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If you have a difficult relationship with your mother, this audiobook might well hold the key as to why. If you feel torn, upset, or confused after contact with your mother, then you deserve to have the answers. And maybe that answer is that your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Find out if she does or not, and what it means for you in the rest of your life.

©2012 Darton Longman and Todd (P)2017 Danu Morrigan

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This book changed my life

I'm finally validated in my thoughts and feelings for years I was told I was selfish, self centered and vapid. For example, I was running errands for my mother on my wedding day! Any normal person would see this as wrong and unconscionable but to her, she was spending all this money on me, it's the least I could do... just reading this book is like going through 10 years of therapy! Highly recommend!!

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Spot on and very helpful for victims.

I generally like this book but the extensive and multiple chapters on EMP a technique that I’m not really sure about might’ve been a bit much. One maybe two examples would have been plenty but 4-5 chapters on just that one modality was too much. Everything else was spot on and so nice to get validation on some shared experiences of other victims.

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Heartbreaking but true

I felt like.the author was describing events taken directly from my childhood. If you are the daughter of a narcissistic mother, this book brings a new perspective to your entire life. It gives you the reasons why, and how to deal with her now that you are an adult. I am
still processing the information. Thank you Danu.

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Really helpful.

I have recently discovered that my mother has narcissistic personality disorder. I am trying to figure out how to deal with it. This book has given me confidence. I love the analogy of the flying monkeys! Fits my dad perfectly. Thanks for these insights.

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Blew my mind!

A MUST READ! This book has changed my life... it explains so much. My only wish is that I had learned this information sooner... the heartaches that could have been prevented.

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Amazing book on narcissistic mothers and the damage they do!

This is such an amazing book on the subject of narcissistic mothers, it should be required reading. Danu Morrigan does a wonderful job as both author and narrator: it feels like sitting across from a friend who truly gets what you're going through and what you've been through. Her EFT scripts are FANTASTIC - and I say this as someone who has been practicing EFT for nearly 20 years.

For anyone who has survived a narcissistic mother, this book should absolutely be one to read and read again (or listen to over and over, for the audiobook). I also have the Kindle version so I could highlight especially notable parts, of which there are many.

Even if you've heard or read other books on the subject, get this one as well! It's truly wonderful and helpful more than words can say.

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Gave a voice to my life story!

This book articulates something I have never been able to explain to others who never dealt with a narcissistic mother. The author describes characteristics that I had to ignore my entire life. It took me forty years to validate myself and cut myself loose from a toxic mother. Thank you for your insight and personal experience.

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It has a lot of great information!

It has a lot of great information, however it is a little repetitive at times.

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I FEEL FREE!!! MUST READ!!! THANK YOU!!!

This is one of the best books I've ever read!!! I finally feel like I'm understood and that I'm not too emotional!!! I plan to buy a hard back copy as well to help me with the homework portion!!!

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IF you are a daughter[err, survivor] of a narcissistic mother.... THIS BOOK IS A MUST HAVE!!!.... The book was of course absolutely great in every possible way..... If you are a D.O.N.M. (Daughter Of a Narcissistic Mother); as Ms./Mrs. Morrigan, (thankfully), simplifies into an acronym. For us fellow Daughters[survivors] Of Narcissistic Mothers.... I have found there is healing when we share our stories. I don't give a flippin flippity flip-flop dippity-tha-tha-doo-doo-doo all the flippin floppity flim flam all the dippity-doo day long... If you think I'm corny when I say I believe from my own experience and shared experience of others, there is such POWERFUL HEALING when we come together listen and share because we do form our own pack, tribe, sisterhood that no one else can fully understand. There's so much value in that. you will find that here. links to other resources. website all kinds of extra stuff.

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  • Lauren
  • 10-05-20

Life changer for myself.

This book was written by someone with their experience and knowledge and although ours were different, they were exactly the same. Everything I needed to feel heard was in this book and it was only myself listening. I can’t tell you how this has opened me up. My mother started her abuse of me at a very young age and I have learnt through this all the aspects I still blessed myself for.

I threw my mobile down at least three times out of frustration. As I thought something Danu would answer it!
I am programmed to make everything my fault. This threw that out of the window.

Thank you

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  • Debbie Carnan
  • 10-31-18

Wow!

I’m so grateful to the author for this book. My life makes sense now. I’m looking forward to putting the scripts into practice. This book is a game changer!

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  • MATT
  • 11-27-20

Fantastic, very helpful.

This book has proved to be nothing short of a life saver. Although the book is based on mother and daughter, being the son of a narcissistic mother it still tansfers well. Because of the experiences the author describes in detail being so close to what I have experienced, I have had to listen (audible version) over three months. The realisation is painful in my own experience and found it difficult to process over a short period. It has been immensely helpful. From my experience the realisation of years of pondering and self blame have been difficult and harmful. This book and the experience portrayed by the author have helped me so much and made me realise it isnt me that is broken. Also that I am not alone.Thank you so much. One word of advice the exercises towards the end of the book may help you at an early stage. So perhaps listen to the author at the beginning and the flick to the exercises at the back section. Thank you so much. I will be listening/reading again.

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  • Tita B.
  • 02-05-22

Empowering

I have been under therapy for over five years and I had already gotten to the conclusion that my mother is a narcissist, borderline type. But this book helped me set myself free in a way of understanding her better. Thank you so much!

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  • 2007kaja
  • 10-01-21

You’re Not Crazy

This book is the best I have ever come across about narcissistic mothers and their effect on your life. I have read about 7 of them. Danu knows what it was like. She articulates the fears, the issues and the sheer awfulness of having a narcissistic mother.
I was extremely cynical of the Emotional Freedom Technique but not only does it work but her phrases and descriptions of how it is are spot on and extremely effective. For example the one where “I am giving myself self-care with ease” has turned my life around.
She describes a narcissistic mother perfectly and some of her descriptions actually made me laugh out loud. I think she must have actually met my mother she is so accurate!
I cannot recommend this book highly enough if your childhood and the rest of your life was blighted by a selfish and narcissistic mother.

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  • Hanna Georgina
  • 07-20-21

This book is my mother to a T...

My friend recommended this book to me as I've struggled my whole life to deal with my mother's behaviour. This book comfirmed stuff I did already know but it was a good thing to reconfirm. I now need to understand why on lookers when I was a child did nothing to stop it or help me. My family haven't spoken to me for years because of my mums lies which hurt very much so. This is something I need to deal with as well. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone. I hope one day before I die I can find inner peace from the pain she has and caused me.

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  • Lizzie
  • 04-04-21

Very helpful

Easy to listern to. very helpful, has given me confidence to grow and move on.

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  • Szupilami
  • 03-10-21

Incredible eye-opener book!

Listening the book was a constant epiphany in every minutes. It is incredible how the author put into words all my feelings, observations, memories like she was there with me and my mum in my whole life.
Also the book is very insightful and easy to read.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-25-19

great audiable book

after having a mother and a stepmother both what i believed to be narcissists this book gave me light to my heartfelt feelings, i now have a clearer understanding of a healing path i can move towards
thankyou

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  • C&J.A18
  • 10-13-18

Got more out of the first half

I have listened to many books on this topic. This one has been my favourite so far. Only negative is the EFT program in the second half, I struggled to get through those sections as I don't feel that they will work for me. Otherwise first half of book was very helpful.

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  • Leis
  • 06-19-22

Love this book!

This is a warm, entertaining but informative look at narcissistic mothers and their impact on their children. The author gives simple, practical tips for maintaining healthy boundaries and refreshingly, doesn’t encourage the child of the narcissistic mother to forgive or understand them. I recommend this to so many people!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-19-21

A liberating life changing release- thank you!

Truly liberating! This straight talking, no punches pulled, awakening of a direct and simple explanation bundled with caring compassion, will truly have you shouting “OMG! That’s me, that’s my life! That’s my mother! A saviour of a book. I’m so very, very grateful for Danu and her clear, concise and accurate insight. You will never know how grateful I am that I found this book and you.
You’re not broken... it’s your mother! You’re not crazy it’s your mother!

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  • susan wee
  • 01-19-20

So accurate.

It felt like it had been written for me. So validating to hear someone else say what you have known for years but struggled to fully accept.