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Tomboy Survival Guide
- Narrated by: Ivan Coyote
- Length: 5 hrs and 12 mins
- Unabridged Audiobook
- Categories: LGBTQ+, Biographies & Memoirs
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Publisher's Summary
Stonewall Book Award Honor Book winner
Ivan Coyote is a celebrated storyteller and the author of 10 previous books, including Gender Failure (with Rae Spoon) and One in Every Crowd, a collection for LGBT youth. Tomboy Survival Guide is a funny and moving memoir told in stories, in which Ivan recounts the pleasures and difficulties of growing up a tomboy in Canada's Yukon, and how they learned to embrace their tomboy past while carving out a space for those of us who don't fit neatly into boxes or identities or labels.
Ivan writes movingly about many firsts: the first time they were mistaken for a boy; the first time they purposely discarded their bikini top so they could join the boys at the local swimming pool; and the first time they were chastised for using the women's washroom. Ivan also explores their years as a young butch, dealing with new infatuations and old baggage, and life as a gender-box-defying adult, in which they offer advice to young people while seeking guidance from others. (And for tomboys in training, there are even directions on building your very own unicorn trap.)
Tomboy Survival Guide warmly recounts Ivan's adventures and mishaps as a diffident yet free-spirited tomboy, and maps their journey through treacherous gender landscapes and a maze of labels that don't quite stick, to a place of self-acceptance and an authentic and personal strength. These heartfelt, funny, and moving stories are about the culture of difference - a "guide" to being true to one's self.
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- Alex
- 08-05-17
From a self-proclaimed Tomboy
I loved this book! Listened to it all in one day while driving. It's funny in places, touching, and I cried a handful of times. Stories narrated by the author imo can go either way, but Ivan's accent, tone, and performance really added to the book for me. It felt genuine and personal.
It's also so uplifting to read about trans adults, AND trans adults who speak to their families. I spent the entire book either living vicariously through their wonderful life, or relating deeply to their discussion of gender, dysphoria, and navigating the world as a tomboy. I'd recommend this especially to trans young adults, anyone coming out later in life, and parents + friends of trans people looking to learn.
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- Jacquelynne Koch
- 10-18-18
Just Beautiful!!
This book is such an eye opener. My daughter is married to a transgender and when she came out, I supported her no matter what. I knew it had to be hard for them, but I never really knew if that makes sense. The public bathroom situation makes me so sad. Your right, we do have a gender neutral bathroom in our homes. Why can't we have them in public? I guess I'm one of the exceptions, because I always ask what pronoun do they want to use. I ask because I want to make sure I'm calling them what they want, not what I want to call them. I am a member of the Mamma Bear group in my community, because everyone needs to feel like they belong and are loved!!
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- judy
- 01-13-20
relatable
This book touches my soul, unlike any other book I've ever read or listened too. I bought a copy so I can re-read and listen to it anytime I need too.
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- Cheri L. Beatty
- 07-26-18
I am left breathless
I am feeling like I wish it could go on. These stories told with Ivan’s vocal input have taught me so much. This book has educated me from a perspective that I had not anticipated. I cried quite a bit and a lot of it was because I realized I am not quite as educated as I once believed. I have recommended this book to many people—and I will continue to do so!
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- Lisa R.
- 05-27-18
Amazing
This is so far my favorite book of 2018. Ivan reads with such passion and truth.
Thank you!
Lisa
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- Kristina Warrior Princess
- 11-13-17
Funny and Touching Memoir.
I loved the humor and honesty of this book. Ivan has a very personal and vulnerable way of storytelling. "AUDIBLE 20 REVIEW SWEEPSTAKES ENTRY".
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- Jade
- 08-10-21
A gift
Affirming, deeply personal, gentling touching parts of myself I am growing into, parts I’ve thrown away, and parts that are quiet and here and always will be. A gift for tomboy blood
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- Marta Garcia
- 07-18-21
Read this book
Thoroughly enjoyable! And Ivan's performance was bliss to listen to. Will listen to their book again.
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- Kit
- 05-20-21
Truth, Hope & Love
As a non-binary, transmasculine person, it is always so heartening to hear that someone shares the truths I hold in my heart. Ivan's raw and emotional storytelling had me crying, smiling, laughing, and hoping. Hope. That's something that comes in short supply for trans people. Every time I hear of another trans person's success, it becomes my own in some small way. It becomes my hope that I can be understood, accepted, and loved just the way I am. Thank you, Ivan Coyote.
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- Kindle Customer
- 01-26-21
Incredible
One of my favorite books. Coyote’s writing is heart wrenchingly relatable, no matter who you are. This is such a beautiful book!
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- darkrev
- 02-19-20
Superb
I laughed, cried, reflected, questioned and reviewed my own existence with this book. Beautifully written, expertly read. Gorgeous in its entirety. Thank you Ivan for your insight , sensitivity and skill in sharing the human experience x I would now go pay to see you live .
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- TnSMOM
- 06-18-19
Wonderful!
Absolutely wonderful, Ivan is so easy to listen to while they read the chapters of this book.Their voice is so calming that you can’t help but hang on their every word. Would 100% recommend this to anyone.
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- Alisha
- 02-15-21
beautiful book
i laughed and cried. the narration is the author and you can feel the words and meaning
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- Nicolabee
- 03-17-20
Wonderful experience
My definition of a great book is one that makes me feel and teaches me new things. This book absolutely did both of those things for me. I laughed and cried, felt furious on Ivan’s behalf and have spent time in between listening thinking about many of the stories. The writing itself is wonderful, hearing Ivan read it is perfect. I really really loved this book.
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- Geekstar
- 01-21-20
Great story from start to finish
Loved every minute of this book. It was so refreshing to hear a story that resonated so much with me
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- Anonymous User
- 07-19-19
Camia
Loved every second! I’m just wrestling with my own gender identity at 45, this was a breath of dread air. Sincerely thank you.
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- Anonymous User
- 05-08-18
so much heart
loved every second. I laughed, cried, felt touched deep inside my queer self. Totally beautiful.
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- K. L. Joy
- 08-21-17
Brilliant!
So happy I got this book, have wanted ti read it for a while. Just tried Audible for the first time, love it, I'll be back!