• Without This Ring: A Woman's Guide to Successfully Living Through and Beyond Midlife Divorce

  • By: Abby Rodman
  • Narrated by: Abby Rodman
  • Length: 5 hrs and 57 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (179 ratings)

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Midlife divorce is skyrocketing, and women are initiating divorce in higher numbers than ever before in history. Psychotherapist Abby Rodman surveyed hundreds of women who divorced in midlife to find out the "whys", "whats", and "hows" of their experiences.
 

Packed with personal stories, fascinating statistics, helpful checklists, expert advice, and practical tips, Without This Ring is a necessary and critical listen at any stage of midlife divorce - whether you're just starting to consider it or you've already come out on the other side.
 

Abby Rodman is a relationship coach, an author, and a speaker who's renowned for her focus on midlife dating, marriage, and divorce. Abby is regularly sought out by print, broadcast, and online media outlets for her expertise on relationship issues. She has also successfully lived through and beyond her own midlife divorce.
 

Note to audiobook listeners: I heard you! So, I'm happy to introduce a new and improved audiobook version of Without This Ring for 2020. Now professionally recorded and edited, this "facelift-ed" version includes even more information, advice, and practical tips for surviving (and thriving) through midlife divorce. Thank you for listening.

©2014 Abby Rodman (P)2015 Abby Rodman

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  • JP
  • 07-25-19

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If you are a woman contemplating divorce or wracked with guilt over cheating on your spouse, this book is for you.

If your spouse left you or cheated on you, your divorce was not something you chose or you are already pretty far down the path towards divorce being final this book is not great for your mental health. You will hear over and over that life is going to suck, how miserable divorce is, and apologetics for cheaters.

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Author seems pro-adultery

Good book for those wanting to rationalize or justify having an affair or putting personal “happiness” above all other values in life even to the clear detriment of their loved ones.
Listening to this book is an insult and further injury to those who have been betrayed by a spouse.

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More about the divorce process...

I was looking for a read on how to move forward after divorce not about the process and deciding to divorce

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I found this at the perfect time!

My husband and I are separated and have done individual counseling and couples counseling. All of these things brought us to understand that we cannot make it work. This book helped me to confirm all the feelings I’ve had over the past 7 years of our marriage. The decision comes down to the only two people in the relationship. Only the two of you know the depth and details of the issues. This book gave me comfort in the decision to get divorced. I know we will both be happier once the papers are filed and we can move on to our separate lives. Sometimes marrying your best friend doesn’t result in life long happiness. I highly recommend anyone considering marriage go to pre-marital counseling and talk about your childhoods, what you expect from your future partner, what you are willing to give to your relationship and what your future goals are. Be honest. It’s better to know all these things before you ever say “I do”.

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he wants it, I don't. married at 19, "D" af 14yrs

Though I'm not the asking party in my divorce... this book did bring to light, how much I have blind to, thee entire time I've been married.
(currently still in the divorce process and proceedings).

He claimed unhappiness, and I had given him my world, universe, and beyond... for 14yrs.
He was literally my "everything"!

Without telling my whole life's "sob story" of now realizing that I was "young and dumb"... (although I loved him, [ and will always love the memories, in which I choose to remember, categorized as either: positive or "self-building"], I know he will always be loved in my heart; even with the good, bad, and the ugly.... I have no regrets, just what I like to consider to be "better knowledge of me" now.

THANK YOU, Abby Rodman.
I now have a different perspective of my divorce... I can (and will) survive this!!

-A. Jennings

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outstanding

Thoughtfully and poignantly written. As a psychotherapist myself, I admire the author's ability to present, sometimes painful, information in an appropriately humorous fashion. I particularly enjoyed her inclusion of other people's comments in her own work. I am a 25 year marriage veteran, who was feeling stuck and blind-sided after being served with Divorce Papers, and this book helped , largely by giving me some " one session therapy" (read : a slap in the face, but in the good way) .This book is a must read for any woman (or man) facing a " Gray divorce " .

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Very real and applicable book for any lady

Very real and applicable book for any lady going through midlife separation. It provides research and relevant stories.

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Very helpful in a difficult time.

Divorce is devastating. I started listening to this book the day after a huge blow up with my husband. I found it to be straightforward, brutally honest, yet comforting. I feel much less alone, defeated and shameful. But divorce still really sucks.

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A good guide

As I begin to navigate the waters of divorce this book was helpful. Abby helped validate my thoughts and feelings and identified some additional steps to consider as I move through this journey.

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Wonderful!

I loved hearing other peoples experiences, successes, and feelings going through their troubled times. This book is encouraging and a great help in guiding a person in making such a life changing decision. Thank you!

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  • wygem
  • 05-02-18

A really helpful and insightful book

I've enjoyed listening to this book which provides clear information on many aspects of separation and divorce. There were some real light bulb moments which confirmed to me that the decision I made was the right one. I feel empowered to live my life and although I'm not ready for a new relationship, I know I am getting stronger every day and that day will come. I would certainly recommend this book if you are considering separation or in the process of divorce.

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  • Sanj
  • 12-31-18

fantastic...inspirational

this book has helped me to realise I am not alone. it's given me the strength to get up and keep going through this difficult divorce and stay sane. Thank you. xx