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The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.

©2008 Dr. Karyl McBride (P)2011 Tantor

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"The author provides parenting tips as well as advice on maintaining healthy love relationships and friendships." ( Publishers Weekly)

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A MUST read for everyone!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

This book can help everyone that has or knows women that have a narsistic mother. Great for daughters, daughter-in-laws, sons, son-in-laws, spouses and even friends of these victims.

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Finally, I feel like my brother and I are not alone! This explains so very much. And for the first time I feel like I am OK!

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I felt like Rocky after I finished! I reached the top of the steps and with this knowledge I can deal with the fights. Just knowing that I can clearly see all of the manipulation my mother has used on me for 50 years is so freeing. No one will ever please her and finally I can work through excepting that...because it is her and I am good enough!

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I will listen to this book many more times...especially before major family events (Holidays, Celebrations...). I can now put her battles for attention "in a box" and find my happiness! My husband says he has seen a change in the way I deal with " mom issues".

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Felt like it suddenly didn’t apply to me.

I was learning so much until around 3h the author started talking about God being in me. All of a sudden my attempts to let what she was teaching resonate with me kinda fell apart and I took the book less seriously. Do only Christians have narcissistic mothers?

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Finally a book that hits my issues

My mother is an addict who is also self absorbed. I was neglected so much as a child that depression became my best friend. I thought I was damaged and the crazy one. My mom never supported anything I did including school stuff. She would buy me expensive dresses that she couldn't afford instead of money for books. (She always took credit for my looks, which of course I rebelled and hurt myself by gaining weight to try to individualize myself. Sooo Unhealthy I know) I waitressed starting at 15 to 25 to put myself through school. When I got into UCLA my mom wouldn't even visit the campus despite living an hour away. I had to stop talking to her for months till she even came to my graduation. (She was grumpy and critical the entire time that it ruined the special day that I had worked so hard for.) I'm looking forward to working the steps in chapter 11+ to heal. I'm done with having low self esteem, narcissistic bfs, self destructive habits, and not knowing who I am. I choose to be my authentic, healthy self and live my life the way I WANT because this is MY LIFE. Life is a gift and I choose to honor it that way without the negativity and numbness i was raised in.

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An eye opener

This is a very important book for those women who always felt something was missing in thier lives ... that they didn't have a normal childhood ... that thier moms were different ... women who whatever they did thier moms never seemed to be pleased ...
This book helps you realize the problem ... face your denial ... make peace with your past and accept reality ... then start the journey towrds healing ...just make sure to take your time and do as the books says ... don't be tempted to skip anything
The author herslef was a victim of a narcassit mother so she knows what she's talking about ...and not only i found the book extremely helpful but the soothing voice of the author and narrator made a great deal of difference

HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

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Liberating, Calming, Soothing, and Healing

What did you love best about Will I Ever Be Good Enough??

This book focused primarily on healing, as opposed to diagnosing and blaming.

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The narrators voice was soothing, caring, and genuine. The book was well written, and analyzed many different angles of these looming and life long maternal issues. Great read!

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Glad I purchased this book!

Excellent clarification if you're wondering "Is this my mother?" She takes you on a clear mental bus ride of how you ended up with negative, self-defeating thought patterns and habits. She gently guides you in setting yourself free of these but without blaming or bashing your mom. Hers is a diplomatic, knowledge-is-power approach.

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Exactly What I Was Looking For

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The pure accuracy of this book. Dr. McBride's research is spot on. This book has not only helped me understand the relationship between me and my mother but also helped to improve it by providing a new perspective. It has helped me understand unexplained feelings and behavior. I am still in recovery, but I am well on my way to living a better and happier life! If you have a narcissistic mother (whether the damage was inflicted on you or a sibling), you MUST read this book. Thanks so much Dr. McBride!

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Finally a book that validates my struggles raised from a ignoring narcissitic mother

I found this book very helpful in understanding how your woundedness from childhood affects your adult relationships.

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Great book

If you think your mother may have been narcissistic (or emotionally withholding), this is a great (and painful) read. She gives you new perspectives of how to heal from your childhood, and very effective ways of overcoming.

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Helpful

Very informative book. I think women struggling with manipulative and controlling mothers will find that this book will help them to look at their situation in new ways and recover from emotional and psychological abuse.

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  • Mum4kids
  • 08-21-17

Exactly what i needed!

Absolutely outstanding. Suddenly everything made sense. All my struggles, all my worries, my depression, my emptiness, my failures. The questions I asked myself for nearly a decade were answered in this book. A true blessing. Thank you Dr. McBride!

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  • jo
  • 07-07-19

A pathway to smiling inside.

McBride delivers a depth of understanding and insight into a child’s development at the hands of a narcissistic mother.

Then she provides a healing pathway to wholeness and reconciliation by looking into the brokenness of your inner child and repairing her with an insightful and empathetic parent who discovers her way to smiling and laughter.

As a surviving daughter of a narcissistic mother I’m able to find joy through journeying with McBride and her knowing.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 03-24-18

true and real

this book really spoke to me and resonated within me. I listened to it post recovery and it affirmed my sense of self.

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  • Telvicky
  • 03-15-18

It's a must read for DONM'S

This is a very thorough book, it's not only a self help experience, but a guide and support in recovery of many elements of a woman's life including friendships, relationships and motherhood.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-23-20

amazing

If you had a narcissistic mother then this book feels like remedy for the soul

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  • Sara
  • 04-16-20

very helpful

When you realise that the author is talking about your mum, light bulb moment. very informative.

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  • Kate
  • 02-21-19

Excellent

This is a great book, I would highly recommend to anyone dealing with a self absorbed mother

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  • Sarah S
  • 10-10-18

highly recommended,

Really helpful in a loving a practical way. I'd highly recommend to anyone who is struggling with this.

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  • Marcia Staples - Fluid Minds
  • 05-30-15

interesting

An excellent read... I was amazed how much us daughters take on board....there is hope

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  • Miss J
  • 03-29-21

Epiphany after Epiphany!

I only recently discovered the name for my Mum's behaviour. I felt like I've been walking around for the last 40 years feeling incomplete, depressed, incapable and unloveable but not really being able to see why. While there are many books out there on helping daughters understand and heal from their mother's narcissism, this book is well worth a listen/read if you're starting out on your journey. The author sounds like the mother you never had and it took me weeks to actually finish listening to the audiobook because every paragraph was a new epiphany describing those locked up feelings we all would have had growing up in the toxic environments we did. It made me feel like I wasn't alone for the first time in my life - I wasn't making it up, it actually happened and it caused deep deep trauma. I'd highly recommend reading this book and I hope you know you're not alone. There are many of us out there walking the same path to recovery and I send you so much love x

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  • Dee
  • 02-29-16

Lifesaving.

Loved it. Listened twice. Bought the paperback as well. This is my "bible ", my manual, map, how-to guide. It is my story. My saving. Thankyou.

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  • C&J.A18
  • 05-20-16

helpful

This book striked a chord with me. I am lookingvat other titles now. Planning on listening to it again.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-20-20

Will listen to it again and again!

I listened to this book in 2 days as I was hooked after the first 30 mins!
I began thinking after the birth of my daughter (her first grand daughter) that there was something a bit weird about my mother. As she held my daughter at the hospital she had literally no reaction and when asked how she felt about it later said "it was ok" seeming generally disinterested.
Listening to this book I had so many ah ha moments. I saw the reality for the first time. I'm now determined to work on healing this trauma and accept that it may be a life long journey. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has always wondered why things never quite felt right in their family. I will listen to it again and again for years to come. I'm so grateful I found this book!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-08-19

I would hug Karyl McBride!

Great advice and insight into a narcs brain to help you understand (contrary to mums believe) it's not your problem! It's mums. This book helped get me out of a very dark place from being intensely hurt by my mother and even got me talking to her again.

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  • Julia from Oz
  • 05-17-19

The title says it all!

I think you may only read this title if you have come to find that you were parented by a narcissistic mother.
The content is engaging and thought-provoking. The narrator is easy to listen to.
The author is a highly qualified professional writing out her personal experience and I found this very comforting. You need the first-hand experience of narcissism to really understand what it does to you. Like a tangled web that gets stronger and stronger and changes your perception of the world and your own true self narcissism is insidious and I feel much more work needs to be done. I thought I could binge this book and it would help me in one fell swoop but I couldn't and had to pace listening to it as it brought up so many feelings and memories that I had to sit with before moving on. There are several sections with the final section being recovery. I am yet to get to the beginning of recovery as I need to fully deal with all the feelings that have surfaced as if from a long-closed vault.
It isn't easy, it's not hard but I think you need to be dedicated working through this book. It may take months or years but I know I will get to the end and be better for reading it.

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  • sojourn
  • 04-26-20

Best book on narcissistic mothers!!

relatable, accurate, very well articulated. practical advice and points told through stories.
Excellent book. I want to thank the author!!!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-26-21

This book has changed my life

it highlights a very senstive topic that most people avoid to admit or talk about. but without acknowledge it one can live all life in self resintment and hatery and thinking we are not good enough. and not even knowing why or to which standards. thank you very much Dr. McBride you gave me hope and trust in myself again. it has truly change my life

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-26-21

very helpful and insightful

Very insightful and extremely helpful if you are suffering from the psychological abuse of your mother. A great starting point if you are still learning about narcissism, as Karyl explains everything in a way that's very easy to understand.

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  • Mordsith
  • 12-06-20

I Loved it.

I just loved this book it's going to help me so much and it's opens my eyes even more.