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In this important sequel to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers powerful tools to help you step back and protect yourself at the first sign of an emotional takeover, make sure your emotions and needs are respected, and break free from the coercive control of emotionally immature parents.

Growing up with emotionally immature (EI) parents can leave you feeling lonely and neglected. You may have trouble setting limits and expressing your feelings. And you may even be more susceptible to other emotionally immature people as you establish adult relationships. In addition, as your parents become older, they may still treat your emotions with mockery and contempt, be dismissive and discounting of your reality, and try to control and diminish your sense of emotional autonomy and freedom of thought. In short, EIs can be self-absorbed, inconsistent, and contradictory. So, how can you recover from their toxic behavior?

Drawing on the success of her popular self-help book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, author Lindsay Gibson offers yet another essential resource. With this follow-up guide, you’ll learn practical skills to help you recognize the signs of an EI, protect yourself against an emotional takeover, reconnect with your own emotions and needs, and gain emotional autonomy in all your relationships. This is a how-to book, with doable exercises and active tips and suggestions for what to say and do to increase emotional autonomy and self-awareness.

If you’re ready to stop putting your own needs last, clear the clutter of self-doubt, and move beyond the fear of judgment and punishment that’s been instilled in you by emotionally immature parents, this book will help you find the freedom to finally live your life your way.

©2019 Lindsay C. Gibson (P)2019 New Harbinger Publications

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Asinine

If you are a 14-yr-old girl with no social skills and are excited at the prospect of a 7-hr relationship self-help article in a tabloid magazine, this book is for you.

Gibson's earlier book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, was poorly written, but touched on some very important topics and was quite insightful in my view. I'd hoped this book would expand on those topics. Instead, it obscures them with oversimplified drivel that no trained therapist would take seriously, like 'just snap out of your dissociation'. Read Adult Children of EIPs, but skip this one. Seems like she's just trying to squeeze a few more bucks out of people.

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I wish I had this 40 years ago

This book gives you a clear understanding of how your childhood experiences shape your current decisions- who you let into your life and what behavior you accept.

It also helps you determine who has your best interests at heart and how to recognize people who are keeping you in their orbit for their own purposes.

Lastly, it gives you strategies for changing how you act and react so your decisions benefit your mental and emotional health.

It’s amazing how your schedule frees up when others realize they can’t use and abuse you anymore.

Highly recommended for people who frequently think, “There’s something wrong about this.” You are right.

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Where has this book been all my life?!!

I’m blown away by how accurately this book describes my dad’s personality and behavior. I could never quite put my finger on all the things that have bothered me about him, but this book has given me a new understanding of the way he acts and specific things I can do to limit his effect on me. I don’t usually write reviews, but this book has been very empowering and I am excited to explore this new direction it has pointed me in. Thank you Lindsay Gibson!

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Very insightful

Very insightful. Great examples of EIP’s behavior and how to take back your identity. Highly recommend!

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Helped me to understand and treat myself better

It opened my eyes on a lot of things that was okay for me but it’s not. A lot of helpful tips how to break the pattern that was built in your relationship with emotionally immature parents.
It helps to establish how you actually are rather than your parents told you.

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Practical solutions. Awful narration.

This second book on emotionally immature parents is more solutions focused. I still recommend listening to the first book. It has been helping me deal with my mother. The narration is awful though. The ladies tone goes up and down that becomes distracting. You may want to purchase the physical book.

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I would recommend this book to absolutely everyone

This book gives me the confidence I need to maintain the boundaries I've developed to cope with my own EIP. The author has a way with words that resonated so strongly that at times I could actually feel my muscles relax in response. Even if you feel secure in your own dealing with EIPs in your life, this book is incredibly validating.

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straightforward, realistic advice

I read "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" and loved it, and found this book to be a great addition and worthwhile read. While the prequel focuses on the nature and impact of emotionally immature parents, this book gives clear and practical advice on processing the damage that has been done and reclaiming your emotional autonomy. It does not sugarcoat anything but instead allows you to see the opportunities you have to meet your needs and change your circumstances. I felt that using this book to realize my options, rights, and needs was an important step in my healing journey.

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Life-changing

Want to change your life, read this book. Especially if you've been raised by emotionally immature parents.

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Did not enjoy the narration

I think the information here is important but I was too distracted with the narrator’s cadence. Purchased the ebook and exchanged for a different title.

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  • alice
  • 01-11-20

This book was an absolute revelation for me

I cannot express how elucidating and valuable this book has been for me. It felt like someone watched my life and then wrote a book about it. So many things were put into words that I did not have words for before. I would absolutely recommend this book for anyone struggling with mental health/addiction recovery/self esteem etc. who may understand that their upbringing had some part to play but have not yet fully explored it.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-13-20

One of the best books I ever read!!

a lot of books of this type follow same patern of "tear it down and later build it up". By this I mean that roughly this kind of books has intro, later they state the problem and last chapter is solution. But as a person who had experienced a lot in life I find it hard to go through long chapters of "stating a problem" with no "daylight". In this book I felt they have used a bit different approach as to state a problem and give you a solution and explanation based on that. With every chapter I felt more and more empowered and free. Honestly my biggest and the most sincere THANK YOU to author of this book!

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  • Ann
  • 01-12-21

Not for me

Some may find this content interesting however I found it boring, dull and quite negative.

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  • Just Me
  • 07-01-20

Interesting

Hits a wide range of people, goes under your skin and make you see how vulnerable you are

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  • Simon
  • 04-06-20

Very good in self discovery but not trauma.

This was actually similar to her excellent last book in the first half with practical advice in the second. However if you feel you have trauma from abuse then see a counsellor too.

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  • CW
  • 09-13-21

eye opener

Loved it, now I need to listen again and go through each exercise in more detail.
Sad to say at my age I feel frightened to raise with my own parents step over boundaries but this book has given me the tools to deal with them in a mature and respectful way. Something I was never taught, as my feelings were "over reaction" and imagined.
I am in danger of becoming the EI parent but I'm here to stop the cycle

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  • Mr. Haider Shakiry
  • 12-31-20

Very helpful

I wish the PDFs and exercises mentioned were included to download as I couldn’t find them anywhere else other than by buying a hard copy of this very helpful and therapeutic audio book

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  • Jade Bedford
  • 08-19-21

Life changing

This book has actually transformed my life. I am astounded at how much of it rings true.

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  • Evgenii
  • 02-27-21

A good introduction to self improvement from emotionally immature parents

It turned out, I read this book after 50 (!!!) others .. it’s very helpful, like an introduction to possible childhood issues, however it’s very superficial. I’m not saying it’s bad or irrelevant, what I want to say - it must be 10 times bigger to really help and cover all issues, rather than quickly go through and give advices.

This book by its own won’t resolve issues. Why? I had to read 2-5 books on each topic , like: boundaries and limits, assertiveness, narcissistic and bordeline abuse, radical honesty, DBT, self esteem workbooks, critical voice and its affect, and more.

What I’m trying to say, the book is good, can provide a path for further work, allow to acknowledge the range of individual issues, and I wish I began with it, rather than finish the process)) but each topic, e.g. like critical voice- noticing, observing, journaling, analyzing and eliminating affects- needs weeks of works, I used three books for that. So, roughly 10 minutes , devoted to this topic in the book- will just touch the topic and give an idea 💡 there’s an issue, but be prepared to further explore the topic and for most people I would suggest working with a specialist to avoid overwhelming.

Like the second book of the author, words narcissism and bordelines weren’t pronounced, but it’s about them in anyway, these are affects of these pathologis in one way or another. That means, that affects on mental health of their victims shouldn’t be underestimated and one book won’t be able to resolve anything, and specialists will be needed in most cases

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  • stbull92
  • 11-15-20

A must read/listen for anyone raised by EIPs

Really helpful and has enabled me to empathize with my parents for how they treated us growing up - it does not excuse their abusive and emotionally neglectful behaviour - but helps me to move on now I know it wasn't about me but their lack of ability to show up emotionally for their children.

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  • Samantha Gardiner
  • 07-30-21

Just incredible

I have struggled for years with the relationship with my EIP mum. Constant feelings of guilt and shame coupled with distress at her constant negative comments. This book was referred to me by a friend. I listened to it over 3 days and genuinely feel like it changed everything for me. From describing the character traits of EIPS, to teaching me how to manage them, to helping me create a better relationship for myself such that I can live without the guilt and shame I was experiencing with every interaction, I am so incredibly grateful for this book. It’s a game changer for anyone with an EIP in their life and I can’t recommend it enough!

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  • Elizabeth
  • 07-09-20

Interesting

As I grow older and see that I continue with the same old emotional habits, and watch others do the same, I realise that we're trapped by our conditioning.
Listening to this book was very interesting, explanations of behaviours were given, I had many Aha! moments.
It helped me look at my own beliefs, figure out where I formed them and how to let damaging and limiting ones go.
I highly recommend this book.

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  • Beks
  • 01-20-21

Really helpful

Excellent read, really beaks things down and gives it all a proper name. Outlines specific strategies to protect yourself while still maintaining some form of contact

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  • Kathy
  • 01-16-22

Fantastic book!

Great book with very useful ways of reframing & addressing challenging & long standing situations

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  • Catherine
  • 12-15-21

Equal to Years of therapy

This is by far the most insightful and empowering book I’ve read on this theme, and for me was more useful than my experience with therapy. This is the sequel, the original is even better. If it even might describe your family, I recommend listening.