• Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)

  • The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
  • By: Thomas Gordon
  • Narrated by: Jamie MacKenzie
  • Length: 5 hrs and 45 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (425 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

P.E.T. began over 45 years ago as the first national parent-training program to teach parents how to communicate more effectively with kids and offer step-by-step advice to resolving family conflict so everybody wins. This beloved classic is the most studied, highly-praised, and proven parenting program in the world -and it will for you.

This ground-breaking book will show you:

  • How to avoid being a permissive parent.
  • How to listen so kids will talk to you and talk so kids will listen to you.
  • How to teach your children to "own" their problems and to solve them.
  • How to use the "No-Lose" method to resolve conflicts.

    Using the timeless methods of P.E.T. will have immediate results: less fighting, fewer tantrums and lies, no need for punishment. Whether you have a toddler striking out for independence or a teenager who has already started rebelling, you'll find P.E.T. a compassionate, effective way to instill responsibility and create a nurturing family environment in which your children will thrive.

  • ©2000 Thomas Gordon (P)2009 Big Happy Family, LLC

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    Very helpful book.

    What did you love best about Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.)?

    I really liked this book and found it helpful. I have a complaint though. The author does a really excellent job explaining the concepts, but doesn't explain how to implement them as well as I needed him to (more examples would have helped). The book feels at a number of points like an advertisement for PET videos (no longer available) or courses which, perhaps, provide the missing implementation details. I still highly recommend this book, but you may want to read other similar books to get a handle on implementing the ideas. If you're only going to read one parenting book, you'll probably do better with How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk".

    What other book might you compare Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) to and why?

    How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk has some similar ideas perhaps not as well explained but with implementation explained better. I think PET has some very good concepts and explanations that won't be found in HTTSKWLALSKWT, though. Read both.

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    Great Communication Tool

    What made the experience of listening to Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) the most enjoyable?

    This was the best perspective on interpersonal communication and active listening that I've heard.

    What did you like best about this story?

    The fact that I tried the techniques and they actually work. The active listening worked with my Son (11), my Daughter (16), my wife, Brother, Sister-in-law.... This really works!

    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    The roadblocks to active listening and communication.

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    Great information

    Great information, although I wished there was an abridged version. (Sidenote: generally, I dislike abridged books). But there is a lot of information here that could have been presented in a more straightforward manner.

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    A must for every parent

    This book helped change the way I look at raising my child. We have given up power struggles and have a happy, laughter-filled house. It's not always easy, but it is simple. Rather than set up winners (and thereby losers) to conflicts, learn to work together to solve problems so that everybody 'wins'.

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    great examples

    I highly recommend it. Very helpful! I couuld relate to a lot of the material discussed and it was easy to put into use. My children like the new way I listen and I like the feeback the chidren give me. My husband has began to listen to it and I can see how he tries the new concepts and has avoided the arguments by applying the new listening skills.

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    Best thing I have ever done for my kids

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    Very informative and easy to follow with great examples. I have 3 kids under 4 yrs and was just as relative to them as I'm sure to older kids.

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    Loved it!

    This book was recommended by the therpist of my 11 yo daughter who has been diagnosed with a chronic disease. I've realized that there's a lot i could have differently and better ways to deal with kids feelings and behaviours. In the 3 days that took me to listen the book i've tried the suggested approaches with both my kids (11 and 4) and i'm supprised by the good results. i believe these techniques will also bring good results on dealing colleagues. :)

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    Good ideas but too much focus on negative

    I like the ideas that are presented and the principles that are presented in this book. But the focus seems to be so much on all of the horrible effects on your children if you mess up and do what you are not "supposed " to do. There needs to be many more good examples and positive ideas and a positive focus for this book to be better. The whole tone of the book just seems way too negative and catastrophic if you mess up how you talk to your children.

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    Brilliant book!

    I just wish it was longer so there could be more elaboration on the techniques, which are fantastic. It felt like most of the book was about what we do wrong as parents.

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    • 02-24-15

    Love it Live it

    Third time I read it... Always more to learn and each time I listen to it I pickup something new

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    • 01-27-21

    very simple and useful

    loved it, easy to listen to and easy to follow. extremely important parenting information. a must listen for teachers and carers too!

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    • Anonymous User
    • 05-17-20

    Best Parenting Book

    I love to learn and read/listen to audio books alot but this one is by far my favorite, there are so many practical tips and explanations to implement which I begun immediately. It is one of those books you know you will come back to many times over your parenting journey.

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    • Anonymous User
    • 12-26-19

    Dated but still useful

    This book would have been groundbreaking when written, many concepts are still controversial, some accepted and now dated, mostly very useful and well backed with data.

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    • adis
    • 05-30-19

    relationship fixer

    fixed relationship with my son, also helped in dealings with my wife. forever grateful. love it

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    • Anonymous User
    • 08-20-18

    I’m now a better parent

    This book improved my parenting before I even finished it. I’m going to listen to it at least twice. I enjoy my kids much more now as well.

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    • Anne-Marije Bussink
    • 08-11-18

    Fabulous book on peaceful parenting

    Great book and parenting and communication philosophy and practical information. Highly recommend! Loved it heaps!

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    • Valeria Vincentini
    • 07-26-18

    Valuable parenting advice!

    I got a lot out of this book. Feel I will definitely be a better parent and have a more connected and respectful relationship with my three boys in applying some of the tips this book provides.

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    • Chris
    • 12-27-16

    Every parent needs this

    In fact everyone needs this. This book is the solution to pretty much all the world's problems.

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    • sunny_down_under
    • 03-04-16

    A book all parents should read

    P.E.T is a must read for all parents who are determined to have healthy lifelong relationships with their children. By reading it, I have identified potentially damaging behaviour in my actions and then learned new strategies to improve communication with my children. A great, easy read, clear and sobering.