• Insecure Attachment

  • The Search of Emotional Stability, Tools to Promote Understanding and to Lay the Foundation for Strong and Healthy Relationships
  • By: Leslie Attached
  • Narrated by: Richard E McCarthy
  • Length: 3 hrs and 27 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (20 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Do you struggle with relationships?

Has it been your experience that you have a hard time starting and maintaining healthy relationships?

Maybe you have a lopsided attitude about what healthy relationships are supposed to be like, and you end up making it all about yourself. You may have developed an obsession with your partner, so that you always want to be around them, never letting go, hogging their space. Maybe you have taken to being dramatic, so that if you don’t get your way, you start the drama, hoping your partner will bend to your will. Sometimes you shut off, refuse to engage with your partner, and start reliving your memories, both good and bad, or you focus on your fantasies.

Sometimes you are anxious about the stability of your relationship. It rings in your mind that your partner might finally realize they made a mistake and get away from you, and such thoughts make you terribly scared because the last thing you want is to be abandoned. And as a result, you obsess about your partner even more. Sometimes you are cold. Sometimes you are hot. You get cowardly at times and indirectly resist your partner. Many times, you are caught in a storm of emotions you can hardly make sense of. 

If the experiences above remotely point to what you go through, you must be suffering from insecure attachment issues. This book has been authored in order to help you overcome your insecure attachment issues.

Let’s face it. Relationships play an important role in making us happy. But then they have to be healthy relationships. Insecure attachment issues deny you the opportunity to form healthy relationships because you exhibit various toxic habits that ultimately undermine the health of your relationship. In order to have healthy relationships, you must get rid of your insecure attachment issues.

Psychologists believe that insecure attachment is rooted in early childhood experiences. Kids that grew up under loving parents so that their emotional needs were catered to are likely to grow up to be secure people who expect the best from the world. But then kids that had nasty parents and grew up in an emotionally reckless environment are the most likely to exhibit insecure attachment issues in later life. Such kids turn out to be distrustful of other people and exhibit emotional recklessness that makes it hard for them to start and maintain healthy relationships with other human beings.

Childhood trauma makes an individual most susceptible to insecure attachment issues, but psychologists believe there are still other causative factors including low self-esteem and failure. This book aims to help you overcome insecure attachment and start leading your best life. We have elaborated on the various signs that indicate that one is suffering from insecure attachment, touched upon the causes of insecure attachment, and most importantly, we have shown the proven methods to overcome insecure attachment issues. Some of the topics include:

  • Insecure attachment decoded
  • Childhood trauma
  • Low self-esteem
  • Anxiety
©2019 Leslie Attached (P)2020 Leslie Attached

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Couldn’t make it halfway through

This reads like a random list of facts about people who may have insecure attachment. It’s a clinical description of the identifying characteristics, which is very dry. Most critically, it doesn’t provide ANY guidance or insight into how someone with insecure attachment can improve their relationships. The book is extremely judgmental and not help to either people with insecure attachment styles or those who are in relationships with them. I need to figure out how to return this book and get a refund. DO NOT waste your money on this.

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Are insecurely attached people doomed?

If you're looking for a "how to recover from insecure attachment", this is not the book for you. This mainly covers what insecure attachment is (which at certain points makes it sound like a personality disorder). It covers "negative people", which is really just the book's terminology for those suffering Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It offers vague suggestions of things you can do to "avoid" being insecurely attached. But it kind of comes off like, "Step #1: Don't be insecurely attached". And "Step #2: If you exhibit these traits, you're doomed to lead a miserable, unfulfilling life cut off from society."

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Perfect match!!

I have to review this book and I have only read two chapters. Every word matches me and my insecurity issues in my relationship. I can not believe it, it is as if this person wrote my love life. Incredible! Looking forward to continue on!

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Wow! Author HATES insecure people!

Wow! He hates people with insecure attachment style. If you have this attachment style, just write yourself off according to this guy because you're not fixable and no one's going to want you. Don't worry about all that trauma that you've suffered in early childhood cause no one gives a shit about that. Well done writing off a whole section of the population! 👏

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This was good

This made me self reflect. This isn’t easy and its just the beginning but I highly recommend listening to this book if you think you have any insecure attachment.

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Life Changing

This book is absolutely amazing for someone who has a hard time, when his or her partner still has his own life next to the relationship. It takes away the fear of loosing that person. Must listen to it.

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Very easy

I certainly could relate to the content in this book. Very easy to listen and some priceless exercises that gave me some ideas on how to transit into a more secure attachment type.

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Great source book for change and nurturing

A great resource of knowledge and wisdom easily digested and highly useful both personally and with the people you care about.
It takes what I know and understand about myself and relationships to a higher state of awareness and usefulness.

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Enlightening

As a BPD sufferer I found this book enlightening.I recognized my own responsibility in the breakdown of relationships and how to go on and manage my attachment style and insecurity in the future. I hope this knowledge will assist me in relationships in the future.

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Gentle, useful book

This was a great audio, and is now a useful reference book to understand attachment typologies. What I find striking is that this author argues that to overcome anxious attachment, one needs to actively find a healthy relationship (friendly, familial, romantic, otherwise). This is easier said than done, and possibly easier in some life areas than others. Also, I find that this approach could put a lot of undue burden on the “healthily attached” person

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  • 06-04-20

Really let down by this

I was really looking forward to listening to this, but it was a real let down. There are so many concepts discussed that it’s very difficult to take in the messages compared to other audiobooks on this subject. There was also a lot of discussing the theory and less of giving useful and well-focused tips about how to change. Too jumpy from one attachment theory and point to another. Really didn’t like the narration either, so robotic, and I’ve listened to a lot of audiobooks and pod casts. Would not recommend. Sad I spent my monthly credit on this.

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  • 05-07-20

terrible experience

no words of support or how to fix/help people, just getting lower and lower with every chapter, bringing the reader to the bottom. blame, terrible robotic voice, no emotions, it was such a bad choice to create such a book....

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  • Claire
  • 01-16-21

First Class

Fabulous enlightening book. This topic should be taught in schools next to Maths and English. I am going to listen to it again now.

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  • 12-06-21

Great book but the narrator sounds like a robot

Great book but the narrator sounds like a robot which is really distracting from taking in the content.

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