both with the initial break up (which was horrible) and for the “moving on with life” stage that follows, which is often the most difficult part. Very helpful, thank you.

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  • On The Road
  • 01-12-17

Feel better with the help of this book

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If you are going thru a breakup then i sincerely pity you as i have been there and i know how bad it feels.

I am grateful a friend recommended this book to me as it saved me at an incredibly low point in my life. So now I feel it is my duty to pass this recommendation on to you.

I hope it helps you to get over your breakup. You will feel better. Stay strong!

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  • 01-29-17

Helpful for getting over breakups

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Breakups are never ever going to be easy and will never be, with or without this book.

However, I can confidently and honestly say this book WILL help you a long. It came to me at a very dark time during a horrible breakup and was a life saver. It taught me how to deal with the whole situation and eventually get over it.

Thanks to the author.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-02-22

Helpful for my breakup

I enjoyed and appreciated how everything was laid out step by step.
Effective advice for the most part and much needed to help me deal with getting over my ex :(

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  • AudibleFan1
  • 12-18-21

Helpful break up guide

Thanks to the author for producing a book that honestly helped me loads with my breakup

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  • ListenEveryday
  • 03-22-21

Great guide to breakup

A solid, interesting, ORIGINAL guide to breakup which works - by "works" I mean, it helps. Nothing will magically get rid of the pain, but having a system like this really does help.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-03-20

awesome book !

loved it , realised I did all the wrong things post breakup but have now learnt from this experience

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  • W1992
  • 01-31-17

Things will get better.

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Breakups feel like the worst thing in the world, at times they feel almost impossible to defeat - but you can defeat them and personally i found this book very helpful in helping me along this process.