• Mating in Captivity

  • Reconciling the Erotic & the Domestic
  • By: Esther Perel
  • Narrated by: Esther Perel
  • Length: 8 hrs and 8 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (9,111 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

©2006 Esther Perel (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers
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  • Categories: Erotica

Critic Reviews

"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)

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Slices of life

This book is a litany of filler story after filler story of couples not having sex, with no solution offered whatsoever. Her reading is really bad, and her accent is distracting from the content.

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Advice for a French surrender monkey

Short story is this, if you are having an affair, lying about it, and want to feel good about the lying and feel better about breaking your contract between your children, parents, friends, loved ones, and lover, then get this. Then maybe you'll feel better about being an ass who surrenders your most important commitments to your genitals.

If you want to add spark to a real marriage, look elsewhere.

But, if you prefer a fake marriage built around lies, read this book. I say strive to be more, and continue evolving. It is like our society has decided that merging with a more primitive monkey-like behavior is some sort of advancement. If you were to say these monkey type passions were right to act on, then it would be equally right to kill the invading mate.

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Useless

This literally just talks about cases with patients the author has handled. No practical detailed advice or suggestions.

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Ignore the naysaying. The book is fantastic.

Do you want committed, connected love to stay hot? Do you think it’s impossible, but wish it weren’t? Haven’t you seen the rare couples for whom it is true? Listen to the book. Ester Perel is a jewel with a very good point.

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Horrible Narrator

there is probably some wonderful information here but I couldn't get past the first 10 minutes. You have to put all your energy and attention toward just understanding the words and you dont really get to listen to the advice.

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Every adult should listen to this one!

There are so many ways to be happily married AND happy sexually, and in this book Esther Perel lays them open for examination. It's about as far from a one-size-fits-all approach as you can get. and it treats everyone's preferences with respect. I deeply appreciate this book.

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You can't love without honesty ...to yourslef

...and of course to whom you love. You cannot disregard eroticism in order to take car of love. The secret is you can have a fullfiling erotic and love life even in the long term. Just mind there is no one size fits all solution. In this book guided by Esther's experience, wisdom and down to earth warm tone she shares her observations on various couples there strugle, gulit or abandonment of their erotic life and theirselves and in each case how to reclaim it all back. One of my favorite audibles to date.

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Poetic Observations, Some Insight, Few Conclusions

Perel has a very poetic style of writing and speaking. Her stance and approach seem very French to me (although she's Belgian by nationality) by that I mean removed, evasive with few if any conclusions. I found she was way too comfortable with the discomfort of her female patients particularly with the woman who's husband wanted to enact s&m fantasies on her. As psychotherapist I'm shocked she didn't dig deeper with the patients and their background. I get a sense she wasn't asking many questions in session rather taking notes....to be later used for a book. It's helpful book in the sense it opens up dialogue and nuance around subjects that are often unspoken but anything more substantial or tangible I'm unsure. I actually loved her accent/performance.

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Good book

Not sure if I learned anything though... I wish the writer just hired a professional narrator. Was hard to listen.

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Boring with a good title

I highly suggest skipping this one. She just talks about sex stories some of her patients have, but even that isn’t interesting. The book reminds me of typical therapy where there are no solutions and no understanding.

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