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Didn’t get the love you desire from your parents? Still craving for their approval?

From a young age, we try to impress our parents and make them happy. We behave ourselves and stay out of trouble. We study and work hard to make our parents proud. We did everything we can to please our parents but yet it’s never enough. They still treat us the same. Why is it so difficult to get our parents to love us?

Children long for their parents love. They want to be loved and accepted for who they are. But wait a minute...we are adults now. We are no longer children. Why are we still craving for our parents’ approval? 

No matter how old you are, whenever you are with parents, you automatically become a kid again, and your parents will play their roles. Your relationship with your parents often stays the same. Since you can’t change your parents, the only way to improve your relationship with your parents is to change yourself.

Be your own parent.

If you are constantly longing for love from someone else such as your parents, partner, or friends, you might want to revisit your childhood. As children, we didn’t receive the love we desire from our parents. So we are still seeking someone to fulfill this void in us. The truth is we have the capacity to love ourselves. We don’t have to wait for someone else to give us the affirmations and validations we need. Changing your parents or hoping they will treat you differently will only leave you disappointed, frustrated, and hurt.

The purpose of this book is to help you learn how to love yourself and be your own parent. What your parents failed to do for you in the past, you can do it for yourself now.

In this book, you’ll learn:

  • The dynamics of a parent-child relationship
  • How your childhood might have affected your adult life
  • Why is it difficult to change your parents
  • How to grow your inner parent
  • How to heal your inner child and take care of its needs
  • The different protective mechanisms you have adopted subconsciously that prevent you from loving yourself

Parent Yourself Again is a simple book for self-reflection and self-exploration. If you want a better relationship with yourself and your parents, listen to this book. Download to get started today!

©2018 Yong Kang Chan (P)2018 Yong Kang Chan

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LITERALLY THE BEST!!!

First of all, I hate reading so thanks audible. Now my reviews on the book are phenomenal. Great way to view your parents and their parenting and how you are allowing them to still parent you as an adult. Crazy, but I never could pin point my life and put it together since I am so analytical. This book allowed me to not only for seeing my childhood but evaluating how I still allow it to affect me as a wife, child, parent and employee. Great book guys, worth every penny.

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brilliant, just what I needed to hear

a must read, such valuable insight into re-parenting myself. it always comes back to love.

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Say what?

I'm not sure how that helps anyone. I am not even sure how that was not just talking in circles. Waste of $.

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Powerful and healing

The format is very personal yet guided towards unlocking the healing and love within yourself. it brings out the essence of living for the present while making room for the past experiences that shaped us as kids. Giving us a window into the love we can have for ourselves as we become our own parents. Highly recommended, especially if you're trying to discover more about who you are and why you might act as you do now.

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Parent yourself again enlighten

Enlighting way to think outside the boxes of life and people in which they treat you and look from the outside in.not everything is what it seems.l believe in karma and things happen for a reason even though we may not understand it at the time.also,how a person is raised and disciplined is more than likely how they will treat their family and other people depending on their family circumstances and beliefs.dare to be the first to break the chains and treat others the way you would like to be treated❣️💃🏻👍🏻

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If you are feeling stuck as a adult

Everyday I was feeling sad or didnt know what to do and what was right or wrong & was scared to not satisfy my parents. This book is amazing. I had been in bed for 2 weeks feeling like I shouldnt even try anything and feeling it was the wrong thing to do. This book really helped me. Thank you to the author. I relate to him so much and thank him for writing this amazing book.

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Love it !! deep, easy and inspiring

excellent!! pretty easy to understand and follow the practices to be a better person without the shadow of a bad parenting.

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Invaluable, enlightened and practical

This guide came to me at exactly the right time. Yong Kang Chan’s experiences spoke right to my heart and life journey and are helping me process my own pain and grief so I can better take care of myself and be a more loving person. Thank you!

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  • herethereandnowhere
  • 12-29-18

great book but some flaws

great advice wonderfully written and narrated BUT this is not great advice for everyone. This is for people who have had mild to moderate trouble with their parents. Apart from the inner work described here which I would highly recommend many people ALSO need to establish firm boundaries (boundaries are not discussed in this book) if the parents keep hurting, intereferring or bullying them or even cut them out completely if they are a really destructive force for your own sanity. The book advises that cutting parents out completely will only make you bitter. Not necessarily so, for many people it's the only way to move on, then they are no subjected to the abuse particularly if the abuse was that bad. Moreover, it is up to the individual to make the right choice for themselves. Clearly the author has only experienced a certain level of abuse if he can conclude breaking away is not an option at all. I don't believe in black and white thinking either you should or shouldn't do something, it's up to the individual or their circumstances.

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  • Gavin McInerney
  • 02-20-19

Don't waste your money or time.

A completely useless book. Just one guys biography bracketed by the words love your hurt inner child, forgive your parents, parent yourself. Absolutely no advice or instructions on what to do. This guy has not even had a difficult childhood to overcome. The mantra is be the parent you would have liked your parents to be, but no advice on how to do that. It is the equivalent of reading a book called, Build a rocket and explore space, which only consists of the advice that the best way to build a rocket and explore space is...to build a rocket and then explore space... yes it is unfortunate that no one told you how to build a rocket and explore space...but the people who should have told you had no one to tell them. So forgive them and build the rocket you wished they had told you about. Then you will be free to explore space and as a sign of your growth take them with you. Out of this world advice and wisdom.

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  • Sjaad
  • 10-11-19

Loving myself

Absolutely loved this book. It has helped me in ways I did not expect. I had so many lightbulb moments while listening to this book. I will definitely be loving myself more.

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  • Akuchi
  • 11-20-21

Totally enjoyed reading this book

Loving yourself must be deliberate and kind. Thank you for this insight. I enjoyed reading this book and will look out for more books from this author.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-03-21

A great insight on how to parent your adult self

This was an easy read that came in my life just at the right time. Especially the last 2 chapters were so helpful. I recommend it to anyone struggling with childhood parental trauma.

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  • freda baxter
  • 06-13-20

Not sure!

Didn't resonate with me - cultural differences probably. Some pearls in it though. Felt the author was helping himself talk through his problems rather than me.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-20-19

Highly Recommended book!

I really liked listening to this book, while listening to it I was becoming aware of my emotions. The way I have felt about my parents and also myself!

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  • Danielle
  • 10-19-19

good

wasn't sure at start but was well pleased defianatly answered a few unknown questions worth a listen too.