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Publisher's Summary

This program is read by the author. 

A fearless debut audiobook memoir in which beloved and best-selling How to Raise an Adult author Julie Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches in her recollections of growing up a biracial Black woman in America. 

Bringing a poetic sensibility to her prose to stunning effect, Lythcott-Haims briskly and stirringly evokes her personal battle with the low self-esteem that American racism routinely inflicts on people of color. The only child of a marriage between an African-American father and a White British mother, she shows indelibly how so-called "micro" aggressions in addition to blunt force insults can puncture a person's inner life with a thousand sharp cuts. Real American expresses, also, through Lythcott-Haims' path to self-acceptance, the healing power of community in overcoming the hurtful isolation of being incessantly considered "the other". 

The author of the New York Times best-selling anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult, Lythcott-Haims offers listeners a different kind of story this time out but one that will nevertheless resonate with the legions of students, educators, and parents to whom she is now well known, by whom she is beloved, and to whom she has always provided wise and necessary counsel about how to embrace and nurture their best selves. Real American is an affecting memoir, an unforgettable cri de coeur, and a clarion call to all of us to live more wisely, generously and fully. 

©2017 Julie Lythcott-Haims (P)2017 Macmillan Audio

Critic Reviews

"Courageous, achingly honest." (Michelle Alexander, New York Times best-selling author of The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness)
"A compelling, incisive, and thoughtful examination of race, origin, and what it means to be called an American. Engaging, heartfelt, and beautifully written, Lythcott-Haims explores the American spectrum of identity with refreshing courage and compassion." (Bryan Stevenson, New York Times best-selling author of Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption)

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Lythcott-Haims really opened my eyes and heart to the essential meaning of “Black Lives Matter,”. This should be required reading for all Americans, especially white - like me. As a hospice volunteer I also thought her writing about end-of -life at the end of the book was among the most beautiful I have read.
Ms Lythcott-Haims Thank you for writing and reading your story.

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I so enjoyed this book. It brought up emotions and understanding for ways I too have felt. Her words were like spun silk. I couldn't wait to fold laundry and commute (my treat was this book), and I was so sad when I finished it. I'm looking forward to more from this author. Big thank you to her and all involved to bring it to me.

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I loved it. The story line is great and the delivery was even better.

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I knew this book would resonate with me as a bi-racial woman near the author’s age. Thank you for putting to words the multiple similar experiences I have shared. When asked by my estranged Father: “No kids?”, (speaking for both my brother and me), I said: “Oh no. We’re stopping this madness at this generation.”

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Incisive and riviting

I so appriciate the authors raw emotion while reading the audiobook. I felt this book as well as readout.

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Powerful, well told & worth every minute and dollar

I deeply appreciate this exploration of what it means to be a Black woman in America. The author’s own voice telling the story makes it especially intimate - you hear her voice crack at some painful moments and she tries to rush through others. She is doing this for all of us, so we can better understand ourselves and those around us. I’ll be giving this book as a holiday gift.

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Beautiful, vulnerable, real

This is my first time writing a book review for Audible, despite going through dozens of books a year. This is also the first time I have ever read a book that reflected back to me so much of my own experience and inner life as a Black American woman who is also of mixed parentage and who was raised in relative privilege in white spaces in this country, now married to a white Jewish man. This memoir filled a need I didn’t realize I still had to see that I’m not alone in my experiences, or pain, or shame, or hope, or my continued desire and effort to connect more deeply with the broader Black community in America, and to love myself and us in the face of history and so much ongoing hatred. Lythcott-Haims writes beautifully, with courageous vulnerability and honesty, and I was frequently moved to tears by her words and her reading delivery. I am eternally thankful to the author for sharing her life story, and cannot recommend this book highly enough.

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Great read! This book is very powerful and honest.

Very true and eye opening. I couldn't put this book down. It is a must read for everyone. Black, white, mixed raced and especially for anyone in a biracial relationship.

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Audacious introspective journey that turns a light on for many!

Some may understand and it will click, some may refuse to, but either way Julie Lyncott-Haims tells several truths. Some being her own from the depths of a dark subconsciousness. Others being truths not readily admitted by a US society that has refused to fully acknowledge the deep looming wrongs of the past that have now taunted our present. This book lured me in and took me through a range of emotions. Some forced me to look at concepts or ideals my eyes were unable to perceive. Even about myself. So thank you for being brave, naked and taking the lid off and pouring out your reality so that it saturates deeply into us. Thanks for using your voice. Literally and figuratively.

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I'm so grateful for having listened to this important narrative. Julie writes as a scholar and speaks as a poet and her vulnerability and humanity are there on every page. This will be my selection for my 14 years going book club; I can't wait to reread and discuss and get into the details with my friends. The best part of audible is sharing my library with my sons, 25, 20 and 18. This is a book they must hear.