• How to Think More About Sex

  • The School of Life
  • By: Alain de Botton
  • Narrated by: David Thorpe
  • Length: 3 hrs and 21 mins
  • 4.3 out of 5 stars (250 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

We don't think too much about sex; we're merely thinking about it in the wrong way.

So asserts Alain de Botton in this rigorous and supremely honest book designed to help us navigate the intimate and exciting - yet often confusing and difficult - experience that is sex. Few of us tend to feel we're entirely normal when it comes to sex, and what we’re supposed to be feeling rarely matches up with the reality.

This audiobook argues that 21st-century sex is ultimately fated to be a balancing act between love and desire, and adventure and commitment. Covering topics that include lust, fetishism, adultery, and pornography, Alain de Botton frankly articulates the dilemmas of modern sexuality, offering insights and consolation to help us think more deeply and wisely about the sex we are, or aren’t, having.

©2012 The School of Life (P)2012 Macmillan Digital Audio

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Realistic Relationship Expectations

A realistic look at the positives and negatives of long term relationships and thr sexual human experience. Depressing and humorous.

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Partially wise but mostly paternalistic

Despite having some wise observations here and there De Botton has a very paternalistic tone all over the book. I find his little exemplary stories awkward and full of annoying stereotypes and the chapter on internet porn prudeish, parodic and obtuse.

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amazing work

this is the best book I've ever read. It tackles the issues in my life in a way that no other book has come close to.

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How to Think About Sex as Only Sex

Would you listen to How to Think More About Sex again? Why?

I listened to it twice. I would consider listening again. It is full of brilliant insights and observations.

What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Think More About Sex?

I liked his description early on about a couple's first date and his description of what they were both experiencing and why.

What does David Thorpe bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

He has a rich voice and does justice to the articulate text.

What did you learn from How to Think More About Sex that you would use in your daily life?

Intimate relationships are complicated imperfect things. If we adjust our expectations we can appreciate relationships and sex for what they are rather than having pie-in-the-sky expectations.

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Great book. I can think of 100 people I could recommend it to.

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elegant and enriching

comprehensíve, very well researched, navigates admirably well the treacherous waters of both prejudice and trend, beautifully written with charme and wit - my best Audible purchase in many months!

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very good for beginners

ease to read clear interesting ideas to try and use in life easy understand with fun narrative and entertaining

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Truth

Very much inline with the truth about sex and the direction or culture is finally going. If this topic interest you I recommend Sex At Dawn.

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lovely.

easy to listen to, easy to finish, interesting. enjoyable. made me think about past experiences and experiences to come and maybe I feel a little more prepared with this book under my belt.

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Extremely Insightful

Loved this book. It's a great examination of the way we view sex and it's relationship to how we define and view ourselves and others.

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A delightful apology for sexuality

I really enjoyed this listen and found it to be a healing salve for an area of my life that has been a source of confusion and pain.