• Raising Them

  • Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting
  • By: Kyl Myers
  • Narrated by: Kyl Myers
  • Length: 7 hrs and 16 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (47 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

"What did you have? A boy or a girl?" Kyl and Brent imagined it would be years before their child would identify with a gender. Until then...

As a first-time parent, Kyl Myers had one aspect dialed in from the start: not being beholden to the boy-girl binary, disparities, or stereotypes from the day a child is born. With no wish to eliminate gender but rather gender discrimination, Kyl and her husband, Brent, ventured off on a parenting path less traveled. Raising a confident, compassionate, and self-aware person was all that mattered.

In this illuminating memoir, Kyl delivers a liberating portrait of a family's choice to dismantle the long-accepted and often-harmful social construct of what it means to be assigned a gender from birth. As a sociologist, Kyl explores the science of gender and sex and the adulthood gender inequities that start in childhood. As a loving parent, Kyl shares the joy of watching an amazing child named Zoomer develop their own agency to grow happily and healthily toward their own gender identity and expression.

Candid and surprising, Raising Them is an inspiration to parents and to anyone open to understanding the limitless possibilities of being yourself.

©2020 Kyl Myers (P)2020 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.

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Life Changing!

I can barely write a full sentence without feeling emotional! I have 3 beautiful children and my Middle child is 5. They do not conform to gender norms and my family has not been very supportive.
This book has brought me so much peace and given me tools to face this world head on. I feel confident as a parent of a child that needs me too be their advocate.
I wish Zommer's story was available to me while I was pregnant with my first. To anyone that is considering being a parent...THIS IS A MUST!

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Kyl Myers... thank you for your Wisdom.

I wish I could go back in time and have the wisdom this young brilliant Mommy and Daddy have. Way to Go you two 👏 🙌 👍 ❤ Zoomer is incredibly lucky to have you as parents.

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THEY RAD! THEM AWESOME! THEIR AMAZING!

What a gift this book is and such an amazing family leading the way in helping the world accept one another from birth! Eye opening on how important gender creative posting is to the future of our equal society! A must read!

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Part 2 PLEASE

I'm gender queer and enjoyed hearing about Zoomer! Hoping for a second book in future.

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Interesting but repetitive

Too repetitive and with not too much content. It focuses on the writer's story instead of practical tips for parents and gender social analysis

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Societal Breakthrough and Heartwarming Page Turner

"Raising Them", gives a new refreshing perspective on gender and biological sex and their relationship to our identity. It's filled with heartwarming moments, and a few places where I actually held my breath. Like all of us, Dr. Myers is a relatively new parent who is doing the best they can, but they're also brave enough to try to break out the mold at the same time to benefit not only their child's future, but all of our children. Loved it.

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Eye Opening

I recommend this book to everyone, everywhere I go. And I mean E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G
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What an amazing listen

I knew some of the story, but not all. You will laugh and you will cry and you will find language to express your own binaries and find hope in all you’re doing to change the binaries and patriarchy we all live within. THANK YOU KYL AND FAMILY!

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  • 12-03-21

inspiring and thought provoking

the story of a trailblazer, some one brave enough to try new ways that better align with their values and principles.

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  • 10-09-21

Brave & Brilliant

So wonderfully written, such an interesting and heartfelt account of Zoomer’s early years and an inspiring message about how we can raise our children in the future. Absolutely loved it!

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  • CINTIA ROJO ORTIZ
  • 04-12-22

loved it

Just brilliant. I wish I had read this before my baby was born. Will try to apply some of the concepts now.