• What Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know

  • The Secrets of Understanding Narcissism and the Mindset of Toxic People
  • By: Elena Miro
  • Narrated by: Kelly McGibbon
  • Length: 4 hrs and 25 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (31 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Do you need to know how to disarm the narcissist in your life?

If you have a narcissistic partner, parent, child, friend, or coworker, you’ve likely been told that you should leave them behind. But sometimes, that’s not possible or even desirable. There is a way to make your relationship work without having to suffer from narcissistic victim syndrome or end the relationship.

I was married to a narcissist, so I understand how difficult it can be to understand this condition and try to make it work. My experience with a toxic spouse is what prompted me to get a degree in psychology and write books about narcissism and recovering from emotional abuse. Now, 99 percent of the books written about narcissism will advise you to leave, and that’s what I did - but what if you can’t leave?

This book gives real stories from narcissists, their loved ones, and psychotherapists to help you tame your beast.

It is designed to help you learn the narcissist from the inside, and with that knowledge, you can take the right steps to protect yourself without suffering from gaslighting or making trauma bonds.

You’ll also learn about the following topics:
 

  • The causes, symptoms, and traits of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
  • How to identify a narcissist
  • How the narcissist thinks
  • Common weaknesses of the narcissist
  • Whether a narcissist can truly love you
  • The different kinds of narcissism, manipulations of toxic people, and much more

If you want to learn how to live with your loved ones instead of leaving them, this is the book that can help you learn all about surviving a relationship with a narcissist.

The book will help you understand the condition and gain insight into how the narcissist thinks. You’ll also learn about the narcissist’s manipulative techniques and how to avoid falling prey to them.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Elena Miro (P)2021 Elena Miro

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informative

I'm tired of hearing, just leave.

You can't always just leave. Sometimes, there's no exit. Sometimes that sounds like the best option, but sometimes it's not.

This book is full of information. Jam packed. so while you're making that decision, you might as well educate yourself. Right?

I've read so much, watched so many videos, listened to so many social media speakers. However, most of it is... just leave. I consider this book a very important part of my artillery.

It's helped a lot, to learn to remain calm and be able to listen to him and understand what I'm hearing.

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Sureal

So glad I got this recommendation. I'm now starting to understand my ex-husbands behavior. This book brought me a little closer to closure.Excellent narrator, though I speeded it to 1.25.

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Fantastic Listen

I give this audiobook Five Star because it gives fantastic insight to how narcissists operate on different levels.
The book also has many various examples - a few which I can relate to - that shows how to deal with the narcissist.
The book also points out different levels of abuse, which many readers will more than likely compare themselves to & have their own eyes opened to the relationships & friendships they are already involved in.
Such a great read & highly recommended.

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Very informative

I have recently begun to question if I have been on the receiving end of abuse from a Narcissist. I have read a number of publications on the subject and above some others I found this book provided valuable, practical and concise advice and helped me understand how the narcissistic mind works. I particularly liked the case studies which made for a very human and sometimes emotional lens to bring aspects of my situation in to focus. If you suspect you have a narcissist in your life then LISTEN TO/READ this book!

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Narcissism unmasked

The book is just great! It is solely based on scientific facts, researchers' results, professional opinions, and the honesty of some narcissists. Now I understand why they are like that. The author did a great job of explaining the issue. Highly recommend this book for everyone who deals with a narcissist in their life!

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Must listen for EVERYONE

That is the first book that explains why narcissists are monsters and who they are inside their heads. The author did great research into the topic. Every chapter I was like "WOW, I didn't know that." I divorced my ex-husband narcissist, more than 2 years ago, but still, questions were in my mind. This book answered them all. If I knew all this, my marriage could be different...

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Now I understand

I have just finished listening to the book and it was so informative and revealing.it almost felt like I was reading my past relationship. It was empowering to understand and recognise the narcassist traits and gain some closure, I know I will never gain that through him but for myself.the biggest revelation I found was why they are drawn to us 'normal' folks! As I was left feeling that I was weak, a bad judge of character and not deserving of love..

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Hear their point of view.

I was hoping for more how to’s in the book. The most helpful part for me was hearing a point of view of a person struggling with npd.
The story of Anna was particularly illustrative.

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Comprehensive

There is so much information available for people to learn what a narcissist is and how to spot one. Many books do not discuss how to live with an extreme narcissist. This one does. It is the most comprehensive book on how to not only identify a narcissist but the best way to live with one, especially when you can’t leave them. Elena Miro merges psychological and scientific research with personal experiences (I have read her book "My toxic husband") to create a book that helps its readers learn to deal with the complexities of a narcissist in simple terms without going deep into difficult psychology.

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a must read!!

The research is phenomenal and provided new and enlightened information. As someone whose done alot of recovery work in the last year, Ms. Miro's story was told with warmth, intelligence and compassion. Highly recommend this for the emotionally abused.

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  • Priyanta Dey
  • 06-11-21

I'm learning so much from the book

I like this book. It has a lot more information and useful tips than expected. This audiobook is well-organized, and the ideas to implement are very well-thought-out and based on social researches and practice! Confessions of the narcissists and much more! Highly recommended to listen! Thanks for the PDF!!!

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  • Naepel 1980
  • 05-31-21

This book helped me to understand Narcissism.

This book helped me to understand Narcissism and to see how not just my partner has these attributes, but so do I. I didn't give five stars total because I wish it would've gone more indepth about the reactions partners can have and how codependency can evolve in these relationships as well. Hope to this this in the next book

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  • Helen M
  • 05-16-21

Book is written by a narcissistic abuse survivor!

Learning approach with facts and psychology. Providing proven tips, explanations and steps. This book is easy to listen and contain really useful information especially for Better Way to Understanding the Disorder of Narcissistic Personality and narcissistic personalities. I highly recommended this book!

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  • Elena M
  • 05-14-21

Next level of Understanding the narcissism

I recommend this book to everyone! It tells about the nature of narcissists and teaches understand them better. Wish I knew it in my marriage...

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  • Ftare
  • 05-13-21

The most informative book I read on the topic

a very in-depth depth explanation of what narcissism is, it's an eye opener however it doesn't mean you will not fall in the traps of a narcissist. It must gives you the tools to recognise this mental disorder. Very highly recommended.

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  • Jullene
  • 05-13-21

Great audiobook with information on Narcissism.

Great audiobook with a ton of information on Narcissists and NPD. I highly recommend it as informative listen for everyone on how to deal with Narcissists in their lives

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  • Kevin
  • 05-09-21

Comprehensive Guide to Narcissism

This is a well written comprehensive guide to Narcissism, helping the reader to understand the various types of Narcissism. The real testimonies give added insight and understanding to the mind of a Narcissist. It is narrated well and is easy to listen to. Knowing how the Narcissist understands and sees things can help you to choose the right course of action. if you are looking to understand more about Narcissim then this is definitely for you.

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