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Publisher's Summary

As he did in Who Not How, Dr. Benjamin Hardy shares one of Dan Sullivan's simple yet profound teachings that until now has been known only to his Strategic Coach clients: unsuccessful people focus on "The Gap", but successful people focus on "The Gain".

"[T]his one simple concept is a masterclass on positive psychology, healthy relationships, mental well-being, and high-performance. Everything that psychologists know about how to create a high-functioning and successful person can be achieved using The GAP and the GAIN." (Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Most people, especially highly ambitious people, are unhappy because of how they measure their progress. We all have an "ideal", a moving target that is always out of reach. When we measure ourselves against that ideal, we're in "the gap". However, when we measure ourselves against our previous selves, we're in "the gain".

That is where the gap and the gain concept comes in. It was developed by legendary entrepreneur coach Dan Sullivan and is based on his work with tens of thousands of successful entrepreneurs. When Dan's coaching clients periodically take stock of all that they've accomplished - both personally and professionally - they are often shocked at how much they have actually achieved. They weren't able to appreciate their progress because no matter how much they were getting done, they were usually measuring themselves against their ideals or goals.

In this book you will learn that measuring your current self vs. your former self has enormous psychological benefits. And that's really the key to this deceptively simple yet multilayered concept that will have you feeling good, feeling grateful, and feeling like you are making progress even when times are tough, which will in turn will bolster motivation, confidence, and future success.

If you're finding that happiness eludes you no matter how much you've achieved, then learning this easy mindset shift will set you on a life-changing path to greater fulfillment and success.

This audio product contains a PDF with supporting material, and the PDF is available to download 

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One of the Most Helpful Mind Shifts a Perfectionist Can Make

I’ve been following the author’s work for several years now and each book gets better and better. The Gap and the Gain is a novel concept for measuring progress and success. It’s presented in a clear and concise manner. He offers loads of examples, personal stories, and other people’s stories as a means of driving the point home. The book includes casual recorded conversations between Ben and Dan which I found to be a bonus! Ben lays out the reasons why we should live in the Gain and Dan really drives it home. It’s a wonderful collaboration between two people who invest all their time in building up others. It celebrates the life work of one exceptional leader and beautifully demonstrates what’s possible when an emerging thought leader acts courageously. Thank you for sharing this powerful tool with us!

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  • 11-08-21

Hands down, best book I have read this year

I read a lot of books and this is the best book I have read this year, possibly in the last 5 years. As a highly driven entrepreneur, this book is already helping me in business, but also in my marriage, being a dad and in my church. Thank you Ben and Dan!

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Life changing. No seriously life changing!

Wow! This has transformed me. I'm so grateful for this book. I actually teared up in the conclusion when I realized the consequences of my wrong thinking. As soon as I finished this book, I sent an apology text to my wife and business coach. I'm excited to share our new thinking with my employees. This is going to be great!

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Wise and liberating!!

I love this book and think everyone could benefit from reading it! This is the answer to liberating a culture who is always thinking about what the next thing is to achieve because they have undervalued their whole life of achievements. Me too! But not anymore!!

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Great book!

Benjamin Hardy and Dan Sullivan delivered again! This books talks about so many great ways to reframe our belief systems to see the GAINS in our lives versus the GAPS.

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Profound book

This book is astonishing in how it distills hard concepts into simple ones. It blends timeless wisdom with modern thinking and will make a fundamental impact on anyone who reads or listens to it. Thank you Ben and Dan.

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Incredible and mind blowing. True insights and activities to change your future

The key simple concepts and activities that Ben and Dan discuss in this audiobook and their interviews in between the chapters are so incredible and uplifting to have hope again in my future and what I’m pursuing. It also gives me a toolset and conversation booster for those around me to win and to be in the gap. I’m so excited to experience daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly gaps as well as sharing these experiences with my wife, kids, and family. Thank you Ben and Dan for putting this book together and excited to see what other books you guys create together to make our world and the way we see it better!

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Going to listen to it twice

Overall. Great book that teaches a very powerful concept. I wasn't too big of a fan of the conversations at the end of each chapter between the two gentlemen. I didn't think those conversations were quite as direct or succinct as the chapters themselves. But overall, this was an awesome book and I'm actually going to listen to it a second time to pick up more pearls of wisdom. if you are on the fence about reading this book, I 100% percent think you should

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Simple applications

Loved the ways this book applied to my life. Not too difficult to follow. I know how to use the information presented.

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Fantastic Book!

Simple, yet extremely powerful concept that can reframe everything in your life. A timeless masterpiece and instant classic.

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  • 11-29-21

Truly a great book

Great book that tackles why we are unhappy and how best to get us back on the right track to being happy again all using the simple to understand gap and gain concept.

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  • Gareth
  • 11-18-21

One of the two most powerful positive psychology tools I have ever used

Thanks Dan for creating the concept that has changed my outlook for the better. Thank you Ben for bringing Dan’s creation into the light and to my attention. Brilliant and so simple to implement in every day life.

I particularly enjoyed the two-way interview sections with Dan at the end of each chapter and hearing the authors’ voices - there is real heart and soul in what you guys do.

For anyone considering reading/listening - particularly high achievers and entrepreneurs - this book will enhance your life more than money and all the riches you can imagine! Just buy it. This book will help you to fix that strange program in your brain that makes you always discount your own impressive achievements.

You might be wondering what the other most powerful psychological tool I have used is…. Well look me up to find out ;)

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  • Simon, Oxford
  • 11-01-21

Life Changing

I first came across the concept of the Gap & the Gain about 10 years ago. I recommend this book to everybody. It took me multiple tries to get to a point where I was doing these practices regularly, and slowly, by applying the practices Ben Hardy talks about in the book (daily wins, experience transformer etc.) my life has transformed.

The book comes at the ideas from different angles and as always there is something new to realise and learn. I especially found the end-of-chapter discussions with Dan super useful.

These are literally life-changing ideas if implemented.

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  • 10-25-21

Transformational

I read at least 300 non-fictional books a year, in the categories personal development personal transformation and high performance.

Though nothing you new, the Gap in the game is truly a transformational concept for those who doesn't live their life accordingly this concept.

Worth every minute of your time.

the choice is yours you can continue being in the gap or you can start living your life in the Gain.

Thank you for giving the world this book Dan and Hardy.

Truly inspiring work!!! ❤️

// Carlos Vettorazzi in Sweden

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  • Sam V
  • 10-19-21

Important Teachings On Life- A Must Read!

Ben has harnessed the art of delivering important lessons for work life balance and particularly for those who don’t know when they’ve got it good!

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  • RIK RUSHTON
  • 11-22-21

The True "Lens of Success"

This book is a culmination of so many time tested success principles that are timely for today's pandemic world. The simplicity of the information should not confuse the reader/listener into the false belief that this is an entry level manuscript. The strategies in this book are life changing. Especially for those high achievers who have been climbing the ladder of success only to find that it has been aligned to the wrong wall! This will be a modern day classic

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-17-21

Powerful

I listened to this audiobook in four days. Highly recommended! I loved this audiobook and the concept of getting out of the gap and into the gain. The journal exercises and practical strategies are invaluable. I have ordered a hard copy of the book to take a deeper dive into the ideas, assist with practising this skill and to share with others. At times I found myself going into the gap as I listened to Ben’s incredible achievements. This is not a criticism at all, but simply illustrated how easy it is for us to go into the gap! Loved it. Thank you for this gem.

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  • 11-16-21

Greatest book on happiness

The insights in this book are invaluable and are truly life-changing. I can’t thank Benjamin & Dan enough for compiling this amazing book. HUGE THANKS

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  • SMD
  • 11-05-21

If you only ever give one book to your most Loved…make it this!

This is a seriously one of the most impactful books I have ever read. If we taught this in our schools we could all buy eradicate Mental Health Issues in our Children.