• Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child

  • The Heart of Parenting
  • By: John Gottman PhD
  • Narrated by: Roy Worley
  • Length: 8 hrs and 4 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (576 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

From Dr. John Gottman comes Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child, a modern guide to raising healthy and emotionally intelligent children, with a foreword by Daniel Goleman, New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Intelligence.  

Based on 20 years of research at the University of Washington studying parent-child interactions, award-winning research psychologist John Gottman and his team have developed Emotion Coaching - a technique parents can use to teach their children self-awareness and self-control and to foster good emotional development. This proven technique has demonstrated a positive effect on children's physical health, academic achievement, and emotional well-being.    

Among the issues this program explores:  

  • Emotion Coaching: the key to raising emotionally intelligent kids 
  • How to assess your parenting style 
  • Key steps and strategies for Emotion Coaching 
  • The effects of marriage and divorce on your child's emotional health 
  • The crucial role of fathers in families  

Dr. Gottman's research has shown that children who learn to master their emotions have more self-confidence, do better in school, and have a better chance of living happy, emotionally healthy lives. Filled with practical and common-sense advice on how to become an Emotion Coaching parent, this is a how-to guide for parents interested in helping their children grow into "emotionally intelligent" people.

©1997 John Gottman (P)2018 Macmillan Audio

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My parenting philosophy, in writing!

I'm a 31 year old soon to be first time dad! I didn't grow up with a father or a great mother... so I am throwing myself all in to this endeavor. I've been searching for any validation that I'm on the right track... and here it is, and more! I love this mindset and it got my wife onboard with this type of strategy which they call "emotion coaching." Show respect to get respect. Be empathetic. Value and foster their autonomy. I loved this book and helped me formulate who I want to be as a person and a parent more than any other book I've read on the subject so far.

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Good, albeit moralistic and outdated at times

The main message of the importance of emotional coaching is well laid out with plenty of practical guidance. The author sometimes goes too far when suggesting that a whole bunch of systemic social issues could be avoided with more emotional coaching, which is a bold statement and also unscientific because it is unfalsifiable. Clearly the man is a psychologist and not an economist or political analyst. So I suggest sticking to the parts that are about psychological child development.
Narration is not good. You can tell from the way that the narrator emphasizes certain words that he often does not understand what he's reading.

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WONDERFUL

Only problem with this book is that I wish I would have read it when I had my first child, not until I had my sixth.

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audio wouldn't finish

Great tools for anyone trying to improve. However my audio only played through chapter 7 and said Finished. Not sure why it didn't read through all 9 chapters. I'm very disappointed I couldn't hear the rest of the book.

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A must read for all the Parents

This is an excellent book, very well written by the author. I was able to test some of the techniques on my kid. Totally worth it.

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great information for parents of kids, all ages.

I found a lot of value in this book! My youngest is 8 and oldest is 15, and I wish I'd read it years ago. But now I've read/listened to it and I feel better about going forward in my journey as a parent.

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some really good information and pointers

I'll find out if it works once my baby is born but I enjoyed the listen although some parts were boring and long.

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Great but needs update

Friends of mine told me this is the one book you have to read as a parent. They may be right. I really found it thought provoking, but I think it needs to be updated especially toward the second half.

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Outstanding listen

Recommend for any parent or teacher, husbands, wives, or other spouses. Great examples of how to apply the principles laid out. Gottman delivers broad findings from research and specific applications. Well written with loads of great information applicable to parenting across different ages and being a good partner to your spouse.

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Improved my relationship with my son

My relationship with my son is within a whole new level after “reading” this book. Awesome! And totally recommend it.

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