• The Science of Happily Ever After

  • What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love
  • By: Ty Tashiro
  • Narrated by: Chris Chappell
  • Length: 7 hrs and 11 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (218 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

In this playful and informative exploration of the science behind how to choose a great mate, acclaimed relationship psychologist Dr. Ty Tashiro explores how to find enduring love. Dr. Tashiro translates reams of scientific studies and research data into the first audiobook to revolutionize the way we search for love. His research pinpoints why our decision-making abilities seem to fail when it comes to choosing mates and how we can make smarter choices.

Dr. Tashiro has discovered that if you want a lifetime of happiness - not just togetherness - it all comes down to how you choose a partner in the first place. With wit and insight, he explains the science behind finding a soul mate and distills his research into actionable tips, including:

  • Why you get only three wishes when choosing your ideal partner.
  • Why most people squander their wishes and end up in unfulfilling relationships.
  • How wishing for the three traits that really matter can help you find enduring love.

Illustrated using entertaining stories based on real-life situations and backed by scientific findings from fields such as demography, sociology, medical science and psychology, Dr. Tashiro provides an accessible framework to help singles find their happily-ever-afters.

©2014 Ty Tashiro (P)2014 Audible, Inc.

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Science with a great story

This is a compelling topic and since I love brain science and human stories I'll be listening to this again and again.

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Pratical but rigorous framework to pursue love

Great book that gives a gery pratical framework for bettee understanding yourself and what drives your behaviour and how to assess potential partners.
Started a bit slow and theoretical but is definitely worth it. Chapter 8 provided a framework that allowed me to instantly tly see myself and my wife's behaviour and understand the underlying dynamics of our behaviour, the way no counselling session ever has. This will truly make a difference in my life. I recommend to every single person and its still useful for people like me that are in a relationship to better understand ourselves and partners and to improve the relationship dynamics.

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Makes you consider....

That list....yea thats non existent after this book. My standards are now based around logic instead of looks, or being taller than me, or making a ton of money, or being so remarkably different than me that they add something special to my life that I cannot. God, none of that crap matters! That's how i feel about it 3 months after finishing it. It still makes sense.

Kind of dry, but a great listen. Lots of relate-able stories about others.

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Great information / tremendously helpful

This book helped straighten out a lot of dating/relationship confusion for me. Sometimes I need processes and data for my big decisions - this book provided both.

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This book wasn't great. The main take-home message was that, statistically speaking, you can only reasonably expect to find a partner with 3 'traits' and you need to be careful what traits you pick so you don't end up giving up something you need to be happy for something that you don't. Ok...but what is a 'trait'? That point was never well defined. In theory, any trait could be defined in positive or negative terms (i.e., 'I would like a partner who attractive' or 'I would like a partner who is not unattractive'), and many traits might be better described as an absence of something (i.e., cheating, abuse, etc). So, let's brainstorm possible partner traits. Trustworthy. Non-abusive. Physically mobile (i.e., able to walk). Attractive. Doesn't use drugs. Funny. Respectful to your parents. Rich. Won't cheat on you. Interested in having sex with you. Etc. So, remember you can only pick 3, so let's say you decide that you want a partner who is 1) respectful to your parents, 2) physically mobile, 3) won't cheat on you...does that mean it is OK to put up with an abusive partner? Or a partner who is a drug addict? Are you really asking too much to want a partner who respects your parents AND isn't abusive??? This example may take it to the absurd extreme, but the book's basic premise doesn't work. We expect our partners to be a lot of things; picking someone who happens to meet three criteria is one way to go about it, but it is disingenuous to imagine that we should give up on everything else about a partner if we can find someone with those 3 traits. In my dating experience, I am less shopping for traits and more looking for red flags--and there are a lot of red flags to be wary of. This book was kind of useless for those problems.

Would you ever listen to anything by Ty Tashiro again?

Probably not. Wasn't really impressed.

What character would you cut from The Science of Happily Ever After?

This was a non-fiction book.

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Ty Tashiro is an excellent storyteller. He intersperses narratives from his experiences as a relationship psychologist and couples therapist with heavy doses of science. My partner and I read this book together, and it brought us much closer in just the short time we were reading it. It is a great book for self analysis, and makes you take a long hard look at your past relationships and how they have shaped your own personality and quirks. If you love “love” and science, this is the perfect read. You will learn a lot.

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good information, but text features not included

some of the charts and graphs were not accessible. It would have been helpful to include a document for listeners to reference.

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I don't just want money back, I want my time back

It's sappy. The narration is as corny as an Iowa maze. The information is confusing due to at least 5 visual aids not provided. Worst of all it puts forth an impossibly robotic approach to relationships hobbled together from other people's studies. Google the 5 personality trait types and save yourself 8 hours.

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Will blow your mind!

This book gave me tools to examine not just my romantic relationship, but also look at the factors that have influenced me in the past (i.e. family of origin, attachment style, etc). Gone are the days of giving (and receiving) bogus advice. We have it down to a science now!

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Great insight starting from childhood traumas

If you are seeking a better understanding as to why people act the way they do, how to change your way of thinking toward relationships and love, and are willing to look deeper within yourself for flaws that can be altered, this is the book for you! Scientific trials are thrown in as well as nice anecdotes that one can chuckle and feel involved in. I recommend this around to people who ask which books helped me gain a better understanding to be a better partner.