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Publisher's Summary

The numeber-one best-selling pioneer of "fratire" and a leading evolutionary psychologist team up to create the dating book for guys.

Whether they conducted their research in life or in the lab, experts Tucker Max and Dr. Geoffrey Miller have spent the last 20-plus years learning what women really want from their men, why they want it, and how men can deliver those qualities.

The short answer: Become the best version of yourself possible, then show it off. It sounds simple, but it's not. If it were, Tinder would just be the stuff you use to start a fire. Becoming your best self requires honesty, self-awareness, hard work, and a little help.

Through their website and podcasts, Max and Miller have already helped over one million guys take their first steps toward Miss Right. They have collected all of their findings in Mate, an evidence-driven, seriously funny playbook that will teach you to become a more sexually attractive and romantically successful man, the right way:

  • No "seduction techniques"
  • No moralizing
  • No bullshit

Just honest, straightforward talk about the most ethical, effective way to pursue the win-win relationships you want with the women who are best for you.

Much of what they've discovered will surprise you, some of it will not, but all of it is important and often misunderstood. So listen up, and stop being stupid!

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2015 Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller PhD (P)2015 Hachette Audio

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Essential Reading for any man!!

I am happily married so I did not get this book for dating tips. I heard the author talking on a podcast and was very interested on his holistic view on self-improvement. I got this book to be a better husband and also to be able to pass off this wisdom to my son one day. The book delivered in a big way. I would go so far as to say that it changed my life.

This book made me a better father, husband, man and person in general. I am in better shape than I have been in a long time. I am less stressed and more grounded mentally. It made me pay attention to details that I once thought were unimportant.

I skipped a few of the chapters at the end because they were dating specific and I said before I am happily married but the first 2/3's of the book I listed to were great. This is the type of audiobook that I'll probably relisten every year or two.

I am a high school teacher and if I could have my male students read any book, this would be a strong contender for first place. The only other competition would be one of Dave Ramsey's financial books.

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More Than Just a Book on Dating

I was listening just to proof the material before giving it to my son. I wound up listening to the entire thing. Nice to hear the stuff that I already do for my wife, while being reminded of the stuff I used to do and need to kick back in gear, as well as finding a few gems that I can include in my never ending date that is my marriage.

Furthermore, the general advice found in this easy read can be used for all kinds of other relationships from a man's perspective. Bosses, coworkers, friend, family, etc... can all be persuaded with a little planning and preparation. The pay out is different, but the courting process is very similar.

This is a book designed to help a man put his best foot forward, disguised as a book on dating.

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There really is no other book like this.

God I, and a few unfortunate ex-wives, wish this book had existed 20 years ago.

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Scientific based mating book-Brilliant!

What made the experience of listening to Mate the most enjoyable?

The book is solid-grounded in science.
This book has explained the evolutionary causes of all sorts of mating behaviors and why we should do that.
It also emphasis the importance of win-win relationship instead of the zero-sum scenery pictured by many of the PUA books.

Have you listened to any of Geoffrey Miller, PhD’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Mate?

Choose your mating market according to your personal strength is vital for my mating success.
Cultivating your personal traits is far more important than so called "PUA technique".
Do the basic thing, exercise regularly, sleep well and eat properly is of great importance for either your physical and mental health which both help you be more attractive to women and men.
Alter your mindset to be more process-focus instead of outcome-focus, enjoy talking to women and spend time with them without restricting yourself on sex. It should be pleasant in and of itself.

Any additional comments?

Highly recommended!

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Great book,TERRIBLE READER!!!

THE WORST MOST LISPY AND MONOTONE READER EVER. I'm only 10 mins in and I can hardly stand it!!

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Amazing book.

While the book in of itself, does not have much of Tucker Max's antics like his previous books, this book is nothing but good advice and a solid listen.

Heck, I am a woman and this explained some things to me about women!

While this book is aimed at men, there is a lot of things that women can learn with this book. I had my sister and I listen to it and it makes so much sense.

This gives practical, understandable and usable advice about women. A must read for everyone.

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Interesting book

I like how this is more about creating meaning and not just trying to manipulate someone into bed with you. The narrators voice is much better at 1.5 speed!

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Mate - Perfect for 40 year old virgins

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?
Mate is perfect for your a stereotypical 40 year old virgin or clueless 14 year old boy that needs a excruciatingly painfully obvious intro into the world of attracting women.

This book gives off big time ivory tower "I've never actually done this shit but I've read a ton of books on it" vibes.

Some of the information is completely asinine. They should have left nutrition to the nutritionists on this one.

And they take plenty of shots at pick artists lumping them all in to the same horrible gimmick category. There are plenty of legit PUA's out there that offer iron clad real world advice.

The book overall isn't bad. But none of the evolutionary psychology aspect of this book is revolutionary or boundary pushing.

And the book feels totally out of character with Tucker Max it spends the majority of it's time being a lame, corporate, politically correct bore bot.

Not awful but definitely vanilla and forgettable. If you shower on a regular basis this book may be useless to you if you do then you've nailed the basic premise of Mate.

What about Geoffrey Miller, PhD’s performance did you like?
Performance was fine.

Did Mate inspire you to do anything?
It reaffirmed a few things I already knew and helped me to focus a little more on them.

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Should be required reading for all 18 year old males

This book is the best non fiction book I have ever read. I'm 50 years old and jealous of any 18 year old who reads this book before dating. Well, I'm married now, but I just learned A LOT about my wife and why things are the way they are, why things went down the way they did, and what I need to do to make it better. I will definitely listen to this book again.

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Great book to understand Women with only one bad point

This book is really great and made me understand female pyshcology and my mistakes much better however the author is fighting pick up community aggressively in some points when in fact there is no conflict between the two points. In MATE u will learn how to be a better man that can attract women in pickup books of course the solid ones they teach u how to display this traits I mean the tactics in life so by all mean u need both the foundation from MATE and the tactics from the pickup community to be great with the ladies.

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