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Publisher's Summary

Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that's been tested - and proven - to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you'll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you'll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future.

©2007 The Guilford Press (P)2017 Tantor

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AudioBook needs PDF file

The book gave very good tips. I only wish that audible required PDF that noted the exercises that was referenced in the book

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Excellent Book

My husband was unfaithful for some time, and when I found out he stopped it and decided to work on our marriage. I love this book because it focuses on the hurt person and helps us get through it. I am a mental health clinician and think this book is excellent.... I have not bought the actual book to go through the questions with him....

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Best Affair Book So Far, for me...

I was betrayed. I have read many books. This one is my favorite so far.

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Definitely worth listening to

Great advice. Simple easy to follow. Definitely speaks directly to you and your spouse. Very informative.

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Great book for someone who has been cheated on and for the cheater. It’s a must read as soon as you found out about the affair.

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Needs pdf for doing the work

Some reviews say they didn’t like the stories about the infidelity because it was painful. Truth is, the only way out is through and feeling those emotions that arise when you think about what happened. I liked the examples and it helped me understand and relate. There were a lot of hard truths but I think it’s necessary for true change to happen and to heal. This book encourages you to go deep within to find out the root cause of your behavior and talks on behalf of the guilty party and the hurt party. I loved this as you can try to understand how the other partner is feeling and what they are going through.

I gave it 4 instead of 5 because it would be so very helpful if there was a pdf that can be printed to do the work along with listening to the book. It would also be helpful if the chapters were named rather than just the chapter number.

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  • 07-09-21

extremely helpful

this book was great to help understand and get over an extremely tough subject to work though, with this help I dont think I would have envisaged a positive recovery

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  • 08-02-22

The best resource

this has been better than anything else, my couples therapist included. follow this program and you will be much better off.

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  • Shaun
  • 02-26-22

insightful yet confronting

This audiobook will help with ways to deal with betrayal and how to do the work if you want to help get over the trauma it brings.

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  • Caffi
  • 06-02-21

So much good advise

Still finishing listening, but even now i want to give 5 stars.
Lots of good points where they betrayed spouse is stuck and to release the mind from obsessive behaviour and self doubt.

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  • Stef
  • 04-07-20

Very helpful

Well worth purchasing this book as it helped me at a difficult time and when I wasn’t sure how I was going to get my marriage back on track.