• How to Listen, Hear, and Validate

  • Break Through Invisible Barriers and Transform Your Relationships (How to be More Likable and Charismatic, Book 11)
  • By: Patrick King
  • Narrated by: Russell Newton
  • Length: 3 hrs and 5 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (52 ratings)

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How to Listen, Hear, and Validate

By: Patrick King
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Publisher's Summary

Cultivate deep connections wherever you go. Break down conflict, misunderstanding, and loneliness.

Healthy relationships involve our feelings being heard, understood, and validated. Unfortunately, this is the exception rather than the rule. Are you doing it wrong and alienating people versus comforting them? Find out how to walk this fine line. 

Uncover the biggest obstacle to the intimate, healthy relationships that we desire and deserve. 

How to Listen, Hear, and Validate is all about our top communication struggle - our tendency to react instead of respond, and forget that our goal is to build bridges rather than walls. You’ll learn what you’ve been doing wrong, and why your efforts at getting closer to people - in deep or light manners - have failed. You’ll learn actionable techniques and frameworks to have the most productive conversations of your life - ones that will walk away with people praising how empathetic you are.

Most importantly, you will gain profound insights on how to reprogram yourself into a natural communicator. 

No more unresolved issues, struggles to get close, or failures from ineffective communication.

Patrick King is an internationally best-selling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. His struggles in his early relationships has inspired him to unravel practical ways to cultivate meaningful, reciprocative interactions. 

Establish vulnerable, fulfilling and satisfying relationships. 

  • The big mistakes when we "listen" to others 
  • How to structure a style for effective validation and empathy
  • Scripts to validate others, to know exactly what to say 
  • Simple tactics to make others feel loved and seen 
  • How to use empathetic communication and active listening techniques  

Did you know? At the heart of most communication problems is a lack of validation. 

Are we truly paying attention to the messages others are conveying, or are we just waiting for our turn to speak? Are we listening to reply, or listening to hear? After applying the proven techniques from this book, you’ll be able to increase love, respect and satisfaction to your relationship. You’ll become the person everyone wants in their life.

Connect deeper and better. Raise the standard for your relationships.

©2021 Patrick King (P)2021 Patrick King

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Plagiarized

This book is a plagiarism of "I Hear You" by Michael S. Sorensen, which is easier to read/listen to.

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Great info but wish it had more examples.

This is a must read for anyone, but especially married couples. I wish it was longer with more practical day to day examples of everyday miscommunications. The book is full of necessary info for the reader, but examples would ensure the reader actually understands how to use the info in their day to day life.

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Truly remarkable!!

I can see myself listening to this book over and over again. It’s up to date, straight to the point, short and simple. You can easily follow along and take notes without feeling overwhelmed. Definitely work the listen/read.

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Already own the paperback ❤️

Can't recommend enough!
Relaxed and digestible while still getting into the subtle weeds of validation.
Reread it multiple times already but I purchased this so I could go over it even when I'm busy.

I found this book when looking for information to help me with a somewhat specific problem:
People like to confide in me (that's not the problem) and, more often than I would like, I end conversations feeling as if I failed them. I'm empathetic, sympathetic, and invested in the thoughts and feelings of others.
On enough reflection I realized I lacked skill in validation.
Despite my best efforts and good intentions I often invalidate instead!
I'm practicing the lessons in this book for a little over a year now and it's improved every aspect of my relationships. Work, friends, and family.
Especially with those who also lack skill in validation, as I am less hurt and put off but rather recognize and understand the issue.

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Open mind

This book really open my mind about understanding others without judging them and knowing I’m not agreeing with them in the same time . Loved

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Patrick knows his stuff.

I felt as if I were in a refresher class for therapists. Delivered very friendly and precisely.
my job allows me to actively listen to my clients
and this was a great help. ( as far a listening to a few Friends of mine A Tremendous help.)

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Incredible

If you love someone, and want to show them you love them, don't let this book go by.

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Very helpful book

I found this book when looking for books on this exact subject. I found it helpful and appreciate so much what is being communicated. I am going to have all my kids listen to this for school next year since we will be homeschooling. I am going to try and put into practice what is taught in this book. I highly recommend it for couples as well. LIstening, Hearing, and Validating will only bring you closer and help as you work through those issues that will arrise.

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  • Bayard Tarpley
  • 07-09-22

Well Worth The Credit

I listened to this book after my husband expressed that he felt like I didn’t validate or reflect back to him after having important conversations. This can sometimes be hard for me as I have ADHD and autism, so I wanted to find something that would help me understand this more and give me practical advice.

This book was very useful to me and the many examples and explanations helped me realise just how little I do validate my husband, and also, interestingly, it helped me identify my own feelings as invalidation during conversations that in the past has lead me to become defensive and feel unheard. Knowing that it is invalidation that I’m feeling gives me the opportunity to ask my husband if he understands where I’m coming from, rather than angrily explaining my point again in the hopes that he gets it. He is now wanting to listen himself to better help him understand as well.

For anyone on the fence, I’d say its definitely worth it. It’s not that long which might make people reconsider putting a credit on it, but honestly it is one of the most useful books I’ve listen to about communication and validating others.