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The lure of the unavailable man is a mystery to many. Why is she wasting her time? But for many others, it is a deep-seated pattern. Time and again, they fall for someone who for one reason or another will never return their feelings. The object of their affection may be emotionally unavailable, married, or even pathologically cruel. The woman who routinely finds herself in this situation suffers mightily, feeling rejected, unloved, undesirable. She wonders what is wrong with her. 

With empathy and compassion, Dr. Marni Feuerman helps women see their situations clearly, understand the historical, emotional, and psychological reasons behind their actions, and most importantly, make better choices for themselves. Feuerman unpacks the cliche about not being able to control the other's behavior, only one's own, with clear exercises and action steps. 

While the emphasis is on understanding and changing one's own behavior, profiles of the reliably unreliable/unavailable are given to make "red flags" undeniable. And while the subject of unfulfilling relationships is not a happy one, Feuerman has positive messages for sufferers. Initially painful insights breed clarity and confidence. The end of a destructive relationship clears the way for a positive one. And being "in love" means not just loving, but being loved.

©2019 Marni Feuerman (P)2019 HighBridge Company

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For Woman who have affairs w/Married Men

This book's audience is for woman who date married men. I thought this was a general dating book since ghosting does happen to woman who date online. but the main audience is woman who have affairs with married men even though she respectively says unavailable men.

If you are seeking a book on how to date and you do not have affairs with married men, this is not for you.

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Not just about Ghosting gives actual dating advise

This book has already helped my dating life already. I look at things differently and I feel better about how I date now. Feels good. Originally just looked for something to soothe my fear of getting ghosted but it ended up being really helpful in dating overall. Has actual examples and suggestions.

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Awesome book!

This book was amazing! It answered many questions I’ve had for as long as I can remember. It is a must-read for anyone who is struggling to date today. It offers practical advice that is beneficial to anyone who wants to have a healthy and successful relationship.

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Better Than I Expected!

A personal experience I just went through for 3 years left me feeling without closure and explanations. Almost everything she said, I was thinking, "That's me. That's my situation.". So, thank you for the professional insight, logic, and advice on this topic of emotionally unavailable men, that I can now see for myself and hopefully pass on to others.

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pretty valid for both genders

It stung every time the author used a male pronoun. It was almost always in a negative context. If you can get past that, it raises some really valid points. Like the importance of valuing, honoring, and respecting yourself. And how it's a waste of time and energy, and a recipe for hurt, to go into a relationship with the idea of helping or fixing the other person. This will hopefully help the reader elevate his or her standards and start going after healthier relationships.

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On point!

A must read. It’s incredible when we are open to hear some of the truth things we already know(or not) about relationships. This book is a bedside book. It’s clear, and well spoken. I couldn’t be more happy! Don’t waste time in toxic relationship. I have found myself invested in one(ten years)!, and I can’t recovered those years but I could find myself back to me!

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Mostly focused on women with married men

I wanted to learn more about distinguishing men who are emotionally unavailable from those who are emotionally available. Much of the book was focused on women who were involved with married men. I did not need that kind of advice.

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Let it Go

I am about an hour into this book and I plan to continue and finish this book as part of my own healing experience . The narration is great. However, I’m disappointed in the author’s constant reference of emotionally unavailable men/married men. What this says to me, is that this is a professional who has not been able to move past some experience in their own life, so people must be categorized. If you’re married, you must be emotionally unavailable. If you are emotionally unavailable, you likely are also married. It is possible for both of these things to not be true, depending on the circumstances. I am also a professional in the mental health field and this reaction is sort of like counter transference, except the whole world can listen to it and have those feelings projected on them rather than a client in her office. Very disappointing for a clinician to have this much judgment while being in a helping profession.

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Disturbing

Beware, this book can be emotionally painful if you have ever been a victim of cheating. Much of the target audience is women who are having affairs with married men. The author seems to neglect the fact that this behavior is morally wrong and selfish. I found it offensive and maddening.

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Simple and Extremely Informative!

As a licensed therapist, I read this from two different standpoints and from both aspects the subject matter was extremely digestible and really impactful. I will definitely read again to catch more of the points and it does prompt one to want to journal about many of the points as well. Completely recommend!!!

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Insightful a situation I just went through

This made me realise that sometimes we either have to put up with a bad situation or walk away, some people are just not ready to be emotionally available. If you back them into a corner to get an explanation they will simply blame you, become angry and say that you are demanding. Know when to pull the pin and walk away. My own sense of self made me feel this is all I deserved. I deserved so much more.