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Too short. Too weird. Too quiet. Not true. Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are.

An interactive experience, How to Be You invites you to make the audiobook your own through activities such as answering questions about how you do the things you do, and discovering patterns in your lives that may be holding you back. Through Jeffrey's own story of "growing up fabulous in a small farming town" - along with the stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race, age, and gender - you will discover that you are not alone. 

Learn to deepen your relationship with yourself, boost your self-esteem and self-worth, and find the courage to take a leap that will change your life.

©2016 Jeffrey Marsh (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Critic Reviews

“The advice Jeffrey gives is so succinct and so intimately personal that I swear, if your brain could change colors in reaction to humans, Jeffrey's words would turn your brain bright pink." (Bustle)

 “Their message is simple: Be yourself. Be happy with yourself. Be more comfortable with your differences - and embrace and enjoy them.” (Digg) 

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A must read!

Jeffrey Marsh has written an inspiring book full of wisdom, compassion, and love! I wish I had this book when I was younger, but even in my mid 30s, I have found it to be incredibly helpful and supportive. Jeffrey shares their own experiences to help the reader navigate the ups and downs of life, and the inner turmoil we all go through when we feel we don't fit in or haven't gotten it right. They provide helpful advice and insights so that we can live a life free from crippling guilt, shame, or confusion. I especially like the segments called Hero, Heroine where they bring in the example of real life people throughout history who embraced who they are despite pressure to conform to society's standards. I recommend this book to any teen who is struggling with finding themselves and loving who they are as well as any adult who is having these similar struggles as well. Jeffrey reminds us that we are good people, and that we deserve our own unconditional love!

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A hug for your soul

Jeffrey makes incredible points about change and growth in a way that makes you feel safe while inciting a desire to create your best self.

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Go ahead, get it!

I've been following Jeffrey on TikTok for a while, because of the encouragement and fearlessness that oozes from their every pore. So when I found out that Jeffrey had written and narrated a book, I got it right away. I just listened to the whole thing in one day and am looking forward to doing it again!

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Life Changing Book

I've followed Jeffrey on IG for a while for their beautiful messages, but didn't think this book was for me. But I was very wrong; it was 100% something that I needed. If you've grown up being put down, been discouraged by anyone, been told you're not enough or you're too much, or simply want to know how to better love yourself, then this book is for you!

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Sooo good.

The reading, the content...just make being alive feel better. I’ll be listening to this again without delay.

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Incredibly powerful - will listen multiple times!

Thank you, Jeffrey. Hearing this narrated in your voice was the icing on the cake.

You are brilliantly effective & relatable with your communication style. What a well-designed piece of art… I will revisit this many more times. Cheers to you!

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Inspiring, thoughtful, truthful and beautiful

Jeffery is a beautiful soul. Through their gentle voice, their words invoke powerful introspection and hope to anyone who’s feeling lost about themselves. This book has come into my life at a particularly vulnerable place. I am grateful to hear these thoughts woven together and will definitely be listening again and soon! Thank you Jeffery. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Amazing

I have been a fan of Jeffery Marsh since I found him on Instagram. His words are always so wonderful and he is such a beautiful person inside and out. This book is just a lovely gift for yourself (and I am buying it for about 5 of my closest friends too!).

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Everyone Needs this Book

If you're wanting to continue the journey of becoming all you've been created to become, I believe this book is for you!! Jeffrey Marsh shares practical tips for unburdening ourselves with the unhealthy expectations of others - and the unhealthy expectations of ourselves as well. They provide examples from their own stories and witty nonsensical examples that help us see the absurdity of the way we've chosen to construct things in this realm. We can do things differently. We can do things better. And this is one resource to help us forward - embracing our beautiful, fabulous selves in the process!

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  • 03-04-22

Apparently life is "equally unfair to everyone"

This audiobook creates a strawman of what sadness looks like and continues claiming it is you.

Apparently none of those problems are real and everything you fear isn't as bad as the fear itself 🙄

Apparently you can just make a commitment to not struggle anymore.

Oh and "never yell at your boss" given as unironic advice 🤢

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  • 08-03-21

Credibility absolutely destroyed

I’ve been following Jeffrey on Instagram for a while. I adored their content and advocacy for non-binary folk. I too am non-binary.
I finally listened to their book and the story was delightful, except, they used ableist language a lot, it became very jarring, specifically the word ‘dumb’. I gave them some gentle and loving feedback by DM on Instagram having interacted with them there before. Their response was to block me.
I can’t tell you how shocked and disappointed I am at this level of fragility from someone advocating kindness and acceptance of each other and how to validate one another. This decision and utter disregard for the harm they are causing to some disabled folk has destroyed their credibility for me, even though they were such an important influence in my non-binary journey. I’m shook. I’m deeply hurt. We white queer and non-binary people cannot fight for our liberation and acceptance without being intersectional and also striving not to be racist or ableist. This decision is contrary to everything they are teaching us in this book and personally, I don’t preach what I cannot practice. I do not subscribe to cancel culture and in spite of the hurt caused to me, I still feel that Jeffrey contributes significantly to non-binary understanding, however, in the circumstances, I consider this review absolutely fair and measured. Jeffrey, if you read this, I hope one day that you see the harm caused and that you accept that you too have some learning to do and disabled people are worthy of validating in the same was as we non-binary people are. I’ll always be open to connecting again. With love and honesty.

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  • QueenMumma
  • 04-06-21

This book is everything

If you need a self help book this is the only one you’ll ever need
Jeffrey Marsh’s narrative ability is stunning.
His voice is soothing and reassuring
The stories he tells will make you smile to yourself.
You’ll find yourself nodding and shaking your head, laughing, shedding a tear... but most of all you’ll start to look at yourself differently
I will be revisiting this book over and over and I just know each time his words will resonate more.
I’ve just finished this on audiobook and I can’t wait to start it again!

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  • kevin
  • 04-10-21

Love love LOVE IT!

Thank you Jeffrey for helping to guide me to a less judgmental, more accepting version of myself. I've been using this book in conjuction with therapy, I'm gunna be replaying this book a million times if I have to!

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  • FilmLoverS
  • 05-21-22

Amazing

This is a great book to listen to to help yourself understand and be kinder to yourself to be better for all, Jeffrey has become an important part of my self-care.

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  • Maxine
  • 04-10-22

everyone young and old needs to read this book

I found Jeffery randomly via his Instagram and was hooked by their kind voice and real and touching messages that seemed to really be talking to me personally. Their book does exactly the same, they talk to the listener or reader personally and you believe their words as you knowh they have felt everything we all feel.
The pacing is wonderful. It has just enough of their own story for you to understand how and why they know how hard life can be and there is so much insightful wisdom and understanding there. its like a warm hug from Jeffrey in each chapter with tools and exercises that are helpful and rewarding. it's a great listen and I know I will listen again and again when I need to.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-14-21

this is for everyone

This book is categorized here under "teens and young adults" but this is really self-love lessons for everyone. I'm almost 40 and have enjoyed it allot. Thanks Jeffrey!

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  • Lindsay
  • 09-28-21

Thank you, Jeffrey

Jeffrey has things to Say and it's up to us to Listen. So glad to have found them

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  • Claire Charlesworth
  • 08-19-21

Wonderful Book.

Really enjoyed this wonderful book. Really have you an alternative way of thinking and Jeffrey has such a soothing voice. I love them.

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  • Maddalena G.
  • 07-15-21

This book truly is life-saving

Jeffrey's voice is calming and encouraging at the same time. The book is great for any age.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-03-21

The BEST book to read on self love

With over a decade of my own investment as an adult in personal development and growth, spanning through reading and workshops and meditations etc. I’ve not come across any book or methods that is as impactful, graceful, and insightful as this beautiful book by Jeffery Marsh. Thank you for your gentle and yet so powerful way of articulating the possibility and the opportunity that radical self love and self acceptance grants us.

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  • Charlie Mac
  • 07-18-21

Absolutely beautiful

I cannot stress how much I love and appreciate this book AND Jeffrey Marsh.
What an amazing human being and I consider myself so lucky to be on this Earth at the same time as them x
This book is for anyone and everyone. No matter where they are on their journey in life.
Do yourself a favour and listen. Learn. Grow.