• The Love Gap

  • A Radical Plan to Win in Life and Love
  • By: Jenna Birch
  • Narrated by: Therese Plummer
  • Length: 9 hrs and 52 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (90 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

A research-based guide to navigating the newest dating phenomenon - "the love gap" - and a trailblazing action plan to help smart, confident, career-driven women find (and keep) their match.

For a rising generation of young women, the sky is the limit. Women can be anything and have everything. They are outpacing their male peers in higher education and earning the corner office at work. Smart, driven, assertive women are succeeding at just about everything they do - except romance.

Why are so many men afraid to date smart women?

Modern men claim to want smarts, success, and independence in romantic partners. Or so says the data collected by scientists and dating websites. If that's the case, why are so many independent, successful women winning in life, but losing in love? Journalist Jenna Birch has finally named the perplexing reason: "the love gap" - or that confusing rift between who men say they want to date and who they actually commit to. Backed by extensive data, research, in-depth interviews with experts and real-life relationship stories, The Love Gap is the first book to explore the most talked-about dating trend today. The guide also establishes a new framework for navigating modern relationships, and the tricky new gender dynamics that impact them. Women can, and should, have it all without settling.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Jenna Birch (P)2018 Hachette Audio

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How to find Mr. Right

Love Gap audiobook

Smart girl is a dream girls for guy, but male unconscious mind would feel inferior and step away, as it hurts his masculinity and ego and self esteem.

Almost-boyfriend is the one who is not sure and comfortable with himself to keep the dream girl, so he keep distant a bit and avoid commitment.

Words mean nothing, action means something, pattern means everything!

This is a guide on how to close the gap and find Mr. Right. Not for those who have already in a relationship and want to improve. #SelfDiscovery #Inspiring #Fables #HealthChallenges #MidlifeCrisis #tagsgiving #sweepstakes

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Completely necessary in this day & age!

I can't express fully how important this book is today. It makes sifting through dating experiences much more simple. If you're analytical like me and need something to help you understand why "it's just not working," this is essential!

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Changing the Game

Would you consider the audio edition of The Love Gap to be better than the print version?

I loved being able to listen to it and not get too bogged down with details. It is a book with a lot of anecdotes, one's that I believe are easier to hear than to read.

What other book might you compare The Love Gap to and why?

He's Just Not That Into You - but because this was previously the voice in the back of my head when it comes to dating. Now, The Love Gap is the Holy Bible.

What about Therese Plummer’s performance did you like?

She has a very pleasant voice and makes the whole book feel more relatable.

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

So many. I will definitely be more patient when it comes to love. I know that I am an "EG" girl, waiting for her "Real Deal." And I can be happy and present in building my own life and waiting for a guy to be ready, because he eventually will be and I will be. I also learned that I don't need to negotiate who I am with a partner and I do not need to minimize my accomplishments. I am the "End Goal" and it will just take men a little bit longer than women to be ready for the end goal. It really taught me that men and women are different and to appreciate that.

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LOVED THIS BOOK!

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EBP Meets The Dating Game

A modern analysis of current dating trends. Unlike predecessors, the author isn't trying to convince women to conform to cronyism and 1950's June Cleaver stereotypes or even the 1970's 'women are working and you can't have it all' models. Jenna Birch dives deep into the data and proves what modern daters know to be true; almost boyfriends and disappearing acts are the norm but now we know why! Hang in there ladies, the Real Deal exists. Er, according to the author because this listener is still single a decade after a divorce. Which, is a topic I had hoped the author would cover; life after divorce, loss, and death. Where are over 40 widower or divorced men in all of this and how does it play out later in life? Possible topic for new research? I'm down; ask me and I'd be happy to do the research for the answers. I'm single anyway LOL

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Great use of a credit

This book was just what I needed to hear after a string of unfruitful dating adventures. Jenna offers some hard truths about the modern dating scene while building you up and giving you hope you’ll find what you’re looking for.

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Changed my life!

I’ve read so many relationship and dating tip books, but I’ve never had one where I felt like they read me for filth! It was like she’d read my diary and my inner thoughts and spewed them back at me, and actually I still don’t know how to feel! Great job! This is for anyone who knows they’re a fantastic catch, but has had the most confusing and hopeless dating life imaginable, no matter how many books you read, or rules you try to follow!

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A Book for Women, But What About the Men?

I bought this book with the hopes of giving my dating life a jolt, a pump-up designed to give me the enthusiasm to date again in a post-pandemic world.

When I was going through this book, I had to put myself into a different mindset. Sure, Birch has written this with women being the target demographic, but would this advice still apply to men? There were a lot of points where that answer was "no, not really", "that's a weird assumption to make about me" or "I've tried that, and that doesn't work". I bought this because I thought the book was a gender-neutral approach to dating. However, much of Birch's talk is an "Us vs Them" mentality, the Us being women, and the Them being men. Them being me.

Alongside this, there was some great advice. A lot of Birch's advice in the middle of the book is focused on self-esteem, certainty and being true and honest with yourself. I found that incredibly valuable. The studies and research results around dating was something that I've never heard before, and that was interesting to learn about.

If you're a woman, go for this. If you're a man, and you can't handle 10 hours of shifting your perspective to get stuff of value out of this book, I'd say it's a good idea to pass.

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Comforting

I appreciated listening to this book. As a 34 year old single woman still looking for something greater in love and connection and having dealt with much of the hardships mentioned, I liked the reassurance that maybe it’s not just me. Definitely a memorable book. I see myself referring to this a lot in the future and will continue to have hope in my path.

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to the dudes

I read this book more on a whim then anything. and when I saw it was written to/ for women (at least more then men) then I thought that I would stop after the next chapter.

after about 5 more chapters I recognized alot about myself and the guys the author was writing about. I think she nailed!
definitely recommend

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Great content annoying voice

Why is she whispering all the time? I think it takes attention away of the great narrative and research the author made. With objective points of views and many different stories.