• UnSelfie

  • Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World
  • By: Michele Borba Dr.
  • Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
  • Length: 8 hrs and 22 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (247 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Best-selling author Michele Borba offers a nine-step program to help parents cultivate empathy in children, from birth to young adulthood - and explains why developing a healthy sense of empathy is a key predictor of which kids will thrive and succeed in the future.

In our hyperconnected, social-media-saturated society, many of us (especially young people) are so obsessed with snapping "selfies" and living virtual lives online that we're forgetting how to care for the people right in front of us IRL (that's "in real life"). The resulting Selfie Syndrome is leading to an empathy crisis among today's youth - teens today are 40 percent less empathetic than they were just a generation ago, and narcissism has increased 58 percent during that same period.

But there is a solution: Studies show that the antidote to Selfie Syndrome is empathy. And the good news is that empathy can actually be cultivated in children, starting even before they can talk. In UnSelfie, esteemed educator Dr. Michele Borba presents new and compelling research that explains how to impart this key skill to kids - whether it's teaching toddlers how to comfort one another or giving teens the tools to stand up to bullying - and why empathy paves the way for future happiness and success.

Caring about others isn't just about playing nice; it's a skill that's vital for children's mental health, leadership skills, and continued well-being, today and tomorrow. Dr. Borba's nine-step plan for raising successful, happy kids who also are kind, moral, courageous, and resilient provides a revolutionary new framework for learning empathy. Empathetic kids will thrive in the future, but the seeds of success can be planted today - one habit at a time.

©2016 Michele Borba. All rights reserved. (P)2016 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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EVERY PARENT & EVERY CHILD

This book is a MUST for every parent ! Empathy needs to be part of teaching children a moral compass! We teach manners (please, thank you, etc) but CARING FOR OTHERS needs to be at the top as well. How many selfish people do we know - in families, coworkers, neighbors, those in the public light. Sports, arts and academics are NOT enough for our children to be successful. While this book has soooooo much information, it's also broken down in teachable steps so we can have an impact with our children - today. I'm so grateful to have found this book!

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A MUST READ

I wish I had this when my kids were babies! So important. All parents must read! Excellent, practical advice! READ, listen, and then read again! Thank you Dr. Borba- this book was so true. We changed our family motto because of this book- we will be up-stanaders not bystanders. Even had my kids (12,11,9, and 7) listen to certain parts of it.

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Not only does the author explain why it's important to raise empathetic children, but also gives several strategies.

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Amazing book

The book is great for parents and teachers alike. Very thorough and full of strategies. The reader is terrible on the audiobook. It sounds robotic and actually made me resist listening to the whole book. I did, but it would’ve been far more enjoyable to listen to the author.

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So many ideas to start and keep doing!

This is such a great book - in my top 5 for parenting and happiness creation

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Must read!

This book is full of information we all, and most importantly, anyone who interacts with children need to learn. I have bought many copies to give a way to anyone who will take it.

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Empathy is King! This book helped me see it!

Before listening to this book, I had no idea how critical empathy is to our society and to the success of each one of us.

I am definitely taking the principles contained herein to heart!

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A must for every parent

Having trouble combatting screens / digital devices? This is a useful book for any age, to awaken your child to the "real world" and help raise awareness and empathy.

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An emotional reading shouldn't hurt a book but it certainly did this one at the beginning. It came on so strong that it felt like it was preaching, on the verge of yelling and I almost quit. In the end the message is sound, the reading evens out, and it's a message worth taking to heart.

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Every parent should read this

I am a licensed counselor and a parent educator. I will definitely be incorporating what I’ve learned in this book in my work with parents. I learned so much about being a parent myself and have started implementing some of the practical recommendations given. I will do my best to promote this book if I believe every single parent in the world should read this.

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  • 08-18-19

Very helpful for character-building.

I just started to implement some of the author's strategies to my son, and it seems to be working. I find that the book is not just for our kids but it's for everyone.