• How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick

  • By: Letty Cottin Pogrebin
  • Narrated by: Pam Ward
  • Length: 9 hrs and 26 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (34 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Everyone knows someone who’s sick or suffering. Yet when a friend or relative is under duress many of us feel uncertain about how to cope.

Throughout her recent bout with breast cancer, Letty Cottin Pogrebin became fascinated by her friends’ and family’s diverse reactions to her and her illness: how awkwardly some of them behaved, how some misspoke or misinterpreted her needs, and how wonderful it was when people read her right. She began talking to her fellow patients and dozens of other veterans of serious illness, seeking to discover what sick people wished their friends knew about how best to comfort, help, and even simply talk to them.

Now Pogrebin has distilled their collective stories and opinions into this wide-ranging compendium of pragmatic guidance and usable wisdom. Her advice is always infused with sensitivity, warmth, and humor. It is embedded in candid stories from her own and others’ journeys and their sometimes imperfect interactions with well-meaning friends. How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick is an invaluable guidebook for anyone hoping to rise to the challenges of this most important and demanding passage of friendship.

©2013 Letty Cottin Pogrebin (P)2013 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

Critic Reviews

“I wish Letty’s wonderful book had been available 13 years ago when I had cancer. I would have given it to all of my friends and begged them to read it.” (Gene Wilder, actor and author)
“A lively, breezy, important book about conversations that are often difficult but need not be. How I wish I’d read this before some of my own cringe-worthy mistakes. Remember how your mom told you to just be yourself? Letty Pogrebin helps you be your best self, even in the most uncomfortable situations. You will thank her for giving you the courage to be a true friend." (Judy Blume,  New York Times best-selling author)
How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who’s Sick gives us excellent tools and moving experiences to love and nurture the sick and dying. It urges and enables us to move toward those in need rather than fleeing in terror or despair. It is a handbook of kindness and care and will help patients and healers, which is ultimately all of us.” (Eve Ensler, playwright and activist)

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warmly with friendship

How to Be a Friend to a Friend Who's Sick by Letty Cottin Pogrebin is warm with friendship advice from personal experience as a cancer survivor. How to act? This question might help find an option for your individual experience and your friend's needs. Also, the most important thing to know and sometimes be mindful of is what is better to avoid doing or saying.
I have listened to the Audible release narrated by Pam Ward, who has a pleasant and mature voice.

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A Must Read

This is a vital book for everyone, sick or well, old or young. If someone you love is suffering, give them the gift of awareness, tact and kindness by learning how to relate to what they're going through, how to be of real help to someone who needs your support. Most of all, it will bring home an important truth: that staying away because you don't know what to say or do is a failure of love you will come to regret. If you are the bird with a broken wing, recommend it to those who clearly want to help and don't know how.

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very helpful

The book was very insightful and helpful with stories that apply to a variety of situations.