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Why does narcissism seem to thrive in our churches?

We've seen the news stories and heard the rumors. Maybe we ourselves have been hurt by a narcissistic church leader. It's easy to throw the term around and diagnose others from afar. But what is narcissism, really? And how does it infiltrate the church? 

Chuck DeGroat has been counseling pastors with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, as well as those wounded by narcissistic leaders and systems, for over 20 years. He knows firsthand the devastation narcissism leaves in its wake and how insidious and painful it is. In When Narcissism Comes to Church, DeGroat takes a close look at narcissism, not only in ministry leaders but also in church systems. He offers compassion and hope for those affected by its destructive power and imparts wise counsel for churches looking to heal from its systemic effects. 

DeGroat also offers hope for narcissists themselves - not by any shortcut, but by the long, slow road of genuine recovery, possible only through repentance and trust in the humble gospel of Jesus.

©2020 Charles R. DeGroat (P)2020 eChristian

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Excellent coverage of topic

Excellent coverage of topic including recovery work from a Biblical perspective. I encourage all Christians to read this, especially if you have dealt with narcissistic abuse.

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Excellent!

This book not only helped me understand better some of the church leadership dynamics I have experienced, but taught me about some personal dynamics as well. It was empathetic, clear, direct, and I now want everyone I know to read it.

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Excellent!

Chuck DeGroat offers amazing insight into the maladies plaguing the church today with narcissism at their roots. DeGroat, unlike other authors, also provides hope in the midst of hurt and pain. He treats the narcissists among us as not so much as a label but as people in need of healing and restoration. Stark moments ahead for you as you read this, but keep the work of the Holy Spirit in mind as you read. He is fully able to redeem the years the locusts of narcissism have stolen.

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Helpful. Insightful.

this book helps to shed some light on many of the diverse interactions that I've had in church (as a leader and regular member) and in my professional life outside the church. The author's transparency is helpful. His hope in Christ is evident. The book is full of examples that bring the topics he discusses to life. I highly recommend

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Excellent listen! Not like any other book ok I’ve read.
Educated in not only secular psychology (BS)have also finished 2 post graduate, 2 year studies at The AACC( American Assoc of Christian Counselors), titled, “Caring for people God’s Way”, & “Extraordinary Women”, I believe this book is an must read for all Christians. Jesus picked Luke as a disciple, I believe to let us know that medicine & science are things God works thru. If you go to the Doctor then you shouldn’t be against “ psychology as it is a social science. This will open many people eyes as to why they felt hurt by church & Pastors.

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More secular than Christian; anecdotal than scholarly

I was hoping for a biblical treatment of the topic. Instead, I found a popular explanation of narcissism and it’s features bathed in multiple “church” examples. At the outset, the author himself confesses a lack of scholarship correlating ministers with narcissism. Those who have been victims of a narcissistic pastor will find this book extremely useful.

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Narcissism explained in a hopeful discourse, helping the reader to understand the depths of this disorder

I have been a victim of narcissism all of my 41 years of married life. My children are foundering in life due to a controlling father who expected them to agree with him about everything. My oldest daughter has been in therapy for several years & recommended this book to our family. What an eye-opener for me as I listened to the audible version. I particularly appreciated the author’s examples of approaching the different types of narcissism & the possibility of healing for them & others who have been wounded by their behavior.

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Great Book

Enjoyed the content and the narrator. Great read of toxic behavior and culture within the church. How to spot it, how to heal, how to see it in yourself. Great resource.

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Becareful if you're a victim of abuse

I struggled at points with this book. I do believe people can change with God's help. I would caution a person who is in an abusive situation, not to think that they are in the appropriate position to help their narcissist. Otherwise, I appreciate the hope that Chuck has and his compassion for a discarded group of people.

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A Must Read for all spiritual leaders!

This is one of the most under discussed topics of spiritual leadership! Chuck does an amazing job using succinct meaningful language to explore the nuances of narcissism. it is a must-read for all spiritual leaders!

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  • 12-20-21

Great

Really good book. Esp if you grew up in the church and at the back of your mind always felt like something was a bit off in the community. This books explains why. Which the chapter on collective narcissism was longer.

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  • 12-06-21

Best book on narcissism I've ever found

I've read a lot on narcissism, most was seething and hateful of the narcissists, but this goes beyond to help us understand how, why, and what's going on beneath the surface, and how to respond. The final 2 chapters were especially helpful in understanding, and I feel like I'm a few steps closer to forgiveness and healing. thank you

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  • Yvonne McRostie
  • 09-14-20

Essential reading for every minister

This is an exceptional book, gives insight into the difficult dynamics of community life whether it is church or other community groups.
Written with compassion and wisdom, drawing on real lived experiences. Helps with boundary setting and accountability without harsh judgment on people caught up in self serving behaviours. I recommend it highly.