Best book I have read in a long time

I could not stop listening to the author. I finished this book to the end in record time. I only stopped to eat, and sleep. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever had any type of dysfunction in your life. Her love for Jesus and her family are so inspiring. My own stress level is in the red zone due to a toxic marriage. She has given me confidence to change, and confidence to reaffirm and remind myself that I am called beloved by God and I am valued. Thank you for all of your hard work. This book has changed me for the better. God bless you. Go ahead and order this book. You will not have any regrets. Gift a book for a friend who is struggling. Love them enough to help them understand they are loved and valued.

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Exactly what I needed

Exactly what I needed next in my emotional & spiritual journey. There aren't a lot of books focused specifically on emotional healing that integrate Christian beliefs. Aundi did a great job address BIG T and little t traumas and bringing it back to the Word for healing. I highly recommend this book. So glad it came up on my book recommendations bc trust me, you don't want to miss this one! ❤

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Trauma therapy simplified for us all!

Great book! She simplifies complex trauma informed treatment using a multidisciplinary approach. She uses biological, mental, and spiritual concepts to promote healing.

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this book is packed with wisdom and practical help

This is one of the best books I’ve read related to mental health, story work, and growth. It combines the most solid research-based information about attachment and interpersonal neurobiology with compassionate practical helps to apply these truths to your own story of brokenness and redemption. I am a Christian and a therapist as well, and I appreciated the author incorporating her own Christian faith as part of the healing journey. Faith and the Bible are not used to dismiss or for spiritual bypassing, which I greatly value. I listened on audible, read by the author, and she has a delightful speaking voice and cadence. I will, though, buy the physical book because this will be a resource for years to come.

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Antidote to Trying Harder

In a world of "try harder" messaging from so many in Christian circles, this book provides another much-needed perspective that integrates research-based approaches along with biblical perspectives.

Such great advancements in understanding the nervous system are being made through work by Elizabeth Stanley, Kathy Kain, Stephen Porges, Irene Lyon, Dr Howard Schubiner and so many more, yet, at times it seems like Christian circles are unaware and sometimes promote (unbiblical) top-down/thinking brain approaches. This book helps illustrate why that's counterproductive for someone who has experienced trauma, or even people who haven't.

Without getting bogged down in theory, Kolber shares enough theory to build conviction behind the theme in each chapter, then goes on to share extremely practical and helpful exercises that the reader can do the moment they read them. I'm still so impressed that she made such deep theory so approachable and simple - not an easy feat!

I listened first via Audible and it was fun to hear the author read and express her points - with such empathy and softness in her voice. Then, because it was so impactful, I bought the book and highlighted/flagged it up because the message is so important for me and the women I interact with. The fact that I bought both versions demonstrates how important I think this work is.

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So good. Timely and needed.

This is such a needed and timely book for society and for me personally. Christian culture tends to push us to “try harder” despite the fact that Jesus never preached anything similar. His yoke is light, right? This is the book about integrated compassion and kindness that we desperately need. Aundi Kolber not only writes well on a much-needed topic, she also narrates delightfully.

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Listen Again!

This was so eye opening and gentle. I’ve got to reevaluate how I deal with not only my own emotions but guide my children in how to deal with their own. I was raised in the “suck it up” generation where you shove things down. This is a book I need to listen to once a year.

THIS is the method I’ve been searching for

Aundi writes from her own story and all of her educational background. Anyone (no matter their religious belief) can gain so many helpful tools and and get a great start to dealing with our brains and body’s and the trauma they hold. It’s time to get unstuck! As a recovering addict with not great self Dialogue this book is helping me tremendously. Thank you! I will be going through the work book as soon as I’m done listen.

Worthwhile Read!

Aundi brings to the table tools that make hard things easier to bear. Her wisdom will have a positive influence for all who read her book. I always enjoy listening to books that are read by the author, especially one who is well spoken. She reads with the same kindness with which she writes. God's blessings to you, Aundi.

Hope

Each year I pick a word for my focus and prayer, my word for 2020 was Joy, my word for 2021 was Shalom and my word for 2022 will be HOPE.

So many pieces of your story are pieces of my own, similar and different. I listened to your book in the morning while on my treadmill and in my car on my way to work. Your voice and words of encouragement were both validating and healing.

I finished your book today and tomorrow I will begin again, listening to your voice, and reading the words while I also hold your book in my hands, underlining and highlighting, taking notes and journaling.

Today in my journal I wrote, Father God, help me to try harder…and reframing I wrote again, TRY SOFTER. Yes, help me to remember to try softer….

Your book is so well written, gentle and caring. Thank you Aundi for sharing your heart, your pain and your wisdom. Thank you for joining me on my own journey.
Dawn