• He's Not Lazy

  • Empowering Your Son to Believe in Himself
  • By: Adam Price PhD
  • Narrated by: Shawn Compton
  • Length: 6 hrs and 40 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (661 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

On the surface, capable teenage boys may look lazy. But dig a little deeper, writes child psychologist Adam Price in He's Not Lazy, and you'll often find conflicted boys who want to do well in middle and high school but are afraid to fail and so do not try. 

This audiobook can help you become an ally with your son as he discovers greater self-confidence and accepts responsibility for his future.

©2017 Adam Price (P)2018 Tantor

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Good but contradicting

The author talks about how terrible school has become especially for boys. That you need a business degree to “manage” school. I agree completely. And that boys prefrontal cortex won’t be matured until they are 26.
Basically they can’t win and knowing that they “opt out” All good makes sense
Until he then “teaches us” how to get them to do school. He missed the mark there.
They opt out because it becomes a no win situation for them - much easier for girls. They can’t talk about it because of fear of looking weak. The answer is NOT to change them but to adjust their education to fit who they really are whether it would be homeschooling, dual enrollment, change schools from the ridiculous system that is failing our kids , mostly boys.

Let them win a few and they will grow and gain confidence. Dumbing then down to “do” school seems beyond counterintuitive.
My son now goes to classes and has tutors at home. He is creative and much happier than dealing with the ridiculous busy work, 4/5 different communications from school all spamming notices. It’s like the schools have become ADHD and are scrambling to make their numbers and teaching to the test.

No wonder our teachers are burned out, kids are suicidal, have anxiety, do drugs and drink.
We have failed at our school
System and we blame the kids.

Wrong

I wish the author wouldn’t have flipped his spot on assessment to making kids be responsible for getting along with the very system that is failing them.

There are many ways to educate kids and for them to get into college if that’s even necessary!

The author needs to update his research on education- not make everyone fit into a one size fits all.


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A must read if you have a child with ADHD!

A must read if you have a child with ADHD! This book changed our lives! We no longer have the power struggles and our son is doing amazing!

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Enlightening

Raising a teenage boy is hard. Everything he said that I see my teen as, is spot on! This book helped me to understand him, his internal struggle, & his true needs... not the needs I think he has. This book may have just saved my relationship with my son, but also saved his academic future!!!

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Got boys? This will help

We’ve got 3 boys and two of them are teenagers. I found the author’s points to be extremely relevant and helpful to raising boys right now. The book led to several good discussions with my wife and a few tweaks to how we parent. Highly recommended!

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If you have a son.. this is a must

my son is 15 and this book has helped me understand boys dynamics and uniqueness.
the narrator voice was good also

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Very helpful in understanding my young teenage son

We see continually at odds with each other; me thinking he was being disrespectful and him always thinking I was on his case. I never realized that his brain and self-confidence were growing at the same time his body was changing. I have a much better understanding and this helps when I have to make on-the-fly decisions or impromptu conversations that matter.

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Very helpful

I found this book incredibly helpful. I have three sons. Youngest is 17 now and has struggled with many issues that are addressed in the book. Equally important are the challenges that he presented to me as a parent. Thank you.

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Finally! A must read for all parents, teachers, therapist, coaches and the list goes on.....

Thank you Adam Price for “that book” the road map to parenting that I couldn’t put down. I will share this book with anyone and everyone I know who has children or deals with children. Every school should have a workshop for parents with this book. So many of us struggle with parenting today and it’s heartbreaking to feel helpless. The tools are here, my husband and I now have a better plan to help our son help himself. Anyone that reads this book will feel the same.

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Great book

Wow, you need to read this book if you have a teen boy, even if you have girls , I love it, it makes you think what are you doing.

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Great book

I love the examples he offers and explainations. It helped to put things in prospective about my son. I suggested this book to a bunch of my friends.

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  • Trailerfitters Toolbox
  • 05-17-20

Excellent Guidance

I had issues with the way I was brought up and my parents had far too many expectations. I broke away from them but I was anxious for my son not to go down the same destructive path.

Society is changing to top it off navigating fatherhood becomes difficult when my son became awkward. I know my teenage years were difficult but after listening to this book the struggles made. me who I am. The advice is golden and after absorbing the information my son has the space to fail. Highly recommended for parents of teenage boys.

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  • Sabina Clark
  • 07-06-22

Truly life changing

As the mother of an extremely talented opt out, I found this book life changing. It has helped us in many ways become better parents and better people. I felt as this book was written specifically for us. Thanks so much.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-14-22

Can’t comment on the content

The narrator of this book was so dreadful that I wasn’t able to listen. It was like listening to an automated voice read the text. I’ll buy a hard copy and read it as am keen for the advice but not so keen that I was able to endure the narration.

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  • Will Jenkins
  • 08-17-22

Definitely recommend

This book has been an eye opener. More compassion is needed - for my son as well as myself. Some very interesting points of vie, explanations and examples. Easy to listen to. How I can implement some of the advice

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  • andrea
  • 11-24-20

Eye opening

Eye opening to the struggles of a boy and the pressure of today’s society,it will surely help parents become more understanding and compassionate.
I truly enjoyed this book,all parents could do with some books on teenagers .

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-07-20

Outstanding...

I was struggling. I felt like I was losing my son. I have put quite a few of the ideas into action from this book and already I am seeing a great change in both my son and myself.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-05-22

good tips

good tips for tennage boys . Found it very easy to listen to and learnt a lot

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-21-22

Parents of teenage sons

‘To create change I have to be the change’. An absolute MUST listen if you a raising sons.

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  • Gareth Stephens
  • 05-31-22

Great book

Just what I needed right now for my son who is 14. It is comforting to know he will reach his potential in his own time and compassion is the key

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-25-22

Good sound advice that challenges you

This is just what I needed as I've already started entering some power struggles and worrying about my near 12 year old son's overwhelm and loss of enthusiasm for both school and sports at his new school, where he used to be so enthusiastic. Price offers some sound and challenging advice, especially for mums like me who care and worry too much!

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  • Sarah Quinton
  • 07-30-21

Exactly what I needed to read

Great tips for parents of teenagers. My son changed around 16-17 and I have a much better understanding why and how to navigate through.

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  • youraveragewoman
  • 02-03-21

Incredible book. So much truth and value

Game changer for mine and my son's relationship! So much honest insight, told in a way that makes sense and is relatable. This book has taken so much burden off mine and my son's shoulders.