• Just by Looking at Him

  • A Novel
  • By: Ryan O'Connell
  • Narrated by: Ryan O'Connell
  • Length: 6 hrs and 34 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (91 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

From the star of Peacock’s Queer as Folk and the Netflix series Special comes a darkly witty and touching novel following a gay TV writer with cerebral palsy as he fights addiction and searches for acceptance in an overwhelmingly ableist world.

Elliot appears to be living the dream as a successful TV writer with a doting boyfriend. But behind his Instagram filter of a life, he’s grappling with an intensifying alcohol addiction, he can’t seem to stop cheating on his boyfriend with various sex workers, and his cerebral palsy is making him feel like gay Shrek.

After falling down a rabbit hole of sex, drinking, and Hollywood backstabbing, Elliot decides to limp his way toward redemption. But facing your demons is easier said than done.

Candid, biting, and refreshingly real, Just by Looking at Him is an incisive commentary on gay life, a heart-centered, laugh-out-loud exploration of self, and a rare insight into life as a person with disabilities.

©2022 Ryan O'Connell. All rights reserved. (P)2022 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.
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  • Categories: LGBTQ+

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Must read

I think Ryan O’Connell is an essential voice in media today. I have loved everything he has written and his show Special. His work, expounding the experience of otherness, of being a minority within a minority, while showing the vulnerability and uncertainty that is universal to all. Brutally honest, sexy, funny, embarrassing, heartwarming, and heartbreaking. I was sad that this book ended. Looking forward to his next work.

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Cynicism with no warmth.

I really had trouble getting through this book. I didn't like or identify with any of the characters, and the constant cynicism just made this book tedious for me.

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Waaaaao! What a read!

Great book! So happy I read it! Super funny. He is a genius to narrate and i can not imagine this book wothout his voice to read it. Also a book that touches so many important topics! Great representation for the minories as well. Just great read. You have to listen to it! ❤️

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great book

So honest. Like looking into someone's heart. He sugar coats nothing. I downloaded The Naked Mind by his recommendation. Ryan has endears himself to me.

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Memoir?

I'm familiar with the author and actor. The story seems like a autobiography; He's quite talented, but as the author of the book I have some issues. He talks too fast, and I found it difficult to understand some of his prose. I'm from NYC, so I'm used to fast talk, but this is much to fast, and often not understandable. I found little that brings this book an interesting read. I do like the author/actor personally, but can't recommend this read, even if LGBTQ or disabled persons are the main the theme. I recommend you skip this for BB now, unless you're interested in his casting in Queer as Folk. I was hoping for more.








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Fantastic!

Such a great book! Open, honest, erotic, and really funny at times. So very good!

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I'm not crying, YOU are...

Fantastic listen. I loved hearing myself in O'Connell's voice. In this book, his raw, unabashed approach to disability and the struggles that come with being in a relationship with someone who is able-bodied is so perfectly penned. This book is hilarious, heartfelt, hopeful, and hugely homosexual. It's perfect. Must read.

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This book is a moment

I am so thrilled, inspired, shocked, (not really) delighted and inspired that a book like this finally exists. This book is funny, horny, educational and stylish.

I love how Just by Looking at Him so easily toggles between ordinary life and filthy scenes, it’s just a joy.

Ryan O’Connor is the next queer, pop it-girl and I’m here for it.

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queer disabled excellence

written beautifully. i somehow related to every word. i didn't want it to end. make it a motion picture.

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Couldn't put it down!

Love hearing Ryan's books in his voice. Inflection, reflection, humor. A+ would listen again