• How to Be an Adult in Love

  • Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
  • By: David Richo
  • Narrated by: Tom Pile
  • Length: 11 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (441 ratings)

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How to Be an Adult in Love

By: David Richo
Narrated by: Tom Pile
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Publisher's Summary

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control. When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

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  • 10-29-16

The hardcopy version would be better

I bought this book based on the positive reviews I have read. For me the book was not optimal in the audio version. It would be better to go slow, look back, and focus more on the concepts presented which is easier to do in an actual physical book with pages.The information presented is beautiful and would certainly help any person be a better person. I just don't think the audiobook is the right format

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The narrator ruins the content in the audio format

The over-emphatic presentation of the content was too distracting to be able to process the content. I couldn't make it through the 1st chapter.

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Skip this

I really wanted to like this. The narration was so syrupy that try as I might I could not push through it. It may be a great book but I could not get past the Mr. Rogers delivery. I get that it’s a book about love but it appears there can be a medium between mush and education.

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Enlightening and applicable

Amazing book. With the help of this audiobook I've realized my immaturity and have taken steps to address my level of giving, receiving and loving as an adult

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This book has left me feeling like I will be a better person.

So much inspiration in this book, to live better, to love and be loved better, and to extend this love to anyone I relate to. This helps me be a better Franciscan and I can pass along the love wisdom that Dave Richo has taught me here.
Thanks, Dave!

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Life changer! This is a top 10 list for sure!

Very accurate! Very helpful! Take the time to listen and take notes... You WILL learn life changing, valuable information from this audio book!

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Love, and life. Change.

Listen to this book if you feel deep down inside that you need a guide to how to center your feelings on love, and it's role in your life - in a centered, pragmatic, and reasonable way. Super book. Well worth your time - going to re-listen, and this time take notes. Should be taught in college.

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Solid book

I really enjoyed the message behind this book. There always seems to be a bit of religious context to books like this, but I feel like the author did a good job staying away from merging his beliefs into the general message.

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  • 12-22-16

Tom Pile'a narration aggravating

Listening to the narrator on headphones is literally painful. Every time he pronounces any words that contain the letter "S" it sounds like sheering chalk against a chalkboard. I swear the audio is peaking on all his S's.

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Worst narrator

The content is great, but the narrator ruins it for me. He has a very soft voice. He's talking me to sleep. All of his "S" sounds are over emphasized.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-29-22

Seems interesting, but...

Horrible narration. I just could not listen to this for more than half an hour.

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  • MaryT kavanagh.
  • 07-27-22

I love this book

I have found this book to be genuinely inspirational and very grounded in real practical steps towards helping me to take ownership of my part in my life lessons in being a loving person.
I needed this book . it came at the perfect time. A wonderful author and I like the readers voice.
I would highly recommend this book.

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  • David M Sumner-Smith
  • 06-15-22

Yawn. The written equivalent to a sleeping tablet.

Don't waste your time. This is undiluted waffle akin to a lengthy sermon from a third-rate vicar.

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  • sewlfulone
  • 06-05-22

Waffle

Just sentence after sentence of folksy sayings, disjointed metaphors and pure speculation. Don't waste your time.

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  • cathy
  • 10-26-21

It's self help not Shakespeare!

I can't review the book because I couldn't get past the 2nd chapter. Objectively I think the words seemed OK and I'm going to read the actual book.

However, the narrator was absolutely awful! The voice did not match his words. He was so melodramatic and annoying, enunciating each syllable as though speaking ancient romantic poetry to a particularly stupid, deaf person who has English as his 16th language.

Absolutely the worst voice for the subject. He should narrate Brontë or go and do something pompous on the stage in some smokey, pretentious student spoken word bar.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-13-22

Potential here to change your life!

Fabulous content, very uplifting, encourages the healing practice of loving kindness for self and all, well-referenced, great exercises, perfect balance between spiritual and practical application. really for everyone to do whether single or in a relationship it is transformational.
I will go through it again and sit and actually do the exercises.