• No Time to Say Goodbye

  • Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One
  • By: Carla Fine
  • Narrated by: Carla Fine
  • Length: 6 hrs and 11 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (100 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Suicide would appear to be the last taboo. Even incest is now discussed freely in popular media, but the suicide of a loved one is still an act most people are unable to talk about or even admit to their closest family or friends. This is just one of the many painful and paralyzing truths that author Carla Fine discovered when her husband, a successful young physician, took his own life in December 1989. And being unable to speak openly and honestly about the cause of her pain made it all the more difficult for her to survive.

With No Time to Say Goodbye, she brings suicide survival from the darkness into light, speaking frankly about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger, and loneliness that are shared by all survivors. Fine draws on her own experience as well as on the knowledge of counselors and mental health professionals. She offers a strong helping hand and invaluable guidance to the vast numbers of family and friends who are left behind by the more than 30,000 people who commit suicide each year. And, perhaps most important, for the first time in any book, she allows survivors to see that they are not alone in their feelings of grief and despair.

©1999 Carla Fine (P)2016 Tantor

Critic Reviews

"[T]his book offers hope in its summary of predictable patterns of adjustment." ( Library Journal)

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If You Have EVER contemplated suicide...

Read this book. If knowing the trail of horror that you will leave behind in the wake of killing yourself doesn't stop you, nothing will...

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Excellent Help to Understand Your Grief and Specia

This is well organized and well written for those of us who have had a loved one die from suicide. It is a special kind of grief that isn't quite covered in other general grief books.

At first I felt an undercurrent of anger, but by the end I knew that was not true, though it is very understandable.

I highly recommend this book to anyone suffering from this kind of grief.

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Horrible. Not helpful at all.

I recently lost my sister to suicide and I'm looking for a self-help on how to get through the grieving process. This is not it. I listened through half of this and it is just story after story of people who have suffered the same type of loss but that's it. No words of advice. I'm so depressed now if I were suicidal this would push me over the edge of hopelessness. Sheesh.

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this really seemed to help me.

my brother committed suicide
and this book has been really helping me through the first few weeks so far. it hurts to know others actually feel this too, because it's a horrible feeling.

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If you've ever lost someone to suicide this is the

Some people may not be able to enjoy because of the author's voice performance, but I actually enjoyed her gritty New York accent. Her words just felt more honest and sincere, because these were her words in her voice. This book is honest and to the point, highly recommend if you've lost someone in this manner.

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to much detail

at times I found to graphic detail not needed and wounding. I do not see what benefit there is in all gritty details.

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Really inspiring and helpful

A perfect book for the survivors of the suicide of a loved one and also for those who are thinking of commite suicide. Must read book.

Thanks to the author for sharing her feelings and emotions.

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In Honor of Suicide Prevention Month

Where does No Time to Say Goodbye rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This was a difficult book to start, primarily because I knew it would be heavy and my normal choices are not heavy. I read for a love of ready and stories and thought this might be a dry listen.

What did you like best about this story?

I loved the fact that the author, Carla Fine, read this work to us. She did a beautiful job of bringing the stigma of suicide and the very real struggle for survival after the suicide of a loved one into very clear focus. She used the stories of other survivors in a very non-hysterical way to make suicide something open for discussion.

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I highly recommend this book to anywone who has encountered suicide in their personal lives. It is a healing book.

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Raw reality rendering relief

I think I endured the book. My wife died two years ago and it brought back all the memories and some of the pain. But it's reality and knowing I'm not alone and that others have excepted it helped me. To know that some people have been in support groups for 15 years telling their story over and over help me to realize I should be telling someone my store. I should group Jonah support group. Myself analysis says that I may have poster medic stress syndrome. Thank you for the worst book i have ever enjoyed.

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Get past the reader’s accent

At first I thought I would not be able to finish listening to this book due to the reader’s strong NY accent, but I realized she was both the author and the presenter. How brave and strong of her to be able to share her story aloud. As a person who lost two close friends to suicide in less than a month, I found the book very insightful of both my own feelings and how to comfort the surviving partners of my friends no longer with us. Thank you Carla for compassionately sharing your story and the story of others along with the grieving and healing process that goes along with it.

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  • Mamalina
  • 01-25-20

Insightful, highly recommended

Insightful and useful book for me as trainee counsellor and bereavement supporter.
The narration by the author was monotonous and a bit rushed at the same time, particularly when she is reading other survivors accounts. There were no pause between stories, so sometimes it was confusing where one story ends and another starts.

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  • Mrs. Rachel Atkinson
  • 08-18-22

Helpful book

Interesting read & helped with the grief of losing my dad to suicide. She captures all the emotions and thoughts I had & attempted to provide answers to some of the many questions.

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  • LEACH Theresa
  • 06-07-22

very helpful for suicide survivors

I found this very helpful and cathartic after a colleague committed suicide. very good

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-12-21

Great companion for recovery after suicide

I admire the very personal, delicate, gentle and honest way it has been written. It gives you hope, courage and most of all validation for your thoughts and feelings, that you are not crazy and you are not alone. I could not but listen it through in one go (as much as possible). I cried and I smiled because of recognition. It was a huge releif to get validation for my feelings and reactions. It also offers great insight into understanding the other members of my family who reacted very different from me, And that brings reconciliation and forgiveness. This book has been one of the major factors of my recovery and the bond that the lived experience of suicide loss does create is experience even through a book. I am enormously grateful for the author of being there and sharing her story and stories of many others who have lost a loved-one to suicide. Instead of seeing myself as a total loser of failure because of the suicide of my beloved father, I now see myself as almost a hero - because 30 years later I understand how incredibly difficult thing I had to go through as a child and mostly on my own because of the secrecy and silence in the family caused by the shame and stigma of the society. But as other suvivors, the amazing thing is against all odds, I did survive. My only wish is that no one would have to go through this alone as I did - and Carla's book is a wonderful help in that.

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  • shelley lord
  • 07-31-20

Finally, some comfort

This book was recommended to me by my grievance councillor following the suicide of my best friend. I never for one moment thought it would help me, let alone discover that what I was experiencing was all too common amongst suicide survivors. It has really helped me feel a unity with anyone who's loved one has taken their own life. It makes you realise you're not alone and the feelings you are experiencing are normal. There's nothing more harrowing than suicide so for your loved one to kill themselves, you need all the support you can find. This book helped me to feel normal again x

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-24-21

Helping me lots but very gritty

This book is an astonishing summary of what all suicide survivors go through snd I found the content very helpful

However the narrator is not great. I know it’s the author and I don’t mind the gritty accent but it’s read very fast and without much pause or thoughtfulness. It’s hard to follow the audio at times