• The One You Want to Marry (And Other Identities I've Had)

  • A Memoir
  • By: Sophie Santos
  • Narrated by: Sophie Santos
  • Length: 13 hrs and 37 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (47 ratings)

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The One You Want to Marry (And Other Identities I've Had)

By: Sophie Santos
Narrated by: Sophie Santos
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Publisher's Summary

A hilarious and heartfelt memoir about finding your true voice by Sophie Santos, the fearless comic and host of The Lesbian Agenda.

From the self-proclaimed Queen of the Stunted Late Bloomers and one of the most exciting emerging voices in comedy comes an honestly funny memoir about the awkward, cringeworthy, hilarious, and longest possible journey of coming of age and into her own.

The only child of a perpetually transferring Filipino-Spanish US Army officer and a spitfire nurse, Sophie Santos spent her early years starting over again and again - and accumulating her fair share of anxieties. Growing up in 99.6 percent white communities, where girls had to learn to flash Vaseline-capped smiles before they’d be considered real women, Sophie adapted. Determined to fit in, she transformed from a tomboy misfit into a hormone-crazed beauty pageant contestant and a southern sorority girl, among other personalities. She nailed each role she took on, not shockingly, but nothing seemed to fit her true self.

In her twenties, floundering and locked in her bedroom with lesbian YouTube clips playing on repeat, Sophie began to understand that her true self might be more tomboy misfit than Southern belle. That realization set her off on a journey that led her through an unexpected lesbian puberty and eventually toward a New York comedy career.

©2021 by Sophie Santos. (P)2021 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved.
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Categories: LGBTQ+

Critic Reviews

“[A] hilarious, identity-affirming memoir…a must read for anyone who has ever struggled to just be.”—Shondaland

“Her breezy tone feels intimate and makes the more serious and somber moments—such as her first comprehension of race (and the term ‘ethnically ambiguous’), her struggles with mental health, and rueful admissions of having mistreated former girlfriends—hit all the harder. LGBTQ millennials are sure to find a kindred spirit, warts and all, in these clever pages.”Publishers Weekly 

“Sophie Santos isn’t your average comedian…she details the plot points of her own life—like constant moves due to her dad’s gig in the Army and her stint in pageantry—with hilarious aplomb.”Entertainment Weekly 

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If you enjoy WHGS, you'll love Sophie Santos

This is a long audio book, but enjoyable for lots of driving. It spans Sophie's life from early childhood to the present and will have you chuckle hard at times. As a 33 year old American woman in 2021, this audiobook has a ton of relatable material through childhood and college, and world events. Lots of brilliant and absurd gay memories, along with a lot of family love. I hope to see Sophie Santos write more and perform more.

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Funny and realistic

Is not predictable and it made me laugh out loud. Feels modern and depicts how hard it is to find a mate!

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sophie, you’re my hero

I didn’t want this to be over. it was such a joy to read this (well, listen to sophie read it.) It’s really incredible to feel not alone and laugh along with your adventures. Thank you for this, for you, for all of it.

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A pleasant read

Funny, light hearted, and honest. Sophie doesn’t shy away from the uglier parts of her story, & I respect that. Though bits and pieces were heavier topics, she keeps an upbeat tone through out.

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Do you really want to listen to an unknown memoir?

Who is this person, why did audible recommended this one? I have no idea, but I'm half way to it and it's probably one of the most boring and pointless book I had listened. I'm so annoyed I have to complete it.
Really, do yourself a favor and maybe listen to someone who has done something or a novel or mystery or something else.
She tries to be funny. She yells and make obvious parts like she discovered a huge thing and is not.
Sorry but no.

Ni siquiera por la parte latina. Es una cosa al medio, una vida normal y cringe al mismo tiempo. Te cuenta desde los miedos en la infancia, (sin ahondar en aquellos que podrían ser interesantes) a los frívolos y pointless.
No lo escuche. Escuche algo más.

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Narcissistic and boring

Not much happens in this life, apart from the writer being a rude, horrible person who treats people like rubbish. The long pauses between every single sentence is also extremely annoying.