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Too short. Too weird. Too quiet. Not true. Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are.

An interactive experience, How to Be You invites you to make the audiobook your own through activities such as answering questions about how you do the things you do, and discovering patterns in your lives that may be holding you back. Through Jeffrey's own story of "growing up fabulous in a small farming town" - along with the stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race, age, and gender - you will discover that you are not alone. 

Learn to deepen your relationship with yourself, boost your self-esteem and self-worth, and find the courage to take a leap that will change your life.

©2016 Jeffrey Marsh (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Critic Reviews

“The advice Jeffrey gives is so succinct and so intimately personal that I swear, if your brain could change colors in reaction to humans, Jeffrey's words would turn your brain bright pink." (Bustle)

 “Their message is simple: Be yourself. Be happy with yourself. Be more comfortable with your differences - and embrace and enjoy them.” (Digg) 

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Sooo good.

The reading, the content...just make being alive feel better. I’ll be listening to this again without delay.

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A must read!

Jeffrey Marsh has written an inspiring book full of wisdom, compassion, and love! I wish I had this book when I was younger, but even in my mid 30s, I have found it to be incredibly helpful and supportive. Jeffrey shares their own experiences to help the reader navigate the ups and downs of life, and the inner turmoil we all go through when we feel we don't fit in or haven't gotten it right. They provide helpful advice and insights so that we can live a life free from crippling guilt, shame, or confusion. I especially like the segments called Hero, Heroine where they bring in the example of real life people throughout history who embraced who they are despite pressure to conform to society's standards. I recommend this book to any teen who is struggling with finding themselves and loving who they are as well as any adult who is having these similar struggles as well. Jeffrey reminds us that we are good people, and that we deserve our own unconditional love!

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Can't wait to listen again! love it!

Heart warming, thought provoking, and validating. Jeffrey shares their wisdom from experiences, that shines light on the darkest rooms of your memory and emotions. Life long questions, answered. Jeffrey thank you so much!!!

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A beautiful book

This book reads like a love letter to humans. Absolutely unequivocably right on time.
A book for all humans, all parents, all educators. Absolutely heartwarming and inspiring and full of the feels.

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Grateful and joyful

Jeffrey is such a wonderful person and compassionate teacher. I have absolutely loved listening to them read their book. This has been such a great part of my healing process. They matter so much to me, we all matter. I cried when they told me I am a good person. 💕

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So lovely!

Highly recommend everyone reads this book! I’m sending it to everyone I know! So insightful and lovely. Jeffery has a deep understanding of compassion for self and others. Their words and wisdom are so inspiring and rooted in truth and inclusion. I will read this every time I need a reminder of what it means to want to be the good in the world. Thankful to everyone who worked and created this project.

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I love Jeffrey, and I love this book.

Jeffrey gives you permission to be the most fabulous you you can be. Letting go of past traumas and enjoying the little moments of life. This is a feel good book and can't we all use a little more of feeling good?!

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  • 09-19-21

Amazing

This book is simply amazing from start to finish. It’s heartfelt, powerfully uplifting and like being given a desperately needed hug! This book is for all LGBT+ people, allies and anyone else who just needs to be reminded that it’s ok to be you!

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Kind and beautiful guide to loving yourself

Jeffrey shares an incredibly kind, compassionate and open-minded guide to loving yourself, and others, more fully and deeply. Highly recommend to anyone struggling with self-compassion or self-acceptance.

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Amazing!

Love the author, loved this book ❤ this is one of those I can listen to again and again 😊 a great book on self-love and kindness

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  • 08-03-21

Credibility absolutely destroyed

I’ve been following Jeffrey on Instagram for a while. I adored their content and advocacy for non-binary folk. I too am non-binary.
I finally listened to their book and the story was delightful, except, they used ableist language a lot, it became very jarring, specifically the word ‘dumb’. I gave them some gentle and loving feedback by DM on Instagram having interacted with them there before. Their response was to block me.
I can’t tell you how shocked and disappointed I am at this level of fragility from someone advocating kindness and acceptance of each other and how to validate one another. This decision and utter disregard for the harm they are causing to some disabled folk has destroyed their credibility for me, even though they were such an important influence in my non-binary journey. I’m shook. I’m deeply hurt. We white queer and non-binary people cannot fight for our liberation and acceptance without being intersectional and also striving not to be racist or ableist. This decision is contrary to everything they are teaching us in this book and personally, I don’t preach what I cannot practice. I do not subscribe to cancel culture and in spite of the hurt caused to me, I still feel that Jeffrey contributes significantly to non-binary understanding, however, in the circumstances, I consider this review absolutely fair and measured. Jeffrey, if you read this, I hope one day that you see the harm caused and that you accept that you too have some learning to do and disabled people are worthy of validating in the same was as we non-binary people are. I’ll always be open to connecting again. With love and honesty.

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  • kevin
  • 04-10-21

Love love LOVE IT!

Thank you Jeffrey for helping to guide me to a less judgmental, more accepting version of myself. I've been using this book in conjuction with therapy, I'm gunna be replaying this book a million times if I have to!

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  • QueenMumma
  • 04-06-21

This book is everything

If you need a self help book this is the only one you’ll ever need
Jeffrey Marsh’s narrative ability is stunning.
His voice is soothing and reassuring
The stories he tells will make you smile to yourself.
You’ll find yourself nodding and shaking your head, laughing, shedding a tear... but most of all you’ll start to look at yourself differently
I will be revisiting this book over and over and I just know each time his words will resonate more.
I’ve just finished this on audiobook and I can’t wait to start it again!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-14-21

this is for everyone

This book is categorized here under "teens and young adults" but this is really self-love lessons for everyone. I'm almost 40 and have enjoyed it allot. Thanks Jeffrey!

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  • Lindsay
  • 09-28-21

Thank you, Jeffrey

Jeffrey has things to Say and it's up to us to Listen. So glad to have found them

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  • Claire Charlesworth
  • 08-19-21

Wonderful Book.

Really enjoyed this wonderful book. Really have you an alternative way of thinking and Jeffrey has such a soothing voice. I love them.

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  • Maddalena G.
  • 07-15-21

This book truly is life-saving

Jeffrey's voice is calming and encouraging at the same time. The book is great for any age.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-03-21

The BEST book to read on self love

With over a decade of my own investment as an adult in personal development and growth, spanning through reading and workshops and meditations etc. I’ve not come across any book or methods that is as impactful, graceful, and insightful as this beautiful book by Jeffery Marsh. Thank you for your gentle and yet so powerful way of articulating the possibility and the opportunity that radical self love and self acceptance grants us.

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  • Irene
  • 05-25-21

I have really poor concentration

This book is just beautiful.
I can’t tel you how many books I have started on audible and abandoned quickly as they just don’t feel engaging FOR ME.

Jeffrey is a magical human.
This book is for EVERYONE.
Such an easy listen & challenges deeply held beliefs for the good!
Thank you Jeffrey you beautiful sparkly caring human xxx

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  • Charlie Mac
  • 07-18-21

Absolutely beautiful

I cannot stress how much I love and appreciate this book AND Jeffrey Marsh.
What an amazing human being and I consider myself so lucky to be on this Earth at the same time as them x
This book is for anyone and everyone. No matter where they are on their journey in life.
Do yourself a favour and listen. Learn. Grow.