• The Disease to Please

  • Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome
  • By: Harriet Braiker
  • Narrated by: Bernadette Dunne
  • Length: 4 hrs and 20 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (54 ratings)

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The Disease to Please

By: Harriet Braiker
Narrated by: Bernadette Dunne
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Publisher's Summary

Who are people pleasers? They are the people who say yes, when they want to say no - the perennial nice person whose resentment is concealed behind their public “happy face”. Now best-selling author and frequent Oprah guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers help for anyone who has ever felt the resentment of giving 100 percent of themselves to others and getting nothing in return.

The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that “people-pleasing” is a benign problem. It is the first book to treat people pleasing as a serious psychological syndrome, and it breaks new ground in its approach to offer a cure. 

Dr. Braiker offers a 21-day action plan for curing The Disease to Please. A daily psychological workout and skills-training program, it will help listeners replace the compulsion to comply with a more conscious and reasoned choice to care. The Disease to Please includes: 

  • Extensive case studies
  • Diary and journal formats to help recovery 
  • An effective three-stage short-term therapy approach
©2001 Harriet B. Braiker, PhD (P)2005 McGraw Hill-Ascent Audio

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Excellent. Helped me more than I expected

Very nice narrating voice to listen to. The quality is professional, the story engaging, and the writing comprehensive. I was surprised to find so many familiar thought patterns, habits, and emotional tendencies I have explained so clearly in this book. Going into this book, I didn’t think I was very deep into this disease or that it could potentially be harmful. Thankfully my eyes have been opened. I am hopeful. Bless everyone that had a hand in making this accessible to me.

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Waste of My Time and Credit

The publisher's summary is misleading. The whole thing only describes the problem deeply and from all sides. There is no help for healing, keeping records, journaling or any such thing! And the narrator is NOT Bernadette Dunne! Kate Reading introducesd herself at the beginning. No, it was not for me. It only brought back some old painful memories that I've moved past. Whoever listens will still need a lot of expensive professional counseling.

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Hard to balance usefulness

The book is structured in a way that makes people pleasing behaviors out to be almost a pathology or a syndrome. That’s not always the case. While it’s helpful to understand some of the behaviors and backgrounds, I personally felt the ability to manage my relationships were not well served with this book. It’s more interpersonal relationships for couples versus the overall concept that many of us focus on others instead of our selves.

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very informative and targeted

a out of the info here was not new to me but framed specifically around people pleasing it brought a me awareness and helped me really target the areas I need to work on.

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Good but doesn’t feel finished.

I like to book but I was hoping for more tips on how to heal. It felt like the whole book was about the issues from every angle and nothing on how to solve.

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Best book for People Pleasers

As a licensed counselor, I’ve been on the hunt for a deep, helpful book I can recommend to my clients…. I finally found it! This is it!!! I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they may have a people pleasing mindset.